Rethink Your Rules

Send us Fan Mail This week, Jenny shares one of the best questions you can ask to coach yourself: Why is that a problem for me? As usual, it sounds simple but is surprisingly powerful. Next time someone is driving you crazy and you feel like you are stuck, try asking this. It will help you figure out what is really going on, and how you can make things better. _________ Need help applying this to...

Send us Fan Mail This is going to sound too simple, but I promise it works. It doesn’t solve everything but it gets easier from there. Usually my child begins visibly calming in under a minute. It's not... 👉🏻Trying to solve their problem 👉🏻A pep talk 👉🏻Using logic to convince them their emotion doesn't make sense 👉🏻Explaining why their behavior is problematic 👉🏻Rewards or conse...

Send us Fan Mail This week, we're going into detail about the signs and symptoms of ADHD in physicians. Understanding how ADHD presents can help us recognize it in ourselves and others, and can help us do a better job of supporting our colleagues. Mentioned in this Episode: Journal Article: Understanding attention deficit/hyperactivity disorder in physicians: workplace implications and manage...

Send us Fan Mail After my later-in-life ADHD diagnosis, I was able to view my past in an entirely new light. Here is that story. It isn't easy to share all of these painful failures. But I am choosing to be vulnerable and share it anyway because I hope it will help you consider whether you or someone you love may have undiagnosed ADHD. Or perhaps to recognize similar tendencies caused by PTSD...

Send us Fan Mail Most of us have heard fitness instructors say "Choose Your Hard" to remind us that we are always choosing which discomfort we want. We can choose the discomfort of exercising and eating right, or the discomfort of being less healthy and active. But did you know this applies to the rest of your life, too? In this episode, I'll share how this can help you with time ma...

Send us Fan Mail ADHD is widely misunderstood, leading to misdiagnosis and unnecessary stigma and shame. The formal diagnostic criteria is outdated and incomplete. It doesn’t reflect the latest data or the widespread experience of ADHD experts. In this episode, Jenny breaks down our current understanding of ADHD, some key features you have never heard of, and how it all ties together. By the end o...

Send us Fan Mail How learning to manage my kids’ meltdowns taught me to manage my own anger. _________ Need help applying this to your life? Ready for more strategies like this, but personalized to YOU? Set up your free consult and let’s talk about your unique situation and how coaching can help: https://getcoached.jennyhobbsmd.com/consult _________ Everything on this podcast and website is for in...

Send us Fan Mail This week, we're wrapping up our conversation about gaslighting. In Part 1 of Rethinking Gaslighting , we talked about where the term "gaslighting" originated, how it's defined, and how it is now used to describe many different types of behaviors...not all of which are the same! In this episode, we're picking up where we left off last time. Learn how the g...

Send us Fan Mail In honor of Mother's Day, I'm sharing this bonus episode about how becoming a mom made me a better doctor. I share about an interaction with my son that helped me understand what it means to offer someone grace, empathy, and truly 100% unconditional love. It soon occurred to me that I could choose to approach my patients in a similar way. I was able to show up as a more...

Send us Fan Mail Fair warning: this one may be a bit controversial! And could even be triggering if you've been traumatized by gaslighting or emotional abuse. Today we are rethinking Gaslighting.  This concept has spread like wildfire in the past few years, even being named the Word of the Year for 2022. You may have noticed it cropping up in conversations with friends and family, or in the m...

Send us Fan Mail It's got kids, dogs, and it's my shortest episode yet! What more can I say? I’ve learned so much from parenting my children. Sometimes, the same skills I use to help them can be applied to managing myself, or in interactions with other adults. At other times, it’s more explicit: one of my kids says something that surprises me and gives me an entirely new perspective. I’m...

Send us Fan Mail This week, I’m sharing a great strategy for when you feel stuck in frustration because someone keeps acting in a way you don’t like. Next time you notice yourself feeling resentful or angry, complaining about it, spending time trying to think of ways to make them change…Take a quick break and ask yourself these Power Questions: If I assume they will never change… ✨What are my opt...

Send us Fan Mail This week, I'm sharing everything you need to know about my coaching program & the unique process I've developed for my clients. I'll cover: Who (what it means to be a Too Much Mom) What (Common coaching topics) How (My Rethink your Rules Process & what's included when you sign up) Why (Results: including short-term wins + long-term lasting changes) As...

Send us Fan Mail Narcissism is a hot topic lately. Everyone seems to be wondering if that difficult person we know may be a narcissist, and if so, what to do. We find ourselves asking: How should I interact with them? Do I need to cut them out of my life completely? Is there any hope for them to grow and change? How do I set boundaries? And if you're like me, there may even be moments when yo...

Send us Fan Mail Many women- especially smart women - don’t find out they have ADHD until their 40’s, if ever.  Today I’m sharing the reasons we miss ADHD in women and girls, and in the process you’ll learn: • Common misconceptions about ADHD in general • How adhd presents in females vs males • How girls “mask” their ADHD • The effect of hormones on ADHD And more! If you’ve been curious why so man...

Send us Fan Mail "I have needs too!" my 5 year old daughter yelled one day. It stopped me in my tracks. She was right. I wanted her to push aside her needs in order to make my life easier. And that wasn't the mom I wanted to be. As I continued to reflect on that experience, I gained a new perspective on my daughter, myself, and about all women. How many of us are socialized from a v...

Send us Fan Mail The way you speak to yourself is incredibly powerful. It  determines your relationship with yourself, how you feel and the results you get (or don’t) in your life. Yet if you’re like most people, you are focusing more energy on communicating with others while not paying much attention to your self talk.  But here’s the great news: the same skills you use for talking to others can...

Send us Fan Mail Let's talk about self-confidence. Most of my friends and clients have wished for more self-confidence at one point or another. But often, it feels elusive, something others are just have and we don't. We don't know how we can change the way we look at ourselves. Or we worry that if we are more self-confident, we will become arrogant. In this episode, learn a simple...

Send us Fan Mail It's hard enough to have your own back when you're proud of yourself and others don't get it. But what about when you're NOT proud of how you showed up? How can you love yourself when you get it wrong? When your inner critic just keeps finding more flaws to  point out?  It is not easy, especially for those of us who have perfectionist tendencies. We often strug...

Send us Fan Mail Criticism and negative feedback are unavoidable, especially for high achieving women. While we can’t stop others from offering us their opinions, we do always have a choice how we respond. We don’t have to get defensive or engage in people-pleasing. There are other options. In this episode, Jenny teaches a simple strategy to manage your mind when you are criticized. By checking in...

Send us Fan Mail Does it feel like you can never get everything done, no matter how much you do? Do you wake up thinking about all you need to do, and go to bed thinking about how you didn't get it all done? Brene Brown calls this "hustling for worthiness." This is one of the most common struggles for high achieving moms and we are getting to the root of it in today's episode!...

Send us Fan Mail “I need to fix it” is one of the most common unwritten rules that adds stress to our lives. When we or our loved ones are in a difficult situation, often the default response (particularly as high achieving, smart women) is to try to “fix” the situation. We think we need to solve it. And sometimes we ARE able to fix it. But other times we’re not. That’s when we find ourselves feel...

Send us Fan Mail Last week we discussed WHY it is helpful to consider the idea: “Perhaps everyone is doing the best they know how.” This week, let’s talk about the HOW:   How to remind yourself to consider this in the moment, when you may be overcome with emotion and it can be hardest to remember How to identify situations where this idea is most useful How to coach yourself through the process On...

Send us Fan Mail Ready for a quick tip that will transform your relationships? Choose to believe this statement: “It’s possible that everyone is doing the best they know how.” This week on Rethink Your Rules, Jenny explains how this belief is true more often than you might think, and how helpful it can be. You’ll also learn why, even when you can’t be sure THEY are doing their best, choosing to be...

Send us Fan Mail The Key to Great Communication: Feelings First, Logic Later.  Do you find yourself struggling to get your kids to listen? Arguing with your partner? Having all the “right” answers and logical ideas, but then getting frustrated because people can’t just admit it and agree with you? If so, you’re not alone. And there is a surprisingly simple mindset shift that you can make immediat...