90 Days Later - Your Guide to Alcohol Freedom

Why are you able to change some habits more easily than others? Why is it so hard to drink less, even when you’ve decided this is what you want?  In today’s episode, I explore the importance of reward on the creation and maintenance of habits, explain what a compelling reason looks like and explain the simplest way to change the drinking habit that you no longer want. January is a very busy month...

If you are fed up of drinking too much over the festive season, then you are going to want to listen to today’s episode. I’m giving you 6 tips for drinking less. These are all actionable. They’re doable. And above all else they’re simple. Because the last thing you need over the festive season is some complicated process that gets in the way of fun. So grab a pen and paper and let’s get started. ...

If you find it hard to stop drinking once you start, if you fear the ‘slippery slope’ then I want you to drop what you’re doing and listen to this episode right now. Today I look at the slippery slope and show why it is not a foregone conclusion that things will end poorly once you’re on it. I explore the three phases of the slippery slope and give you strategies to address each of them so you can...

If you absolutely, definitely, for sure want to change your relationship with alcohol one day … … but not just yet … … because you need to wait for the right time … … then you need to listen to this episode forthwith. Today I share the four main reasons why you think it’s not the right time to act, as well as a fifth that’s really running the show.  I also give you a way to go from feeling stuck t...

“I just want to drink like a normal person.” If this sounds like you, if you’ve been trying and failing to ‘drink normally’ for years, don’t worry. I’ve got you. In this episode, I explore what ‘normal’ is, why it isn’t all that it’s cracked up to be and what I recommend you aim for instead. TIME-SENSITIVE NOTE: I have a compelling Black Friday offer running right now. If you resonate with my appr...

Today you’re going to hear from my client Emma and her journey to transforming her relationship with alcohol.  You’ll hear her talk about how her life has changed. How she has gone from alcohol playing a big part of her life to not really thinking about it at all. You’ll hear about her renewed sense of control over her life. About the absence of negative thoughts that kept her drinking for so many...

Today I’m discussing obstacles. Things that get in the way of you achieving your goals. You know what I’m talking about: Your husband wanting to split a bottle of wine.  The drinking games your friends insist on playing.  The fear that you’ll have a dreary time without wine. In this episode, I explain why none of this is a problem, why your obstacles are to be welcomed and the three questions you...

Today we’re talking about the broader impact of being able to decide ahead of time how much you’re going to drink and drink just that. About how this impacts your life as a whole. In this episode, I explain how the process to change your relationship with alcohol will open up the possibility of a new life that today only exists in your imagination.  I’ll show you how to move towards possibility an...

In this 100th episode I want to cover one of my fave topics: why life with less (or no) alcohol is more fun than you think. If you’re evaluating your relationship with alcohol for all the ‘right’ reasons (health, family, painful hangovers) but still feel a bit ‘meh’ then you are going to want to tune in today. In this episode, I explain why you might not believe me that drinking less is more fun,...

Today I’m joined by Mary Reid, Executive Director of Moderation Management to talk moderation, abstinence and the different kinds of help available to those who struggle with alcohol. I can help you moderate or give up drinking for good.  You know what you want for your life. I know how to help you get it.  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Book a free call with me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  and let’s get to work:  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tidycal.com/90days...

“I feel so conflicted - I want the wine but I don’t want the wine. What is wrong with me?” I hear this A LOT. As we lay down the desired behaviour of the new habit, the brain holds onto the existing habit for just a bit longer. Our brains are designed to efficiently process repeat actions. So it’s going to take time to change behaviour. But it can feel scary to have competing desires. To decide to...

Can you imagine celebrating a wedding without champagne? Christmas without mulled wine? A summer BBQ without a glass of chilled rosé? If you answer a big fat no to these, then you must not miss the latest episode of the 90 Days Later podcast . Because this week I talk about using alcohol to augment the experience. I show why we feel the need to drink at these celebratory occasions, why we fear not...

Today I’m talking about unexpected events. Like when you plan to not drink and an old friend drops round with a bottle of wine. When you’ve decided to have one beer at the pub but your friend wants to ‘talk’ - which you know means ‘drink’. In this episode, I explain why we find these situations so challenging, why that’s perfectly OK and I give a foolproof approach to take instead. So if unexpecte...

With October just around the corner, many people are gearing up for Sober October. Which often translates as: cut out alcohol for 31 days straight. Whatever. It. Takes. I never had much success with Sober October mainly because I wasn’t able to translate any short-term success to long-term achievement. I found this incredibly frustrating. So it is my great pleasure to share a different way to ‘do’...

Today I share a powerful technique you can use to define who you want to be around alcohol.  This not only helps you take action, but will give you a new perspective when you’re caught in the cravings, when you want that drink in the moment.  The best bit? It’s simple. So if you find yourself worried about how much time you’ve wasted and asking if you’ll ever learn, tune in now. And if you’re ‘all...

“One more won’t hurt” is an innocuous-sounding phrase that keeps so many people stuck drinking. It’s easy to understand why. It’s just one. What difference will that make? In this episode, I explain why it does matter - a lot. And how this actually has nothing to do with the alcohol you want to consume.  If you find your resolve collapsing whenever you think one more won’t hurt, then this episode...

“Why aren’t you drinking?” is a question that can stop you in your tracks. It’s hard enough to change your relationship with alcohol without other people being so challenging and triggering. That’s how I used to think about it. But on today’s episode I’ll give you the question that you want to be asking instead and will also share a 3 step process that is guaranteed to have you taking action in li...

What’s your story around alcohol? Do you even know? Today I explore the importance of understanding your current relationship with alcohol and explain how this can serve as a springboard to a different life, perhaps a life you can’t yet even imagine is possible. Get started right away. Let's talk. I can help you moderate or give up drinking for good.  You know what you want for your life. I kn...

Today you’re going to be hearing from one of my clients Adrian and his journey to transforming his relationship with alcohol. You’ll hear him talk about how his life has changed in many ways. How he has gone from feeling very worried about his future, to feeling whole, happy, and optimistic.  Above all Adrian talks about the level of resilience he now feels about himself and his life and how he cr...

Leave your past behind and step into a transformed relationship with alcohol right now. Today I explore how we’re each responsible for how much our past impacts our future results.  And whether you’ve experienced a lot of success or your past is littered with fails, I’ll show how none of that matters when it comes to taking action towards your goals. The quickest way of leaving your past relations...

Worried about your health when it comes to drinking? “I just want to be healthy,” is something I hear a lot. Followed by an overwhelming sense of anxiety about the physical damage from years of alcohol consumption. Plus the worry that it’s too late to make any difference. If this sounds like you, then do not miss this episode.  Today I explain why concern for our physical health is seldom a compel...

Many, many people tell me that when they first start wanting to change their relationship with alcohol they feel very alone. Perhaps because they believe they’re the only ones who struggle with alcohol in their friendship circle, perhaps because in asking for help they fear they’ll get pushed to AA (which they know isn’t right for them) or perhaps because they’re worried no-one will understand and...

Disappointment - when I ask people how they feel when things don’t go to plan, that’s what they tell me.  Disappointment in themselves. Disappointment that they couldn’t learn. Disappointment that they couldn’t do this on their own. In this episode, I explain why it’s natural to feel disappointed, why it doesn’t have to be a problem and how you can keep moving forward towards your future goals how...

“I should be further along by now.” These seven words kept me stuck for years.  I thought I was motivating myself, so why did I end up feeling confused and helpless?  In today’s episode, I explain what’s really going on when you think you should be further along by now, what’s driving this sense of impatience and how to motivate yourself to keep taking massive action. If you are listening because...

Taking responsibility for yourself is a beautiful thing. It’s empowering. It’s the first step to backing yourself and seeing what you’re really capable of. But so often we confuse where responsibility comes from. And we give ours away. Then wonder why we feel helpless and lost and then drink to handle the discomfort. In today’s episode, I show how responsibility works, teach you some simple steps...