The Bearded Gents Podcast

The reasons we give matters a lot when we consider what that reasoning says about ourselves. Who we are, why that matters to us, the implications this has on our relationships, all of this is impacted by the choices we make around giving.

We speak to Shaun of Staite again today. We speak about the necessary value of connection, of asking "Why" and how we got to this state in the first place.

Where does it come from? Where does it go? Where did you come from, Inspirational Joe?  What do we do with it when we experience it? Does it feel like pressure to use it? Does it require sacrifices that we aren't prepared to make? Will it lead us to the promised halcyon day of our lives? 

Our relationship to the goals we set have a vital role to play in how likely we are to achieve them. Do we make a goal with intentionality, making a decision about the value we find moving down the path a goal takes us? Or do we simply pick something that's better than what we have, or at least what we don't want, and hope for the best?

When we feel mistreated, no matter how real or imagined it is, what do we do with the emotional reaction to it? Do we use it to set boundaries? Do we externalise it as a projected reaction? Or do we sit on it, let it fester, until we become resentful enough to use that emotion to bend the world to our unhealed perspective?

Are male and female relationships capable of being genuinely platonic? Or is there ultimately an agenda in them that complicates it eventually? Either way, asking why we have relationships with people is always worth considering.

There are many reasons why we may say we'd like to do something. But is the same as wanting to do it? Or even needing to? When there is a gap between the words we use and the actions we take, some examination of our relationship with the goal is needed.

What do men want? What do women want? And what do they want from each other? How can we give each other what they want and need if we aren't prepared to ask what they want?

We talk with Daniel about his journey so far 

Anger is typically the result of primary emotion creating a reaction to become active in the defense of boundaries. But not being aware of this, not learning how to channel this anger, leads down a dark path...

Sometimes, there is a balance between being the provider of crappy behaviour, and the receiver of crappy behaviour. Often, it's pretty black and white. But often, there are times when its not so cut and dry. Where maybe examining our own behaviour leading into something, or our reactions to something, doesn't leave us as clear conscience-ed as we might like to think.

How much do our emotions really impact us, from moment to moment? How surprising would we find that, to lay out exactly how much our thoughts and "objective" logic have been influenced by feelings we never even thought were involved?

How do we relate to our everyday, casual, not that big of a deal things that may make us feel good, but more often than not, make life harder in the long run? What does alcohol actually do for us? Why is caffeine so popular? How do they serve and how dont they?

When we have hero's, do we ever ask WHY they are hero's to us? And how far do we take that pedestaling, trust and belief in them? Do our hero's continue to add value to our lives? Or do we deify them out of habit?

When we practice the behaviours we are told will help us manage our emotions, we may or may not believe in them working. But once we establish enough value in WHY we do them to consistently enough do them, it's only a matter of time before we notice them impacting how we feel.

How we feel about being alone tells us a lot about how we actually feel about ourselves. And has a lot of subconscious knock-on effects when it comes to our attachment style, our relationships and how we see ourselves when it is just you.

Being present with why we started a thing, and how we have changed when relating to that thing, is pretty valuable. Perspective, gratitude and the idea that we have made more progress than we can see in the moment add value to the journey and stronger foundations to move onwards and upwards with.

How does the judgement and discernment we use on a daily basis working for us? Is it done to create a power dynamic to make ourselves feel more important and better than the people around us? Or to understand ourselves and our place in the world better, and create value with it?

How do we get to place so we can take outside influences in-stride? Is it by not caring? Is it caring about everything? Or, is it picking a choosing what we care about, how we prioritise that and then act that out?

What is the truth? Why do we tell the truth, why do we lie, what's the value in either one of those things. Plus, Liver King!!!

Every decision, or lack of decision, has consequences. But how thoroughly do we consider those consequences? Better yet, do we care enough to consider them?

Today we talk to Lou, to hear her story of how she became more than she thought she ever could after spending a life feeling like she was nothing. 

When we leave old part of us behind, burn it off, make the choice to choose different... What do we do then? Do we leave space for things to naturally fill that new space within us? Do we actively and intentionally look for what we want to embody?

Today we talk to Shaun Sargent, head honcho, pretty cool guy and the driving force behind mens health brand, Stait. He tells the story of how he created a product and a life of value and connection after experiencing what the other side felt like. 

Do we live up to our own standards? How do we expect others to live up to them? Do any of us live a life of integrity based on what we think and feel is right and correct behaviour? Where do those ideas of right and correct come from, does it matter if we don't prioritise them?