Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer

Comedian and actress Chelsea Peretti ( Brooklyn Nine-Nine, Sing 2 ) chats with Nicole about the best places you can go to meet singles, strong pick-up lines, and how she met husband Jordan Peele through a DM.    Check out our best episodes of 2021!  Listen at teamcoco.com/dateme2021   Follow Nicole Byer:  Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer New Merc...

Drag queen Nina West ( Drag Race S11, Hairspray ) is just as tragically single as Nicole. They commiserate over the single life, talk about how Nina’s life drastically changed after Drag Race , the most annoying responses to get on dating apps, and absolute deal breakers in a relationship. Originally recorded May 25th, 2021.   Our Best of 2021 list is here! Listen to top episodes you voted for at...

Drag queen Heidi N Closet ( RuPaul's Drag Race S12 ) chats with Nicole about how her dating life changed after Drag Race, the kinky things she's introduced in the bedroom, the various names she's given all of her body parts, and lady glory holes.  Plus, they answer all of your questions about Valentine's day - the best food to eat,  their worst Valentine's day, and their dream hookup. Originally r...

Friend, actress, and comedian D’Arcy Carden ( The Good Place , Barry ) joins Nicole live for some raw, unadulterated fun! They check in on how they've been handling the pandemie, the adorable details  behind D'Arcy's 15 year relationship, microdosing on shrooms, and oh boy really so much more. We had a big teeheehee.  Originally recorded January 6th, 2021.   Today is the last day to vote for our F...

The holidays are here! As a gift, we're releasing the livestreamed episodes from behind the paywall!  On today's episode, drag queen Naomi Smalls ( RuPaul's Drag Race S8, All-Stars S4 ) joins Nicole to talk about her experience being a sheep farmer, how she navigated backlash from the Drag Race fandom, and the nicest dicks they've ever seen.  Plus, Naomi and Nicole answer your questions about the...

Comedian Joyelle Nicole Johnson lived with a dominatrix. She talks about the type of clients that would visit her apartment, and the kinky 'services' she was offered. Plus, she shares how she met her husband at a funeral, making a 'dessert room' for a wedding, and the importance of couples therapy in any relationship.    Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Let Nicole and her guest help you out...

Comedian and actor Jimmy O. Yang ( Silicon Valley, Love Hard ) joins Nicole to tell the story of how he met his girlfriend, discusses at what point does a relationship become serious, and suggests Nicole change the name of the podcast in order to better manifest a partner. Jimmy gives acting tips and shares what he would teach in his 'practical acting' course, and Nicole's excited to have started...

Comedian Aida Rodriguez was kidnapped twice as a child.  She describes her time on the run with a murderer, and how she uses her stand-up comedy to process her traumas. They also discuss dating red flags to look out for, Nicole's love for a serial killer, plus a story from a listener who dated a sock-sniffing Trump supporter.   Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Let Nicole and her guest help...

Raven-Symoné ( That's So Raven ) and wife Miranda Maday join Nicole to share the story of how they met, broke up, and got back together again. They discuss learning to love your real self as well as your persona self, organizing a micro wedding during COVID, and Raven shares her experience co-officiating a wedding with Cardi B. Miranda suggests to Nicole how she can find love at OA meetings.  This...

Friend and writer Shannon Joy Rodgers ( Jimmy Kimmel Live!, Ellen ) joins Nicole to talk about roller-blading, the costs and challenges of planning a COVID-safe wedding right now, and how she found her husband by sliding into the DMs. Plus, in a podcast first, Nicole receives a musical answer to the question " Would you date me? ".   The podcast is nominated for a People's Choice Award! Please vot...

Comedian Rob Corddry ( Childrens Hospital, Hot Tub Time Machine ) joins Nicole to discuss cannibalism, the art of taking a good profile picture, Rob gives advice on Nicole's dating app bio, and they both geek out over cars.   Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Let Nicole and her guest help you out. Submit your stories or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it a...

Friend and writer Gilli Nissim ( The Other Two , A.P Bio ) joins Nicole to discuss breaking up in the middle of the pandemic, her experience speed dating over Zoom, and traveling abroad for hookups.  Nicole wishes that she can go on Birthright.  Black Lives Matter. Click here for a list of over 100 different ways you can support racial justice. Follow Nicole Byer:  Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyer...

Comedian and writer Brittani Nichols ( A Black Lady Sketch Show ) chats with Nicole about recognizing different adult attachment styles in relationships, how her relationship sparked by a DM slide asking "Who's that zaddy?", and discusses why it's healthy to date multiple people at once. Plus, Nicole plays dead on a date. Black Lives Matter. Click here for a list of over 100 different ways you can...

Filmmaker  Carter Ray  ( The Change Up ) chats with Nicole about their experience going through a 2nd puberty while on hormones, the challenges they faced coming out while attending a Christian high school, and the difference in dating women as a lesbian vs as a trans man. Carter shares his goal to reshape the representation of trans people seen on-screen. Black Lives Matter. Click here for a list...

Does the couple that poop together, stay together? Grammy-award winning singer-songwriter Meghan Trainor and brother Ryan Trainor (co-hosts of Workin on It' ) discuss the special relationship that's bonded over pooping. Meghan confesses she had 2 toilets installed in her bathroom so her and her husband can poop together. Ryan shares how the pandemic lead him to sobriety. They also discuss dating r...

Drag queen Crystal Methyd ( RuPaul's Drag Race S12) joins Nicole to chat about their most romantic date, getting the 'sex talk' at the age of 22, and debates if you should text your date back immediately. They also discuss their journey into drag, finding their drag aesthetic, and their experience shooting Drag Race in the middle of the pandemic. Meanwhile, Nicole is worried her Netflix show is co...

Comedian Ms. Pat chats with Nicole about her time in jail for drug trafficking, shares the secrets behind her 28 years of marriage, and offers advice on how to play hard to get. Plus, Ms. Pat's not happy that Nicole's sleeping around with random audience members, so she decides to set Nicole up with a man. Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to support, see linktr.ee/nationalresou...

Full-service sex worker Alexa Eason shares about her life as an escort. She teaches Nicole about BDSM, the relationship risks involved with sex work, Instagram's censoring of fat bodies, and the dreaded "Yelp for Escorting" sites where escorts are ranked against each other. Alexa gives advice for anyone looking to get started doing sex work. Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to...

Comedian Justin Martindale joins Nicole to discuss how their 'summer of love' has been disappointingly dry for the both of them. Justin shares the time he got catfished by a cop, how he deals with chucklefuckers while touring, and the craziness behind the #FreeBritney movement. Plus, what's up with these people getting duct taped on airplanes? Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways t...

Drag queen and choreographer Laganja Estranja ( RuPaul's Drag Race S6 ) joins Nicole to discuss her truth coming out as trans, finding confidence in self-love, the thrill of sucking dick in the high school locker room, and getting off on Grindr messages. Plus, Laganja discusses the injuries she sustains stunting, and answers if she would participate in a future season of RPDR All Stars . For more...

Drag queen of Scots Lawrence Chaney (winner of RPDR UK S2) chats with Nicole about his dating live after winning Drag Race , how he got banned from Tinder for 'catfishing' as himself, and pitches to host the UK version of Nailed It!. Meanwhile, Nicole's plans for a Hot Girl Summer have gone awry. For more drag queens on WWYDM, check out our episode playlist on Spotify: bit.ly/wwydmdrag Black Lives...

Comedian and actress Maysoon Zayid was born with cerebral palsy. She chats with Nicole about some of the cruel comments she receives about her disability, the struggles comedians of color face in Hollywood, and shares her wild industry rejection stories. Maysoon also advocates why speed-dating is a cost-effective and efficient way of finding love, and helps break down the current Israeli-Palestini...

'Psychic to the stars' and best selling author Laura Day is here to teach Nicole all about intuition and how to develop it. She discusses how she realized she had intuitive powers, coaches how to be intuitive about your own love life, and how to train your pleasure receptors and send out pleasure signals to a potential mate. Black Lives Still Matter! For a list of resources and ways to support, se...

What a treat. Grammy nominated English musician Yola is here! Nicole and Yola chat about the difference in racism when dating in the UK vs the US, how crying on her motorcycle back from her mother's funeral inspired her songwriting, and how sitting on the toilet can be the best way to solve creative challenges. Check out Yola new album, Stand for Myself , out today. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates:...

Actor Harvey Guillén ( What We Do in the Shadows ) is single but not quite ready to mingle. He discusses why he guards his profession from his dating life, how he found love on Instagram, and the important need for space in any relationship. Nicole reads some wild dating app profiles. Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to support, see blacklivesmatters.carrd.co . Follow Nicole By...