XO Conversations

I’ve stood, maybe like you, looking in the mirror, picking apart every flaw, every inch that society told me wasn’t good enough. But what if we saw in ourselves more than a waistline, more than our wrinkles, more than our scars?   In this episode we talk about how we see our bodies, and by extension, ourselves. And more importantly, how we can shift that perspective to a more positive, empowering...

Have you ever been told to 'think logically' and 'ignore your feelings' when making a big decision? What if there's more to it? People have emotions and ignoring them isn't realistic or beneficial. In today's episode, we're uncovering the powerful role emotions play in shaping our choices and our lives. If you've ever felt torn between your heart and your head, this episode is for you.  Highlights...

Do you ever find yourself doing things you don't really want to do? Maybe it's the subtle pressure to fit in, the fear of disappointing others, or the allure of a path that isn't truly yours.  Today we explore how to make decisions that feel more authentic and true to ourselves. Discover how to identify and prioritize your values, even when societal norms or family expectations pull you in differe...

If you're seeking to live fully without burnout, this podcast is for you. Join us as we explore strategies for navigating complex decisions and finding clarity in the chaos of life. Episode Overview: In this episode, we meet Larissa, who is grappling with a major career decision. Larissa's journey highlights the complexities involved in decision-making, from untangling emotions to managing uncerta...

Ever find yourself second-guessing every decision you make, replaying past choices like a broken record, wondering if you'll ever get it right? You're not alone. In this episode of XO Conversations Podcast, Dr. Rishma Walji peels back the layers of self-doubt and dives into the heart of why trusting ourselves can feel like navigating a maze blindfolded. But fear not, because Dr. Walji doesn't just...

It's one thing to want to learn and grow and reach your goals. It's another thing to push through - harder and harder - until things start to fall apart.  But it's not always easy to know where that line is.   Ambition  is important. It keeps us focused and helps us work hard.  But if you're feeling like you keep racing towards a finish line that keeps moving further and further away, or like you'...

This episode takes you on an unexpected journey that began at a seemingly ordinary book club dinner and led to an extraordinary insight into life's purpose. What You'll Discover: A Reunion That Reignites: After months of virtual connections, a simple dinner with friends unfolds into a night of profound revelations. Why this night was unlike any other, and how it changed our host's perspective on l...

We've all been there, at the edge of a life-changing decision - maybe it’s moving across the world for love, changing careers, or even starting a family.   These choices can be exciting, they can be for people we love, they can be for something wonderful.  But they're also choices that bring change, and loss of an old life, a previous identity, something familiar.  This episode is about embracing...

Ever feel like your gratitude practice is just another thing on your never-ending to-do list? You're not alone. This week, your host, Dr. Rishma Walji, discusses the not-so-perfect journey of finding true gratitude amidst life's messes. This episode isn't about the picture-perfect moments of thankfulness we see plastered on social media. It's about the gritty, real-life stuff. It's about turning "...

Whether you're a parent stretched thin by the demands of family life, a professional struggling to find work-life balance, or anyone in between, you'll find valuable lessons and relatable stories in this episode.  We'll tackle the hard questions:  - Why is setting boundaries so hard?  - How can we do it without feeling selfish?  - And what real-world steps can we take to make a lasting change? Bon...

Have you ever had that awkward moment  when you have something on your mind, you’re pouring out your heart to someone, and they say ALL the wrong things?   In this episode, we talk about steering conversations to get the advice you really need. Discover how to frame your talks, ask the right questions, and express your emotions for better understanding.  Whether it's with family, friends, or colle...

Have you ever felt confined by a label, whether self-imposed or given by others? Do terms like 'introvert,' 'perfectionist,' or even 'successful' resonate with you, but also feel limiting at times? We dissect how these labels, while sometimes validating, can also create unnecessary boundaries that restrict our growth and potential. Discover the impact of positive labeling and how embracing new ide...

Do you often find yourself following the crowd, making decisions based on what’s expected? Have you ever wondered if there’s a more creative, intentional way to live your life? Dr. Rishma Walji, a Naturopathic Doctor (retired) and PhD, shares a compelling story from her visit to Montreal that sparked a profound realization about life’s choices. In today’s episode, Dr. Rishma discusses: The Montrea...

In this episode, I share with you a story that’s close to my heart – a story about an accidental family heirloom that's much more than just a piece of jewelry. Today is all about a special necklace that's woven through the generations of my family. A history that is interconnected with my own, and hopefully with future generations. It's a symbol of love, a bridge between past and present, and a re...

How to do hard things: going from "I Can't" to "I'm Doing It" Episode Description: Dive into this episode of the XO Conversations Podcast as Dr. Rishma Walji discusses the psychological and physical strategies behind conquering challenging endeavors. Whether it's tackling a new hobby, enhancing a skill, or mending a relationship, the techniques shared in this episode can guide you from fear and un...

Have you ever felt like the ground beneath you suddenly shifted? This isn’t about painting on a brave face; it’s about the deep work of understanding, leaning into self-love, and finding glimmers of hope even on the cloudiest days. Because sometimes, resilience is quietly whispered in the pauses between our challenges. Join us for an intimate conversation that reflects the shared journey of naviga...

Why do we sometimes make things harder for ourselves without even realizing it?  In this episode, we'll explore the ins and outs of why we sometimes make choices that make life harder and why we self-sabotage. We'll also talk through  how to swap negative reactions for a positive responses. We'd love to hear from you!  Share your experiences with self-sabotage or let me know which strategies reson...

How do I talk to my kids about gender and sexuality? This episode is for parents who want to have open conversations with their kids, but may not know how to facilitate that communication, who may have some discomfort around discussing sensitive topics, and who want more information about navigating this part of parenting.  If you want to show up for your kids in an open and intentional way, but f...

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I know how overwhelming it can be to manage the never-ending demands of life. I've been there too. From chasing dreams to navigating personal and professional responsibilities, the weight of stress can feel unescapable. That's why I'm here—to share my journey and offer guidance rooted in expertise and empathy. When I was in clinical practice, I witnessed firsthand how stress takes a toll on our ov...

In this episode, Dr. Chris Bjorndal shares her journey with mental health and how she is now helping others regain their mental health. She talks about her book "Beyond the Label," where she discusses how labels for mental health diagnoses can be stigmatizing and contribute to suffering. Dr. Bjorndal has struggled with anxiety, depression, bipolar disorder, suicide attempts, bulimia, and ADHD. She...

Misha and her husband had a marriage that seemed perfect from the outside. They were close friends and partners who had been together for years. However, there was one issue that they had been struggling with for a long time - intimacy. Every time they tried to be more intimate, Misha would experience pain, which made it difficult for them to be physically close. Misha felt embarrassed and didn't...

In this quick tip episode, I thought I’d look at the science, go through some practical examples, and give you some ideas on how to bring more creative flow into your life.  What is Creative Flow? Psychologist and researcher Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi describes the state of flow as a state of concentration or complete absorption in an activity. It’s when you’re so involved in an activity that nothing...

Have you ever wondered how to unlock your creative potential and live a more authentic life aligned with your passions? In this episode, Lauren Abøn Pedersen, a Danish-Canadian singer, songwriter, and composer, shared her journey and experiences with following her creativity and living intentionally.    In this episode, I’m talking with Lauren Abøn Pedersen. She’s a Danish-Canadian singer, songwri...

Ever have trouble managing your emotions? Today your host Dr. Rishma Walji is talking with guest Dr. Joan Rosenberg about unpleasant emotions and how to manage them.  They discuss grief, self confidence, criticism and so much more. For a free workshop on Emotional Regulation, a Free Gratitude Challenge and other resources, check out our website at livingxo.com   Engage & Connect: Want more ins...