Wait... Am I Toxic?

What a crazy time to be us! We're sorry for the impromptu break, but we promise we had our reasons. Lock in for an explanation for why we needed some time to ourselves. Anyway, we're very happy to announce that we're back! Thanks for rocking with us lovers <3 Follow Us: Instagram: @ waitamitoxic Twitter: @ waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @ folashade Fola's Twitter: @ fola_shade Ru...

Whether you're in a relationship or a single pringle, you'll know that getting into and maintaining romantic relationships can be difficult. This week's toxic submitter plans on settling with their current partner, in the hopes that something better eventually will come their way. Join Fola and Rukiya discuss the importance of "Loving yourz" a word to J.Cole, again x Follow Us: Instagram: @ waitam...

This week we gave our toxic submitters a break from the heat and focused on some of our own toxicities!! Follow Us: Instagram: @ waitamitoxic Twitter: @ waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @ folashade Fola's Twitter: @ fola_shade Rukiya's IG: @ rukiya_newts Artwork by @ WhyZedStudio See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy...

Supporting a loved one with depression can be difficult, but what happens when their poor mental health starts to impact your joy? This week’s toxic submitter is struggling to support her friend who is struggling with her mental health. Join Fola and Rukiya as they discuss the difficulties poor mental has on the individual and their loved ones. Follow Us: Instagram: @ waitamitoxic Twitter: @ waita...

According to this week's submitter, people of today aren't worthy of being role models to anyone. Between aunties who culturally don't seem to get it, and everyone else just being "basic" our toxic submitter fears they'll never have luck in finding people to look up to in their adult years. Do we think they're being harsh or can you relate? Follow Us: Instagram: @ waitamitoxic Twitter: @ waitamito...

This week's toxic submitter is worried her boyfriend may not be able to meet her lifestyle needs as he prepares to become an entrepreneur. Join Fola and Rukiya discuss the difficulties that may arise in a relationship when a partner decides to change their circumstances. Follow Us: Instagram: @ waitamitoxic Twitter: @ waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @ folashade Fola's Twitter: @ fola...

Should interracial dating come with so many complications!? This week's submitter is concerned that her best friend seems to think she's earned a "Black card" because of the man she's dating, and feels she is overstepping on some cultural barriers as a result. Join Rukiya & Fola to chat about the nuances to interracial dating and the difficulties that come with gatekeeping when it comes to cul...

We all know how important attraction is when dating, but are we blocking our blessings by being too shallow, or even potentially problematic? This week's toxic submitter has met a lovely guy, but is struggling to get past his high pitched voice. Join Fola and Rukiya discussion how important attraction is when dating and how as women we may be feeding into toxic masculinity. Follow Us: Instagram: @...

International Women's Day has just passed and while it'll always be an amazing prospect at to celebrate women at its core, Rukiya has realised she's always felt disconnected from the holiday. Join us to chat about why we think days like IWD can feel a little exclusive, and things we can do to better include ourselves! Follow Us: Instagram: @ waitamitoxic Twitter: @ waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitox...

Surprise, surprise women cheat too! In this week's episode Fola and Rukiya discuss the importance of honesty when being unfaithful in a relationship and whether the ex Love Islander, Marcel Somerville should forgive his wife Rebecca Vieira for cheating. Follow Us: Instagram: @ waitamitoxic Twitter: @ waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @ folashade Fola's Twitter: @ fola_shade Rukiya's IG...

This week we're joined by the award-winning Medical Doctor Dr. Jessica Katanga to talk about all of the nuances to health for Black people of our generation. We get into everything from uncle "wake the fack up" Eddie's controversial tips for healthy diet, to the history of why we can internalise self-hate when it comes to traditional African and Caribbean dishes. Follow Us: Dr Jess' Instagram: @dr...

Join Fola and Rukiya this week as they discuss all things about SEX! From practical tips (from non experts), to insecurities that may arise during sexual intercourse with your partners or f buddy. Follow Us: Instagram: @ waitamitoxic Twitter: @ waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @ folashade Fola's Twitter: @ fola_shade Rukiya's IG: @ rukiya_newts Artwork by @ WhyZedStudio See Privacy Po...

Join Fola and Rukiya discuss why busy Brits are becoming more and more lonely despite living in one of the most fast paced countries in the world! Follow Us: Instagram: @ waitamitoxic Twitter: @ waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @ folashade Fola's Twitter: @ fola_shade Rukiya's IG: @ rukiya_newts Artwork by @ WhyZedStudio See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California P...

In this week's episode Fola and Rukiya discuss the role Black women are expected to play in protecting, nurturing and uplifting others all whilst sacrificing their own safety, prospects and well-being. Follow Us: Instagram: @ waitamitoxic Twitter: @ waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @ folashade Fola's Twitter: @ fola_shade Rukiya's IG: @ rukiya_newts Artwork by @ WhyZedStudio See Priva...

This week's submitter is feeling an imbalance of love in their relationship and is convinced her boyfriend doesn't love her as much as she loves him. Is it possible for love to be equal between partners, or is it a sign that it's time to leave the relationship? Let's get into it! Follow Us: Instagram: @ waitamitoxic Twitter: @ waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @ folashade Fola's Twitte...

The tendency to compare ourselves to others is natural, but in a time where everyone's posting the glossiest versions of themselves online, it's easy to forget the reality of life... s**t happens to everyone! Join Fola and Rukiya this week open up about some personal things they've been experience whilst living a fruitful and prosperous life! Follow Us: Instagram: @ waitamitoxic Twitter: @ waitami...

This week we attempt to approach the controversial topic of big age gaps in relationships with less of the instant outrage and a little more compassion than you might expect! Our submitter is considering dating a man 15 years older than her, who is related to a family member... let's get into it- how old is too old to consider someone as a love interest? Follow Us: Instagram: @ waitamitoxic Twitte...

Maternal anxiety is expected when raising children, but should there be a cap on a parents anxiety once a child becomes a full grown adult? This week's toxic submitter is sick of her mother using anxiety as an excuse to stop her from going out and enjoying life, post dropping 4 stone and finding her sauce! Join Fola and Rukiya discuss their experiences with their mums' anxiety and what you can do...

Competing with a mother-in-law for your husband's attention doesn't just happen in the movies, it's a real life struggle for many women out there! This week's submitter is in a silent feud with her husband's mother for his love, as her mother-in-law is doing her very best to pull sly power moves to take over Christmas. Let's get into mothers who have unhealthily obsessive relationships with their...

Black women have been hypersexualised for as long as we can remember. From treating young Black girls as adults, to objectifying Black women's bodies, Black women continue to struggle to find the balance of wanting to be sexually desirable and respected. This week's toxic submitter has had a one night stand with someone from her work Christmas do and feels judged by her Black friends in comparison...

This day and age, most religions no longer fit into the world in the way they once did. This week's submitter wants to understand why despite a lot of people not understanding religion, it is generally understood as sacred and something to be respected from the outside looking in. But often Christianity ends up in the firing line of a lot of criticism and seemingly doesn't receive as much grace an...

There are a few things in life that are guaranteed, one of them being people disappointing you. Whether intentional or not, it's inevitable you'll be put in a position of having to forgive someone someday, but navigating forgiveness can be one hell of a journey! This week's toxic submitters seeks the advice of Fola and Rukiya to help forgive and old friend and her dad who she feels resentment towa...

I reckon near 100% of us can relate to not having a clue what our "purpose" is, and what career path to choose where we technically have so many options, but often still have no clue what they actually are! But why are we so hard on ourselves and unwilling to accept that finding that thing is just one of life's many inevitable and necessary journeys? Thanks to this week's submitter, we're properly...

TW: Discussions of abuse This week American singer-songwriter and model, Cassie filed a lawsuit against her former partner, Sean 'Diddy' Combs accusing him of domestic abuse and sex trafficking sending the internet into a frenzy, split by opinions on whether the allegations were true or not. This week's toxic submitter questions why Cassie has chosen to disclose her abusive relationship years late...

No matter what size or body shape you have, as a woman it's safe to say that accepting your weight has likely been an issue for you at some point, if not all of your life! This week we chat about what seems like people's assumed rights over the beautiful Jorja Smith's body that we've seen in the media recently. We speak about how people's wayward behaviour points towards colourism, and our own exp...