Soulful_convos w Khristen

Healing doesn’t mean you stop feeling. And it definitely doesn’t mean you stop needing people. In this final healing episode, we unpack the difference between being guarded and being discerning, how to tell when something is a trigger versus an actual threat, and how to live healed in relationships without isolating yourself. For the ones learning how to stay soft and safe at the same time—this on...

Healing isn’t a one-time breakthrough or a dramatic “I’m healed” moment — it’s the quiet, repeated choice to respond differently when triggers show up. In Healing Is a Practice, Not a Moment, we talk about what it really looks like to stay healed in real life: when emotions resurface, when old patterns knock, and when choosing yourself feels unfamiliar. Honest, grounding, and deeply relatable — th...

There’s this idea that boundaries mean you’re stuck-up, difficult, or no longer loving. But often, that narrative exists because access was once unlimited—and limits feel like rejection to people who benefited from the absence of them. Healing doesn't stop at forgiveness; for without boundaries, old wounds can reopen. This episode explores why boundaries don't cancel love, how God models boundarie...

Many people believe healing means forgetting, but that isn’t how healing truly works. In Part 2 of this series, we explore why memories can remain without controlling us, the difference between forgiveness and reconciliation, and how self-forgiveness plays a role in emotional healing. This episode offers reassurance for anyone who’s healing but still remembers—and wonders if they’re doing it “righ...

Healing can feel confusing when you want to move forward but don’t know where and how to begin. "I Want to Heal but I Don’t Know How" is a gentle, honest series that explores emotional healing through faith, psychology, and real-life reflection. Each episode walks with you through awareness, memory, forgiveness, and growth—without pressure, guilt, or pretending. This series is for anyone learning...

Worry convinces us we’re being careful—when in reality, it’s just fear wearing the mask of control. In this episode of Soulful_convos w Khristen, we explore how worry creates a false sense of control, why overthinking feels productive, and how constantly anticipating the worst slowly robs us of peace. This conversation invites you to loosen your grip, rethink control, and choose trust over mental...

In this episode of Soulful_convos w Khristen, I reflect on a question that feels uncomfortable but necessary: who taught us to doubt ourselves? Prompted by a visit to the Slave Trade Museum in Badagry, this conversation explores how history, colonial conditioning, media representation, and everyday societal patterns have shaped trust, identity, and self-worth in Nigeria. From the way foreign valid...

December has a way of amplifying everything—comparison, loneliness, pressure, desire, and the fear of missing out. In this episode, I’m joined by my dearest friend as we talk honestly about the desperation that can come with the ember months, especially for women—social media pressure, the need to be seen, chosen, and “among,” and the expectation to end the year with a story. This isn’t a conversa...

Funny how this is my 24th episode, on my 24th birthday, and somehow right on time-life has jokes apparently. This one isn’t polished or heavy — it’s a soft pause. A collection of 20-something reflections, quiet lessons, faith, healing, and becoming… A little birthday voice note to myself — and maybe to you too.

When the sun shines and rain falls, Nigerians say “the lion and tiger have given birth.” 😂 Dive into this quirky folktale as Khristen explores sunshowers, childhood myths, cultural storytelling, and why humans love explaining the unexplainable. A soulful, funny episode you didn’t know you needed.

Ever wondered if faith has a place in the world of hacking? 🤔 In this episode of Soulful_convos w Khristen, I sit down with H4ruki, a cybersecurity professional who shares what it really means to walk with integrity in the digital space. We talk about curiosity, temptation, and the moral grey zones that come with power and access. From ethical hacking to handling digital responsibility, this conv...

In the Western world, turning 18 means you’re officially responsible for yourself — rent, bills, freedom, and all that comes with “adulting.” But in Africa, and especially here in Nigeria, independence takes on a different meaning. Culture, family, and religion shape how and when we move out — if at all. In this episode of Soulful_convos w Khristen , we explore the contrasts, the expectations, and...

Ever felt guilty for saying no? This episode reminds you that ‘Because I don’t want to’ is a complete sentence. We talk peace, priorities, and learning to protect your sanity without the guilt trip.

Ever been pressed like Agege bread in a danfo? 😭 This thought-provoking episode explores the struggles of plus-size passengers in Nigerian buses — the ‘abeg shift!’ moments, cramped seats, and real talk about comfort, body size, fairness, and empathy in our public transport culture.

The world talks about racism — skin color, foreign accents, immigration. But here in Nigeria, it’s not always about race. It’s tribalism. The Yoruba calling out the Igbo, the Hausa mocking the Yoruba, the Igbo stereotyping the Hausa. Words like ‘Omo Igbo,’ ‘Aboki,’ don’t just describe — they divide. This episode unpacks how language turns identity into insult, and why tribalism is Nigeria’s own ve...

That tiny silver/white/grey strand on your head—do you yank it out, dye it, or rock it like a crown of wisdom? In this episode, I’m unraveling the myths, the science, and the sass behind grey hairs. Spoiler: pulling them won’t magically multiply them… but it might just say more about us than our hair. Tune in for laughs, truths, and maybe a little self-acceptance.

Ever been misled, misread, or just plain misunderstood? Yeah, same. Today we’re unpacking the tiny mix-ups, wild assumptions, and unspoken words that turn friendships, flings, and full-blown relationships into awkward drifting ships. Grab your life jacket—this episode is all about why we drift apart (and how not to get lost at sea).

'"I'm five minutes away” really means I just left the house. In Africa, the clocks tick… but somehow we're allergic to punctuality. Relatable? yes. Funny? Absolutely! until you're the one waiting. Let's explore together👣

Tiny rant turned pep talk turned time capsule - Today's episode? Just me planting seeds in audio form, so one day I can harvest bragging rights.

I borrowed you money, not my peace of mind. Now I’m the villain for asking for it back? 😂 Let’s talk guilt trips, ghosted repayments, and the drama that turns “Can I get my money back?” into a full-blown telenovela.

"Wahala for Who Dey Use Right Hand" — because apparently, using your left hand to eat, wave, or give somebody something is a criminal offense in Nigerian households. Let’s talk about how one hand became ‘holy’ and the other, spiritual bad news. Lefties, come and hear your matter o!

"Khaki no be costume" dives headfirst into the dust, drills, and drama of NYSC camp life. From 4 a.m. bugles to unexpected friendships, it’s a no-filter gist on what really went down — the sweat, the laughs, the wahala. Spoiler: it felt nothing like a movie😅.

Mirror, mirror on the wall… who’s the finest of them all? Plot twist — nobody fits the mold. In this episode, we expose the scam that is “the perfect body,” trace how the trends keep shifting, and remind you that confidence isn’t a filter — it’s practical

From pretending to like their favorite musical taste (even though it sounds like a blender in distress) to accidentally liking a photo—we've all been there. In this episode, we unpack the hilariously irrational things we do when Cupid hits... and misses. Get ready to cringe, laugh, and maybe confess a few sins of your own.

I'm so excited, I just can't hide it. This experience is long overdue and I'm SAT for it. Choosing to document this encourages my legacy and is a measure of my intentionality in growth. It's only right to have my community along for the ride🥰 Say a prayer for me🙏🏾. It's going to be refining❤️