The Lily Pod

this week's ep is a collaborative convo with a dear friend and recurring Lily Pod guest, Hannah Thiessen <3 we're here to answer all your sweet questions about everything from attachment styles to boundary-setting, friendship idealization, and compulsory crushes. get cozy! to join the conversation, follow @thelily.pod on Instagram <3 to connect, reach out to @thelily.pod on Instagr...

think of this episode as an unofficial former-not-like-other-girls group therapy session - the one we all know we need. to join the conversation, follow @thelily.pod on Instagram <3 to connect, reach out to @thelily.pod on Instagram <3

this one goes out to all my fellow people pleasers....... i'm calling us all out in this one xoxoxox to join the conversation, follow @thelily.pod on Instagram! <3 to connect, reach out to @thelily.pod on Instagram <3

welcome back to another chat where we're busy figuring out how to enjoy a good summer frolic without the company of the internalized male gaze; what it means to name compulsory (sexual/gender) performances; and how to escape the trap of personating desirability. to join the conversation, follow @thelily.pod on Instagram! <3 to connect, reach out to @thelily.pod on Instagram <3

welcome back to another week <3 your gal is back and more vulnerable than ever in this episode focused on the troublesome-to-navigate world of self-compassion, forgiveness, and sensitivity. from the gifted kid to burnt-out adult pipeline to the rocky road of overthinking disguised as self-reflection, this episode is ready to make you feel secure in all your insecurities. to join the conversatio...

y'all ready to get up close n personal??? this week i'm answering all your questions about the gal on the other end of your screen ~ am i a fruit or a veggie? an introvert or extrovert? someone who knows wtf she's doing or the complete opposite? cozy up and come listen to me talk about myself for ( way ) too long <3 to join the conversation, follow @thelily.pod on Instagram! <...

feeling unhinged?? GOOD. this episode is all about unhinged female characters ~ and we why we're completely obsessed with them. whether you see Amy Dunne as a feminist icon or a psychopathic villain (or both???), we're here to unpack what it is about characters like her that makes us so captivated. *hint: your level of captivation may coincide with the amount of female rage stored in you...

in this episode, I'm joined by my most special guest yet, my darling mum and registered psychotherapist, Jeffi Farquharson. in perfect alignment with our iconic conversational style we've coined as "snack night", we're jumping all over the place in this one! join us as we explore the reality of generation gaps in learning, the gender playfulness of dress-up boxes, backyard...

welcome back to another week of The Lily Pod! <3 in this week's episode, we're here to dissect the ~potentially problematic~ aspects of today's culture of sex positivity. we're questioning how dominating social norms of sexuality serve to disempower us from our individual agency, dissecting the impacts of purity & hookup culture, taking into account the nuances of person...

i'm joined this week with El (@fey.fatale on ig), a queer Pākehā Tangata Tiriti activist from Aotearoa (New Zealand) who's here to talk with me about the personal and political components of fashion. we're covering topics such as how to liberate ourselves through style expression, the interconnectedness of fashion and queer identity, & the history of gendered fashion as a coloni...

welcome back to The Lily Pod! <3 here we are, starting off season 2 with a good old fashioned discussion about gender, desire, and validation. here to unpack the baggage of identity curation rooted in the desire for male validation, we're starting off the new year with big questions about what it means to be feminine, how this is shaped by gender segregation, and society's obsession w...

here to bring you hot takes about the nuances of boundaries, what it really means to ~protect ur energy~, understanding accountability, and why we need to stop labelling things as 'valid', this ep's wrapping it up for the year with a mixed bag of opinions ready to rock the boat. to join the conversation, follow @thelily.pod on Instagram! <3 to connect, reach out to @thelily.pod o...

this episode is revisiting everyone's fav topic of discussion ~ the male gaze ~ ! we'll be chatting about the internalized male gaze in the context of the panopticon; how they operate as similar systems of power, why they're so effective, and how we might(?) be able to escape them(????).  to connect, reach out to @thelily.pod on Instagram <3

this episode is an introduction to the concept of compulsory heterosexuality as defined by Adrienne Rich (1980). we'll be diving into the deep end of heteropatriarchy, exploring how it shapes our relationships, our decisions, our sex lives, and our understandings of queerness. from chatting about childhood crushes, to internalized homophobia, to the infamous 'Am I a Lesbian' masterd...

joining me on the pod this week is my dearest friend Rose!! come n hang out with our chaotic giggly energy as we chat about everything from friendship, to boogying, to queerness, to reimaginations of romance. to join the conversation, follow @thelily.pod on Instagram! <3 to connect, reach out to @thelily.pod on Instagram <3

this episode is a get-to-know-me intro of the guy we all know as the green-eyed monster (+ maybe get into how we misjudged him???) - there'll be chats about how jealousy manifests, how it's romanticized, what behaviours it perpetuates, and how to confront it with the radical act of ~self-compassion~! let's get into it babes!!!! to join the conversation, follow @thelily.pod on Instag...

this episode is unpacking all the baggage that comes with the over-romanticization of life --- somewhere we've all probably been, but might not even be aware of. we'll be talking about everything from main character syndrome, to the dangers of seeing your life as a movie, to the insidious nature of social media trends (~that girl~ morning routine, anyone???). can we come to a conclusion...

in this episode, we'll be talking about all the ways in which sex ed curriculums set us up for failure, with particular focus to their perpetuation of sexual shame, exclusions of queerness, and biiiig lack of understanding consent. with a bite-sized consent education introduction, some discussion around heteronormative-centered sex ed, and answering some of your sex-related questions, this on...

this episode is a little exploration of the female gaze in film -- what it is, how it appears, and how it differs from the male gaze. we'll also be digging into some critiques of how these two gazes reinforce binaries of identity, gender, and personal experience, all while taking into consideration the subversive role of queer desire! to join the conversation, follow @thelily.pod on Instagram...

this episode is a fun little collab with my partner of (almost) 4 years, Marco! come hang out with us as we chat about all things ~lurv~! from handling conflict/resolution with opposing communication styles, prioritizing playfulness, exploring love languages, dealing with relationship FOMO, and navigating queer identity in a straight passing relationship, we're digging it allll up baby. join...

this week's episode is a collaboration with the wonderful Lori (connect on Twitter @doingthemost__ !), who is here to talk about the role of whitewashing in celebrity and pop culture, with particular consideration to the infamous Kardashian family as the new faces of modern white feminism. from discussions of appropriation, aesthetics, racial ambiguities, and accountability, Lori guides us in...

feelin' like a fraud? you're not alone, baby. coming back full swing with an episode on dealing with imposter syndrome, negative internal dialogue, and perfectionistic overthinking, we'll be exploring three different types of imposters: The Perfectionist, The Natural Genius, and The Soloist. how do they show up? and how do you get them to f off??? settle on in as we do a little dive...

I'm joined this week by my dear friend and Art History major, Liv Deresti-Robinson, who's here to talk with me all about the myth of the male genius within the artistic industry; how this myth preserves rape culture, sustains hierarchy, and consistently excuses toxicity. from talking about god complexes, to the ever-debated question of whether or not we can (or should!) separate the art...

joining me on the pod this week for a conversation about gender, fluidity, and personal expression is the lovely Lou (connect on Instagram at @thetransacademic), who recently spoke at a subversions conference about the effects prolonged isolation has had on gender expression during the pandemic. Lou shares with us the intricacies of navigating gender identity, expression, and presentation within t...

in this week's episode, we're delving into the world of queering heteronormative narratives and characters in cinema + TV! with explanation of the history of queer coding, the role of censorship in stereotyping queerness in cinema, and Hollywood's love for queer baiting, this episode's got it alllll.  to join the conversation, follow @thelily.pod on Instagram! <3 to connect,...