40 Plus: Gay Men. Gay Talk.

What motivates gay men? Do all gay men only want sex? What if an open relationship can work? Can I be spiritual or religious as a gay man? Questions, questions, questions. It seems we as gay men are constantly questioning ourselves. To help me answer some of these questions is Brian Madigan of Gay Guru Coach. Join us as we laugh, go deep, and try to dissect the truth of what so many gay men strugg...

Gaslighting. Blaming. Pulling wicked "not me, that's you" bullshit on ourselves and from others. It's called being a Narcissist. If you've ever lived with one you know what I mean. And, if you've ever been one to yourself, you know what I mean. But it's time to slay that narcissistic dragon and move on to a better place in your life. C'mon boys/men, let's to do this - slay that narcissist once and...

As RuPaul sez, "If you can't love yourself, how the hell you going to love someone else?" But what many of us as gay men don't realize is when we love ourselves, all is well, all is coming, all is delicious. Our guest today, Jerome Braggs, guides, teaches, and illuminates ways for us as gay men to step into the powerful space of loving ourselves fully. About Jerome In 2004, Jerome checked into the...

As the queen of soul sez: R-E-S-P-E-C-T. It is time to respect yourself and if you don't then that is on you, and only you. Because self-respect is where confidence grows. And as another queen sez (RuPaul) - If you can't respect yourself, how the hell you going to respect someone else. Ok I took some liberties with that one, but you know RuPaul would agree with those sentiments too. Now listen and...

Like it or not, all of us gay men are aging. It's a conveyor belt and there is nothing we can do about it. Nor should we feel pressure to do something about it. Yet, some gay men do choose cosmetic surgery and skin care regimes to make themselves feel comfortable in their aging bodies. Then others do what they do to ensure they take the best care of their bodies in a way that suits them. Rather th...

Roles, roles, roles. Everyone wants us to play some role so that it makes it easier to relate to them. We all do it, and don't say you don't. Yet, as gay men, we feel like we have to fit into some constrained role to make our gay lives work...or do we. We're rolling out the roles and saying now more as we explore the sexual roles we play as gay men! Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay Talk Chats Th...

Valentine's Day is just a few days away. So let's start crying the blues about what sucks about being a gay man and no one to love. Nah. Let's not do that. Let's talk about the challenges of not having someone to love but what we can do to be more in love with our lives and ourselves this Valentines Day. Joining me is fellow coach and gay dad, Steve Disselhorst as we dish it about love, careers, a...

How do you as a gay man, conquer the confidence conundrum? we say the last part of that question 3 times really fast, and if you can say that, you've got confidence! Just kidding. But, gaining/finding confidence as a gay man, is about as close as grabbing your middle leg and stroking it to life. Yes, it is that easy to find your confidence if you are willing to do a little bit of work. Listen and...

The clothes are coming off. Your heart's racing and an appendage is growing, and you can't wait to touch him and have him touch you. Then your head - the one above your shoulders starts creating a story that - you're no good, you're no good, you're no good - buddy you're no good at this SEX thing. Get over it. You're good you just need to figure it out and own it! Let's go have some fun exploring...

The biggest question I get asked, by guys coming out of the closet, is not how do you take a big penis, it's how do you do gay? Ok, maybe the penis question comes up to, but today we're exploring how you do gay, whether you've been out since you were a teen or just coming out after 30, 40, 50, 60, 70 years old, or older. Let's go explore how you do gay! Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay Talk Chat...

OMG. My penis no longer works, and my prostate no longer feels pleasure. My life is over! That may be the way it seems, but does having and living with prostate cancer mean, your life is over as a gay man? No! Just ask today's guest, Kenneth A. Johnson. He's living his life to its fullest, owning his challenges with his prostate and sex life, and thriving beyond what would cause most gay men to sa...

It's the beginning of the year, and what do you want to do with this year? I don't know! What do you want from this year? I don't know! What would make you feel fulfilled this year? I don't know! Fine, then sit on your little victim, wandering in the desert of your lost life, and just keep saying, "I don't know!" Or, break the "I don't know" syndrome and get shit done this year. Take a listen and...

Do not set a New Year's Resolution. Do not head out to that party dreading the start of another year. Do not do anything that you do not plan to do without a solid INTENTION. That's my advice for this coming year, and every year. And, here's how you do a new year filled with intentions! That is if you want to up your game and your life as a gay guy in 2022! Download The Manifesto Click Here Hey Gu...

You're running yourself ragged, trying to get all the right gifts for everyone. But, what have you done for you? What gift are you going to give yourself? And don't go saying, "That's so selfish!" There's nothing selfish about giving yourself a gift this holiday season, and here's a few gifts you should consider. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You kn...

Religious trauma. Seems to be the norm for a majority of LGBTQ people that you encoutner. "You're damned to hell!" or "You're a sinner!" Of course most those people hurling those words for get that they're divorced (a sin), have committed adultery (a sin), have eaten pig (a sin), worn woven fabrics (a sin), but all of that is forgivable, but you just can't be a man and lay with another man, or a w...

What if there were no Grindr, Scruff, Adam4Adam? What would you do? Get out and meet guys? Resort to hooking up in the back of bars or restrooms? Or Isolating? Regardless of what you use the in-your-hand apps for, your world may just come to an end...or would it? That's what we're exploring today on the 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk podcast. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps strugglin...

From a young age, the fear of God caused him to tremble in his boots about his secret. Then, in his 40's he could no longer live within that secret, and he realized he had to be who he was, a gay man. Then he made national headlines by taking a stand as a gay educator, fighting for the right to teach in his classroom, when parents saw him as a threat to their children. All because people judged wh...

We're coming into the home stretch of the year and it's - HOLIDAY TIME! Don't freak out, don't put pressure on yourself, and please don't try to please everyone. OK, EASIER SAID THAN DONE. However, you can have a peaceful holiday season in your gay life by following a few of these tips, without being or needing a douche! Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing...

You want a man, and you want him to be perfect. Really? Maybe you should be looking in the mirror. For every expectation you put on your man you better be ready to put it on yourself. It's time to stop killing your relationship with expectations that probably are extreme or out of reach. Take a listen and learn how. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You...

As a gay man do you find yourself constantly looking for answers, and then getting frustrated because they aren’t right there in front of you? What if they are but you just simply haven’t dug deep within yourself enough to find them? Take a little journey with fellow Life Coach - Ed Wilson - as we explore what might happen if the dig deeper pursuit was as important as the get laid pursuit! About E...

There isn't a gay man alive who hasn't hated on himself or another gay man. Sometimes, we do it subconsciously and don't even realize what an ass we're being. It's ok, society groomed us this way. So let's break that internalized homophobia and start loving ourselves and each other just as we are as gay men. Here's a few ideas to make it easier. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps st...

We're all perfectly imperfect. But for gay men, perfection seems to be a futile pursuit - perfect abs, ass, chest, smile, bank account, material things...the list goes on. But when it comes to our bodies and our body image, we can be evil bitches to ourselves with a capital "B." It's time to start loving on ourselves in a way that says, "Small dicks and flabby abs, you are loved!" Helping to chang...

Sex, laughter, sex, love, sex, money. That's all it takes to make a healthy gay relationship work. If you believe that I've got a bottle of Clorox for you to fight COVID too. Truth is, it takes a lot of patience, understanding, and sex to make your gay relationship work. Here's a few tips on thriving in your gay relationship. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that...

LGBTQ people are 9-10 times more likely to addicted to sex, drugs, alcohol or food. Why? For many reasons, but the most obvious reason is we've been shamed into submission for not being good enough. It's time for that shame to end and to demystify the pathway to treatment and recovery from whatever your addiction may be. Gregory Silva, Director of Operations at Living Longer Recovery, helps us as...

This man-to-man connecting, dating, mating, and relating, is so damn hard. Or is it? It can be if the effort isn't there, but it does take effort in all the right places. It may even take work, but when you invest in the relating and connecting the dividends can pay off for you in your gay relationships - friendships, hookups, or a serious long-term relationship. Here's how to look at relating in...