Unlearned

We can hardly go on social media without seeing some sort of mental health quick-fix post. While these solutions may help with the acute symptoms and behaviors, they often fail to address the underlying problems. Join CA and Jaime as they explore how to move beyond the latest pop psychology viral video and dig deep during our healing journeys. Notes: The problem with pop psychology Why treating th...

Ep 22: Boundaries 101 We hear a lot about boundaries, especially on social media, but before we learn how to set them, we need to know what exactly they are. Join CA and Jaime as they walk us through boundaries by telling us what they are, why they are important, how to implement them, and more. Notes: What is a boundary? Why are boundaries important? How do we know when to set a boundary? How to...

Whether through religion or parenting, we are often taught at a young age to forgive and forget, but what if we can’t? Jaime and CA discuss what it actually means to forgive someone, the psychology behind it, what happens if we just can’t bring ourselves to do it, and more. Notes: It’s Jaime’s Birthday! What is the psychology of forgiveness? How do we engage in forgiveness in a safe and meaningful...

Do hurt people hurt people? Is there a place for accountability? How do we move beyond the awareness stage? Jaime and CA examine these questions and many more as they discuss whether or not our past trauma can make us toxic. Notes: Do hurt people hurt people? Does past trauma give us an excuse to be toxic? The importance of accountability for our trauma responses How to protect ourselves from trau...

Getting away from all the chaos of our past is a massive part of our healing journey. Why then do we continue to seek it out long after it’s gone? Join Jaime and CA as they discuss not only why we feel the need to fill that void, but what we can do to get rid of it altogether. Notes: What is chaos and why do we crave it? Why emotional chaos flies under the radar What are the markers of chaos? Pred...

We all go through a sort of metamorphosis during our healing journeys. Is that act of transformation selfish? What about the people we leave behind? Are we even supposed to leave them behind? Join Jaime and CA as they take a deep dive into these questions and more as they discuss if it is selfish to heal. Notes: The best brands of seltzer and becoming sober curious Is it selfish to heal? The reaso...

Jaime and CA discuss learning to trust oneself through the lens of developing a relationship with one's future self. Please be sure to review us! We want to hear your voice! This helps out our podcast immensely. Follow the podcast on Instagram and say Hi! @theunlearnedpodcast -Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearned -Email us topics/suggestions: unle...

Jaime and CA discuss holding two conflicting emotions at once.

Jaime and CA discuss consent and boundaries around emotionally intense conversations.

Jaime and CA discuss avoiding engagement with negative feelings, past traumas and emotions and then being met with “ good vibes only!” 

Jaime and CA discuss how one's views of their own self worth reflects the way they interact with the world.

Jaime and CA discuss the process of healing; the stages we go through, the ways we can sometimes get stuck at certain points, and how to get unstuck when that happens. 

In this episode, Jaime and CA discuss self-expression (through hair, clothes and piercings, etc.), how it can be a vehicle for personal autonomy, how can be a way to release trauma, and so much more. Join us as we dive deep into this topic.

In this episode, Jaime and CA answer the question: what exactly is shit talking and why do we do it? How often do you find yourself venting to blow off the steam of that infuriating situation? Does someone you know seem resigned to endure a situation that is terrible for them but they just keep complaining about it anyway? Is there a difference between complaining, venting, shit talking, and authe...

Jaime and CA talk about self advocacy in the face of traumatizing family dynamics that emphasize facade and deflection over honesty. Join our Facebook Community here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theunlearnedcommunity

Jaime and CA talk about listening to your body when it speaks through pain, anxiety, happiness, etc.

What does building a relationship with yourself look like? What does it feel like when you engage in dialogue with yourself? Does it feel like a harmful relationship? Is there Kindness? Compassion? Are you your own bully? We explore all of these questions on this episode: Your Relationship with Yourself Follow us on Instagram and say hi! https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/ Join our Patr...

Have you heard... " Your behavior is a reflection of me!!! " or  " I say jump, you say, how high " while growing up or from your partner? This is your episode! Jaime and CA discuss: - Why do I feel like I can't be an individual in my family? -Why is my individualization a threat to my relationships? -Why does my family force loyalty? -Where do I end and my family or partner begins? -What is t...

Jaime and CA discuss humor as a tool for maintaining abusive power structures and deflecting criticism.

Jaime and CA discuss people pleasing as a trauma response.

Hosts Jaime and CA discuss breaking out of a dualistic perspectives when diving into self-healing and self-growth work. All-or-nothing statements, black & white mindsets, and rigid thought structures can all be a major hindrance to your growth. Pop those headphones on to find out more as we explore this foundational topic. Please be sure to review us! We want to hear your voice! This helps out our...

Jaime and CA discuss learning to trust yourself.

In this episode, Jaime and CA continue to explore the reasons why healing from trauma can feel so violating at times and how we can gain power back during the healing process.

In this episode hosts Jaime Mahler and CA Rhoades explore reasons why healing from trauma can feel so violating at times and how we can gain power back during the healing process.