what a time: getting you across campus (and beyond) one pep talk at a time

"Why didn't they tell me that before?" If that question has crossed your mind, this is a pep talk for you. Inspired by (and shared with permission) a student who had a friend lie by omission, I explain why people lie especially by withholding, share a quote from psychologist Dr. Becky Kennedy that really illuminates lying motivation, and give a suggestion around what to do if you've been lied to. ...

Your child comes home from middle/high school upset. Your kid calls you overwhelmed at college. If you're a parent, there's a good chance you've been in these situations at some point and it's painful! You know it's something your kids have to figure out on their own, but you also want to swoop in... then they seem to move on and you're still in all the stress. In this pep talk, I'm sharing what i...

Can past events be pulled into the present? Sometimes it's from undealt with feelings. In this episode, I share what the difference between "little t" trauma and "big T" trauma is, how the past shows up in the present, and where unfelt feelings pop up!  mentor membership connect with Maggie:  www.maggiedipasquale.com 1:1 mentoring parent coaching

Do you have a big goal, but aren't sure where to start? Feeling stuck in a particular area of life and don't know how to move forward? I've got your back. In this pep talk, I'm sharing a tangible way to accomplish goals that's not as hard as you think!  mentioned links  online membership for college freshmen habit tracker connect with Maggie:  www.maggiedipasquale.com 1:1 mentoring parent coaching

We are joined for today’s pep talk by international parenting coach Mary Van Geffen! After finding herself overwhelmed by her Titanium-Willed Child, Mary became a Simplicity Parenting Counselor® and Professional Co-Active Coach® to help overwhelmed moms with strong-willed or spicy children. Mary has been an epic follow on Instagram and her parent tip-a-day is always packed with so much value. I as...

It is nearly impossible to see other people's social media and not compare, but it takes on a whole new meaning for college freshmen. In this pep talk, we chat how social media has transformed the college adjustment period and the pressure around enjoying college especially at the beginning.   mentor links:  www.maggiedipasquale.com 1:1 mentoring parent coaching online membership for college fresh...

"Everyone has friends already." "I don't have anyone to hang with." There's an expectation that you get to campus and immediately click, connect, and have a group of friends. For most students, that doesn't happen!  In this pep talk, we chat the real timeline of college friendships, stress around picking sophomore year roommates, and why any part college is a great time to meet people (not just fr...

"This isn't what I thought it would be. I'm not sure I like college." These are common freshman thoughts! We hear over and over again that college is the. best. time. ever. but for most, it doesn't feel that way right off the bat. Belonging takes time! In this pep talk, we cover the expectations we have surrounding college, what the real reality of being at school is, and how to stay optimistic if...

Your college student calls you upset saying they're unhappy. You don’t know what to do and now you have a pit in your stomach. Parenting a college kid is a different ball game. In this pep talk, I share how to help your student when they say they don't like school and the shift in parenting that occurs when your goal is to raise an independent, whole hearted young adult.  mentioned links:  3 Reaso...

Making friends can be confusing and although I feel really lucky with my friendships now, it wasn’t always the case! In this episode, I share my own friendship story and the tools to create fulfilling relationships.  more mentoring:  www.maggiedipasquale.com 1:1 mentoring & parenting coaching online membership

We know what it takes to create physical wellness for ourselves, but what about the mental? If you're someone who runs anxious, stressed, or can find themselves blue, having a solid wellness foundation can be really helpful. In this pep talk, I share two things to do to create a foundation of mental wellness that can help you navigate the ups and downs of life.  mentioned links:  inner practices  ...

Do you procrastinate? If you feel stressed around all you have to do or are someone who tends to put things off, I've got a mentor tip for you. It's to create what I call an "ick list," and it's exactly what it sounds like. Find out how to make one, what to do with it, and how it can relieve stress like magic. more mentor links: www.maggiedipasquale.com 1:1 mentorship mentor membership 

Have you ever hung out with people, had a great time, only to wake up with anxiety about what you said or did? If you're someone that replays every stupid thing you did in your head, this episode is for you. I share my major tips for curing an emotional hangover and how to cut yourself slack for being human. All you need is a little mentor support! more mentoring:  re-entry anxiety is real mentor...

A lesser known side effect of the holidays is that it can really bring up stuff you've outgrown. It's something I've seen with my students for years. Whether it's coming home from school or the extra downtime winter break brings, the space between what was and what is and what's next can become more apparent. It's been very healing to normalize outgrowing friendships, things you used to like, and...

If you've been on the receiving end of a ghost and feel confused or frustrated, I got you. In this pep talk, I chat about what ghosting really is about, what most of us do when it happens, how being ghosted is actually a good thing, plus a tip to know if you someone is really into you.  mentor membership connect with Maggie:  www.maggiedipasquale.com 1:1 mentoring parent coaching  

Do you have a personal board of advisors? Just like a business has a board of directors to consult on the growth and well-being of a company, a mentor is part of creating an inner circle for your own personal success. In this episode, I chat about why everyone needs a personal cheerleader, why it shouldn't just be your parents and friends, and how mentorship is specifically important if you in hig...

Re-entry side effects as we come back into the world after the pandemic are a real thing! Would you run 5 miles without any training and expect not to be sore? No! So why are we expecting ourselves not to be impacted after a global event? If you're someone that's been feeling low energy, overthinking after social interactions, and just feeling like it's a little hard to leave your comfort zone, th...

I wanted to record an end of the school year wrap up so today I'm sharing two themes that popped up in my private practice this year more than before. We chat tiktok mental health accounts and what to keep in mind when watching. I also share my thoughts about college students on dating apps.  mentioned links:  mentor minute with megan mcdowell mentor links:  www.maggiedipasquale.com 1:1 mentoring

College is a massive life change and in today's episode I share one thing you can do before you ever get to campus to make the transition easier.  mentor links:  www.maggiedipasquale.com 1:1 mentoring

Transferring schools is a big decision and not something to take lightly! This pep talk shares what you need to know when you consider leaving the school you're at, how making a change is never the end of the world, and why understanding where you're coming from is a huge part of the process.  mentor links:  www.maggiedipasquale.com 1:1 mentoring

Feeling lonely is a completely human experience, but it can be so difficult! This topic has been floating through my private practice lately so I wanted to share with you here. Today we chat about the difference between being alone and lonely, what you're really looking for when you're lonely, and the ways we miss subtle bids for connection.  mentioned links:  ritualizing your routine: ideas for i...

There's obvious change that happens in life where you know it's coming like starting or graduating college, but then there’s not-so-obvious big changes like letting go of an old thought pattern or deciding you want something and figuring out how to go after it. We pay a lot of attention to the big changes, but I've found that most change comes from the sum of many subtle shifts. Today's pep talk i...

“I’m not good enough.” “I’m not smart enough.” “I can’t do that.” Have you ever said any of those to yourself? The stories we tell ourselves (about ourselves) are incredibly important and believe it or not for many people, a life long story you create about yourself can start during high school. In today’s pep talk, I share some common high school stories that pop up during the college process, ho...

A year ago I took a walk with my sister and vented about a friend I felt was unkind to me. I went on and on, when she looked at me and said something that changed my mind about the situation. Have you ever had someone be mean to you? Yeah, we've all been there. In today's pep talk, I share what it really means when someone is unkind to you and how this perspective can help you feel better. mentor...

Ever try to relax and then tell yourself all the things you should be doing instead? I should be studying. I should be doing my laundry. I should be out with friends. This definitely ruins relaxing and I’ve seen it spike during the pandemic when we don’t have clear boundaries between all of our activities. Today’s pep talk, I share a quick tip for get out of the “shoulds” when it comes to downtime...