Simply Resilient - A Podcast For Military Wives

One of my favorite mind management topics is understanding the difference between needs and wants and staying clear on who is responsible for what. My favorite way to illustrate this concept is the Cupcake Concept (see episode 42). In this episode we take a look at this concept again and spend a little more time understanding what needs are and what wants are and how to keep them from getting mixe...

Have you ever felt really drained or stuck and didn't know why? Chances are you were experiencing a lot of resistance about something and maybe didn't even know it. You might be resisting your current reality, your emotions, the actions of others, yourself, etc. After all you can argue with reality and lose the argument...but only every time. Our brain tends to resist things that are different fro...

A very common piece of advice that we are given as military wives to get through deployment is to just "stay busy." This can be a good thing but it can also be overdone and you can use it against yourself if you're not careful. Listen to this episode where we focus on productivity and processes and less on the end result. I will also show you how to watch for what you're using to motivate yourself...

When we slow things down and step back we can see that we are almost always wanting peace to think what we're thinking, feel what we're feeling and do what we're doing and unfortunately we are often not giving ourselves that permission. One problem is we think we need to wait for permission from others, but what we really need is permission from ourselves. Listen to this episode to learn how to sw...

Do you feel like you are frequently feeling overwhelmed or frustrated? Do you ever ask yourself what you wish you were feeling instead? If you have, my guess would be that your answer to that question would be peace. Feeling peaceful is amazing and a very desirable feeling and I want that for you too. However there are a few ways to feel peace and the main one feels like the absence of chaos which...

In this episode I explain why the perfect environment for working on our mindset and trying to make changes in our life is to think of it like conducting a science experiment in a laboratory. This is so good to know and can be really fun and exciting to spend time in this space. The problem is that we are human and accessing this space in our minds can be difficult when it comes to many areas of o...

I know you've heard of Taylor Swift's Eras Tour...in this episode I share with you what it can look like when you are in your Grace Era or your Grace Period. We are used to thinking about this term, grace period, in business terms or financial terms or contractual terms. It basically means that there is a set period of time that the penalties of not doing something are alleviated. I would like to...

This episode is just in time for the holiday season! My favorite trick to get less annoyed with the people in my life whom I love but we're all human and we do things that bug each other is to think of their undesirable behaviors like babies spitting up. Listen in to see what I mean and how it works. I know it will help you. Enjoy! P.S. For more on this topic please listen to episode 24 "What to D...

In this episode I am discussing many aspects of the concepts of relief. It's interesting to understand that relief is typically the contrast of the absence of the negative feeling you were just experienced. It is also typically short lived and we often experience relief in response to our body or brain demanding us to do something to get the relief NOW. Nothing wrong with any of that, but it's hel...

In this episode I tell a story from my personal coaching to illustrate the power of one coaching session on a problem that has been troubling me for 5 years and how my super computer brain solved it and offered me the solution. Enjoy!

In this episode I'm teaching you a new tool I learned this summer from my coach called the 4 N's Tool. The 4 N's stand for: -Notice -Normalize -Neutralize -Next Thought This tool goes so well with the model and helps you with your daily self coaching. It's simple and powerful. Enjoy!

I decided that it was time to give you all a little snap shot on what's going on in my life these days! Enjoy!

In this episode I interview Lissa Figgins, military wife, mother of 3, and life coach specializing in time management. We cover some really important topics in this episode such as what happens when your service member comes home with PTSD, what to do, how to understand them, how to take care of yourself and be patient, and tons of words of encouragement if this is what you're going through. Enjoy...

Your words matter to you and today I'm telling you why. The words we say and think make a big difference in how we feel and the really exciting part is that making small changes in the words we use make a really big impact on how we feel. Enjoy!

In this episode we are using the analogy of lanes on the highway of life to know what's our responsibility and what isn't our responsibility. It's so important in our relationships to know what we're in charge of (our own emotions, thoughts, and actions) and what we're not in charge of (everyone else's emotions, thoughts, and actions). It can be so easy in our closest relationships to get these th...

It is my pleasure to introduce you to Lizzie Merritt! She is a 20 year military wife and weight loss life coach and I'm thrilled that I had the opportunity to interview her on my podcast. We were able to discuss weight loss as it relates to military life and deployments as well as talk about what makes it hard and what makes it sustainable. One of my favorite nuggets from Lizzie is about being wil...

Today we're talking about all things LOVE! Who doesn't love love? If you want to know more about how feeling love works in the model, then you're going to love this episode. We discuss what love is, what love isn't, loveability, unconditional love, our capacity for love, how we can love everyone in the equation including (and especially) ourselves and more! Are you a fan of Gary Chapman's The Five...

Today we're talking about momentum. Whether it be looking at momentum up close (the momentum of an hour or a specific project or your day) or from far away (the momentum of a week/month/year/season/deployment), leveraging the power momentum can be VERY useful. In this episode we look at the power of positive momentum and using if for our good and the detriment of negative momentum and using it aga...

In today's episode I am sharing a session with one of my clients who is a military girlfriend. This session took place about a year ago and was one of the first sessions that I ever had with this client. It's so much fun to share this part of her journey with you (with her permission and it was fun for she and I to go back and listen to this and celebrate how far she has come this year. She and he...

Raise your hand if you're a fan of those detective tv shows and movies where the expert detective is able to notice and pay attention to minute and seemingly insignificant details that are actually critical to solving the case 🙋🏼‍♀️ Me too! Did you know that your brain is an expert detective as well and has the same super powers as these detective geniuses in your favorite shows? Listen to this...

In this episode we are going deep on the first line of the CTFAR model, the Circumstance line. There are a few ways we talk and teach about the circumstance line that are very important, but today I take you even deeper into more intricate nuances of the circumstance line. I do this so that you can get even more out of the model and out of understanding your circumstances and learning to work with...

I'm thrilled to introduce you to my new friend Marika Humphreys! Here is her bio: Resiliency Coach and recovering perfectionist Marika Humphreys coaches people who have a partner with cancer. Five years as her husband's caregiver and primary emotional support as he battled cancer, Marika knows how challenging and exhausting it can be. She teaches her clients how to calm their mental and emotional...

As a life coach and on this podcast I talk a lot about how we can change the things in our control (our thoughts, attitude, mind set, story) to create more of the life we want to be living. Today I'm talking about another important aspect to thought work and the model which is just making room for your humanness and learning how to feel negative, indulgent, unproductive emotions. When we learn how...

In this episode we are talking about reintegration. The key is to focus on managing your mind and your emotions and giving your partner the space to work through their feelings without adding a lot of extra hurt/drama/pressure/stress by making the way they are behaving mean something about you. You are both going through this reintegration transition and it isn't easy, but when we give our partner...

This summer I will be publishing my Summer How To Series which will be a series of mini-episodes addressing some topics that I know are on your mind and my client's minds. These shorter episodes will give you some quick, actionable, and deep tips and insights into things you are are struggling with or working on so that you can start making changes today! In this episode we are addressing the time...