Up From Here

In this episode, we keep things light, fun, and surprisingly deep as we pull random questions out of a bowl and answer them in real time. What started as a simple game quickly turned into conversations that made us laugh, reflect, and learn even more about each other as best friends. From unserious takes to deeper reflections, these are genuinely the kinds of questions that bring people closer. We...

In this episode, we sit in a hard truth — what it feels like to be deeply misunderstood. We talk about a recent conversation with men that left us feeling unheard, unseen, and honestly… hopeless. Not because we expect perfection, but because it felt like there wasn't even a desire to understand where we were coming from as women. We unpack the emotional gap that can exist — how so much of women's...

In this episode, we check in on where we actually are right now — mentally, physically, and emotionally. Janai gives an update on her bodybuilding journey as she hits 26 weeks out, and how the discipline is getting very real. From quitting smoking to stay on track with her physique goals, to realizing how much it was emotionally blunting her, she opens up about what it feels like to be fully prese...

In this episode, we talk about something so many of us feel but rarely say out loud — the pressure of feeling behind. Kelsi shares her experience spending the weekend with a group of powerful female entrepreneurs while mentoring young girls around the city of Atlanta. Surrounded by women earning at the highest levels, she opens up about feeling inadequate and questioning what she had to offer… esp...

In this episode, we unpack the power of perspective and what it truly means to check your attitude in moments of conflict.   Kelsi shares a story about a tense encounter with a woman at an event that nearly escalated into a physical altercation. What initially felt like blatant disrespect later unfolded into a meaningful conversation, leading to mutual understanding and personal growth. The experi...

In this episode, we unpack the concept of "virtue" — and how differently it's assigned to girls versus boys from a young age. We talk about how little girls are often taught that their virginity is tied to their purity, their worth, and their value… while little boys are encouraged to explore, experiment, and gain experience without the same moral weight attached. We explore how those early messag...

This episode is all about vibes — because it's Kelsi's birthday 🎉 We kept things light, fun, and a little messy as we got into Kelsi's birthday icks… from fake love, to people somehow making your birthday about them, to the realization that sometimes the best way to celebrate is with a little solo time and real intention. We talk about what birthdays start to mean as you get older — less about pe...

In this episode, we unpack the unrealistic expectations placed on women — and how deeply they shape the way we see ourselves. From feeling like you can't even step outside with imperfect skin, to the pressure of looking "put together" at all times, we talk about how beauty has quietly become a performance… one that women are expected to uphold 24/7. We dive into how beauty and sexuality have been...

In this week's sexpisode, we unpack something most people were never properly taught — how to understand a woman's body. From pleasure to biology to overall vaginal health, we talk about how little education exists around what women actually need to feel good, stay clean, and maintain a healthy relationship with their bodies. We reflect on what first made us comfortable learning our own bodies, to...

In this episode, we unpack the unspoken expectations surrounding Valentine's Day — and dating in general. We talk about how hard it is to emulate something you never saw growing up. If you didn't witness romance, softness, or intentional love in your household, how are you supposed to naturally know how to give it? And on the flip side, if you grew up watching your dad be romantic and thoughtful w...

In this episode, we unpack the uncomfortable tension that can sometimes exist between women — especially when it feels unprovoked or unnecessary. We reflect on experiences where women have been mean or hostile toward us "for no reason," and what we discovered when we looked deeper. As light-skinned, conventionally attractive women who grew up with access to education and opportunity, we acknowledg...

In this episode, we unpack something that quietly shapes the way women move through the world — our cycles. We talk about how being on a monthly hormonal cycle impacts the way women show up in their careers, creatively, emotionally, and physically — and how that differs from men, who operate on a 24-hour hormonal rhythm. What does it mean to live in a world built around daily consistency when your...

In this special Valentine's Day episode, David joins us for an honest, layered conversation about love, friendship, and the realities of being in a healthy relationship — especially when your relationship exists in the public eye. We address the rumors head-on (no, we are not a throuple 🙄) and talk about why people are so quick to project narratives onto close friendships and romantic partnership...

In this episode, we look at the very first examples of love we ever witnessed — our parents — and unpack how those relationships quietly shaped our dating preferences, expectations, and blind spots. Janai shares what it was like growing up with parents who had a fun, wild relationship — a rough-around-the-edges provider father and a working, playful mother — and how watching that dynamic, along wi...

In this episode, we talk about deconstructing what we've been taught masculinity and femininity are supposed to look like — and reconstructing them in ways that feel healthier, more honest, and more personal. We explore how these energies don't look the same for everyone, and how rigid definitions can do more harm than good. Kelsi opens up about realizing her social media algorithm sometimes needs...

In this episode, we talk about what it really means to stay connected — to your partner, to your friends, and to yourself — especially when life gets busy, overwhelming, or isolating. We unpack how some people struggle with being part of a community and disguise that discomfort as "not wanting community" at all. The fear of closeness, accountability, and emotional presence — and how disconnection...

In part two of this conversation, we go deeper into emotional intelligence — what it actually looks like, how it's developed, and the conversations that need to be happening but rarely are. We talk through the kind of honest, patient conversation you'd have with a man if you were truly trying to teach emotional intelligence — not to shame, emasculate, or "fix" him, but to help him understand himse...

In part one of this two-part episode, we kick things off by talking about the vision boards Janai and Kelsi made — what we're calling in, what we're intentionally building, and how our desires are shifting as we grow. We break the ice with a new segment we're officially coining Whiteboard Confessions, playing games that lead us straight into honesty, laughs, and unexpected takes. From there, the c...

In this New Year's Eve episode, we reflect on the habits, mindsets, and patterns we're leaving in 2025 — and the versions of ourselves we're intentionally bringing into 2026. We play games, laugh a lot, and get real about what it actually takes to break cycles instead of just talking about change every January. From nipping old behaviors in the bud to remembering who we are at our core, this episo...

In this episode, we're getting into all things Christmas — the cozy moments, the chaos, the unexpected emotions, and the very unholy holiday drama our listeners shared with us. Janai talks about hosting her first Christmas with her family, the pressure, the excitement, and the "am I really the adult now?" feeling that comes with stepping into that role. Kelsi gets real about navigating a bit of th...

In this episode, we get honest about the lessons that come with maturity — knowing when to speak, when to shut up, and when your ego is the only thing standing in the way of connection. Janai opens up about watching Kelsi's relationship from the outside and sometimes feeling like it looks limiting — questioning whether long-term relationships can quietly shrink you, soften your edges, or pull you...

In this episode, we dive into the kind of inner growth that doesn't look glamorous on the outside — the quiet shifts, the identity deaths, the chapters closing before we even know what the next one is. The parts of ourselves we outgrow, and the versions of us we're finally brave enough to walk away from. Kelsi opens up about no longer feeling beholden to "auditioning" for anything — rooms, roles,...

In this episode, we open up about the kind of childhood trauma that stays in your body long after you've grown up - the patterns you inherit, the wounds you didn't ask for, and the mothers who were doing their best... even when their best wasn't enough. Kelsi gets vulnerable about growing up with a mother whose love was often overshadowed by meanness, emotional neglect, and expectations no child c...

Welcome back to the group chat, babes — and buckle up because this episode went from comedy to chaos REAL quick.  This week, we unpack the full story of how one of us ended up in JAIL (yes… actual jail), why the first phone call was straight to Mommy, and the reality check that followed. From mugshots to mommy-dependency to "girl, you need to grow up," this episode has everything.  We dive into:...

In this episode, we get real about how the childhoods we didn't choose ended up shaping the women we are today. Kelsi opens up about growing up in Georgia with no real family support system — just her mom and sisters — and how that isolation showed up in adulthood. Meanwhile, Janai shares what it was like being surrounded by cousins, a full village, and how that shaped her confidence and identity....