40 Plus: Gay Men. Gay Talk.

Are you out? Really out? Let's rephrase that question. Are you out in your work life, and really out in a way that represents you, the whole you that you want to bring to work? If not, why not? As a guy in your 40+ life you have lot to bring to the table, and we're not just talking about your work experience. You bring your life experience of coming out of the closet - resilience, determination, g...

Break ups are inevitable. Don't believe it ? Watch any episode or Queer as Folk, The "L"Word, or Pose and the truth will show you it's real. Of course, what would be a smashing break up without the almighty "pining and swooning after your Ex?" Right? Well stop that crap and get over them already. Here's a handful of magic, and I'm not talking about what's in some man's crotch, to help you get over...

About Steve Mike mi-KAL-o-wits is the author of Profit First, Clockwork, Surge, The Pumpkin Plan, and his newest release Fix This Next. By his 35th birthday, Mike had founded and sold two companies - one to private equity and another to a Fortune 500. Today he is running his third multi-million dollar venture, Profit First Professionals. Mike is a former small business columnist for The Wall Stree...

"Don't you be looking at my man!" Sigh. Guys we don't own the market on men looking at our men. Unless you reign that jealousy and insecurity in, you are going to be one messed up gay guy. Today we explore ways to manage your jealousy and insecurity in every aspect of your life. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yours...

Gay men can't commit. Really? Maybe some can't but most can and will if given the chance. The truth is most have to give themselves the chance to commit and they don't. In this episode we take a deep look at the commitment struggle gay men have in their relationships and in life. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling your...

Whether you're 40+ or 2o something, or sliding into your golden years, someone is going to throw you some shade by telling you, "This is how you do gay!" To that I say, "Sashay away and tell them to stuff it!" If you are stuck in a closet of doing gay because someone told you this is the way to do it, then grow some balls and own your truth and be gay your way. Here's some tips on just how to do t...

Open relationships. They seem to be the hot button trigger in gay men's circles. You're either all for them, completely against them, or not being honest...with yourself and your partner about how you truly feel about them. Rather than become all Judge Judy about an open relationship, why don't you at least open up your mind and conside what's right about an open relationship, even if it's not for...

One of the things gay men struggle with the most is CONFIDENCE, with a capital "C." Whether it's our looks, career, finances, or the size of our penis, everything comes (no pun intended) under the confidence gun. Here's some simple tips for having the confidence of a porn star to go make your life orgasmic! Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the...

This guy said "Fatherhood is for me, no matter what, even if I am gay!" He was so determined to be a Dad, her wrote a book by the same name. Speaking candidly with passion about fatherhood and being Gay, Steve Disselhorst takes on a journey of love and Fatherhood in his 40 Plus life. About Steve Steve Disselhorst specializes in personal & professional leadership development and consulting for...

  Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus Men's Circle. Learn about about - Click Here! Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies P.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - ri...

  Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus Men's Circle. Learn about about - Click Here! Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies P.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right...

It's inevitable. Wait that's not true. It likely - that sounds better - that at some point in your gay relationships the bedroom will die. No not the bed, but the SEX. It happens, and rather than avoid it like a nasty STD, step into the mess before it gets messy and out of control. Here's some straight-forward, knock some sense into you advice for what to do when grim reaper of your sex life enter...

Happy New Year Guys! So excited to launch the new version of 40 Plus: Real Men. Real Talk, with the slight, fabulous twist to 40Plus: Gay Men. Gay Talk. With a quick costume change here we are, stepping into 2021 with more than just a few tips (because the tip is never enough) to make sure you drive a little deeper into happiness and success in 2021 and beyond. Enjoy, be safe, and go start hooking...

Merry Christmas guys. As you celebrate, however you celebrate this year, I want to invite you to consider this one gift. One that is important, and just might make next holiday season even more merry. Happy holidays. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time...

We all get in ruts in our lives. 2020 has only made that worse in so many ways. And ruts, suck. Here's a few simple steps for getting unstuck and out of your rut so you can kick ass in life. And the last one just might have something to do with your Daddy issues. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others y...

At the heart of every guy there is a man who want's to be his own man, his way. A guy who wants to be seen, heard, and understood...on his terms. And, almost every man struggles with finding his masculine identity that fits him and his soul. So just how do you find that inner man, that strength, and that energy to be who you are, regardless of what others think of you. Chris Failla joins me for a...

We're celebrating the 100th Episode with the 10 things I've learned to make me a better man as a guy over 40. What could those 10 things be? Listen and learn and thanks for being my listeners and helping me achieve this milestone event. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but neve...

Regardless of the fact that some men can't accept defeat and loss (Donald Trump for example) the truth is most of us as men hate to admit we've lost and accept defeat. Why is that? Mostly because we haven't learned the art of humility. Today we explore that art and how to be more humble and less ego driven. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the...

"I'm to old for that!" Really, then you must not have any adventure left in your life and your soul. How about instead, you said, "I'm never to old for that!" That attitude and outlook will make you stay as young as you choose to be, because it is all your mental outlook as to what you can and can't do, regardless of what age you are. Just ask musician and former adult film star, Colton Ford. “Fig...

You'd have to be hiding with your head in the sand to not hear all the crappy politics going on right now. And this podcast isn't about politics, until today. When a photo surfaced about Joe Biden affectionately sharing an intimate Father/Son moment surfaced on the internet causing some to cry "Creepy, Gross, Incest," I felt it was necessary to say, "Get over it and man up!" Men can show other men...

How often do you find yourself wishing you were better? Better at your job, better at your relationships, better at taking care of yourself, just simply better, better, better. It's a daily occurrence for me. Yet, I've also learned that the pursuit of better doesn't have to be drudgery, especially when it comes to taking better care of myself. My friend Michelle Zellner, founder of Better Beings,...

Not all divorces, job layoffs, or health scares require walking away in disgust from something that we love. In fact, really healthy situations lead us towards honoring the love for something or someone and graciously letting to go to make space for the thing that we love more. Today we explore how to do that without being assholes in our lives. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who kee...

Life sucks right now in so many ways, but are you really going to let it keep you stuck? In a rut? Causing you to give up? Maybe what you should do is ask your younger self to take the lead for awhile. Today we explore the possibilities that exist, even in pandemics, political strife, global warming, that can be changed just by inviting our younger self into the arena to help us do battle. Hey Guy...