Reframeables

Can reframing be misconstrued as toxic positivity? Bec wonders if she’s still allowed to be annoyed at super positive people. Nat suggests yes, although she suggests we all need to find our safe space to be grumpy. Bec worries about being fake if she’s too positive. Nat wonders if sometimes we are scared of healing. The book we reference is Complaint by Sara Ahmed. “Just” is an adverb. "With&...

Recording through a bonding technology debacle, Bec and Nat talk with designer and songwriter Sharon Glassman (the founder of Smile Songs , a line of musical greeting cards and gifts) about reframing the concept of introversion. The wide-ranging conversation spans what it means to be an introvert — touching on how she hacked her career to make it work at her own speed, her journey from fashion jou...

All about reframing our changing selves! We are not static. Recording early morning from the farm, Bec and Nat check in on the problems they tried to reframe for each other back in Episode 11. Bec’s question was around asking too many “whys.” And Nat’s was around navigating feelings of discontent. The sisters come to the conclusion that taking each other’s advice is not simple and these “problems”...

Bec and Nat interview writer Marissa Stapley, whose writing career takes a major turn when Reese Witherspoon endorses her latest novel Lucky . Marissa Stapley has worked as a newspaper journalist and magazine editor, and is now the internationally bestselling author of the novels Lucky , a Reese’s Book Club December 2021 Pick, The Last Resort , Things to do When It’s Raining , and Mating for Life....

Bec and Nat decide to reframe the January blues with gratitude as their February focus. Nat recalls an episode of The Huberman Lab podcast where he talks about the necessity of introducing story/narrative to really make for a truly brain-changing gratitude practice. Bec reads a shiver-inducing letter from one of Nat’s students and then they check in on how Nat is feeling post reading! Bec and Nat...

Bec interviews YouTubers Jessii Vee and Mandii Vee — their first podcast interview ever! And one of the few interviews they have done as sisters.  The sisters share about how they have reframed their entrepreneurship during COVID and the ways their family supports one another — including family meetings to brainstorm videos! They also talk about the bullying each of them endured and how they have...

In this week's episode: 1. Bec wants to talk about what blinders we still have about ourselves in our 40s…Nat prefers the more Jungian language of “shadow sides!” 2. Bec shares two of what she believes are her shadow qualities but Nat reframes one of them, Bec’s chameleon-like tendency in a group, to be a strength. 3. Bec reframes Nat’s tendency to walk away from conversations as having a pos...

Bec and Nat interview TEDx speaker and Forbes-endorsed mental health advocate Johnny Crowder , who has built a whole system around reframing negative thinking. Almost his whole life, Johnny didn’t know that he could work out his brain like he did his body.  We all need to find the right wording when it comes to self-care. We might not speak the same language but we are needing the same things.  Jo...

The sisters attempt to reframe sleepless nights — a problem which comes from a listener. They both agree it’s a hard one especially given that Nat hasn’t had a full night’s sleep in eight years.  Bec asks if sleeplessness could be reframed for new mothers as doing hard things? Like the cold plunge from the spa — a good shock to the body’s system? They discuss how the constraints imposed through sl...

For this episode on New Year’s Revolutions Nat and Bec begin by discussing their foray into TikTok. Is it humiliating or are they taking healthy risks? :) Bec brings up the idea of improving someone else’s life in this new year if you don’t feel equipped to improve your own right now.  Natalie troubles this notion as she considers the dangers of help that is misguided. But at the same we don’t wan...

Two week break for Sister On as we tend to some of our own self-care! But in the meantime please subscribe to our newsletter and check out any episodes your might have missed. See you in 2022! We can't wait to keep on reframing with you! We love hearing from our listeners! Leave us a voice message , write to the show email , or send us a DM on any of our socials. If our conversations support...

In their second holiday episode (which means they tried to talk shorter for all their busy listeners!), Nat and Bec reframe the notion of holiday and what it will be this year.  Bec unpacks the etymology of the word holiday… from Old English haligdaeg (holy + day), and they realize they might need to look for their own “sabbath.” They discuss turning a concept on its head — like the positive acne...

For this holiday episode, Nat suggests that they reframe the notion of gifts. She offers up the philosopher Emmanuel Levinas’ notion of “gift” which focuses on how power is shared between the gift giver and the receiver. Bec processes this idea at a slow pace. She too wants to embrace the vulnerability that comes with giving and realizes she has to give up expectation, even of her family tree trim...

The sisters acknowledge the passing of Natalie’s 17 year old car, and more importantly the passing of legend Stephen Sondheim. Nat sings a line from "Send In The Clowns." Inspired by her son’s curiosity, Nat wants to return to the beauty of questions without feeling so tied to finding answers. Which ties together nicely with their two new problems to reframe from a listener, who asks abo...

Nat and Bec go rogue in this conversation. A question about New Year's Resolutions spirals into finding something better… a poetic motto? Maybe an action mantra? Nat wonders if they can be less productivity oriented with their "resolutions." Maybe some lines from literature are best of all for teaching us how to live! She offers up Rachel Cusk's Second Place and a poem by Hanif...

Nat has been thinking about loss now that her son is against kisses. It spurs her to write a piece that she shares, called "Loss and Found." The sisters muse about some of their great losses and some of the benefits of experiencing pain—it leads us to empathy.  They manage to get their mom to contribute to the podcast, not in a conversation, but in her own written piece about loss. &quot...

Nat and Bec reframe a new question about the labels we put on our kids. Also they air an interview they have been sitting on with their old friend and singer extraordinaire Felicity Williams. (You might recognize her voice from our opening music!) The theme which resonates through both parts of the episode: the changing seasons of life.  We love hearing from our listeners! Leave us a voice message...

Nat and Bec open with a discussion of Hallowe'en, before diving into what they call their “unscripted experiment” where they bring each other a surprise question to reframe on the spot. Nat's question focuses on how hard she's finding it to take her own (good!) advice. Bec's question is around the question "why?" They dive into each question for fifteen minutes and fe...

This is shame 2.0 for Nat and Bec as they encounter technical difficulties the first time around. For this second time through they dig even deeper into the nuances of guilt, embarrassment and guilt. They discover that Nat is a bit of a rebel and takes an alternative stance whenever she can. Bec feels like her shame is rooted in being "too much." They both muse about how the church upbri...

Bec and Nat open by talking about how they discuss everything with a certain intensity…even eyeliner. Bec asks Nat five questions to help listeners get to know her better. They branch into their topic: new things are hard! Bec’s hard new thing is running a solo business and just doing art in general. Nat feels like teaching is back to being new again. They do a NEW thing on the podcast with their...

Nat and Bec have one of their usual rambling conversations. They discuss the romanticized version of a mentor who is there to teach you all the tricks and walk with you forever, but how that’s next to impossible to find. Bec appreciates gleaning from people’s lives who are different and how that expands her. Nat admits to still wanting someone to swoop in and be a career mentor, especially after h...

Bec tells Nat about an artist’s work she’s recently come across entitled “Shit Moms.” Bec shares that she sometimes feels like a shitty mom, and the sisters then proceed to share stories of their various mom messes. Bec feels more messy than Nat when it comes to how hard she is on herself as a mother. Nat brings up D.W. Winnicott’s notion of the “good enough mother” and tries to help reframe the s...

Nat and Bec open by talking about weird nature. Bec snips invasive caterpillars in half because they can’t exist on her grape vine! Bec jumps to a heavy thought that flits into her mind lately: “I’m ugly. I’m stupid.” Nat calls it a “thought wasp,” taken from Jeanette Winterson’s reframing of the Atlas myth. They discuss the need to protect themselves from the weight of the world. Nat admits to he...

Firstly, Rebecca butchers another name—Craig's Corgi! Bec brings her own fun pronunciation :)  Next, Craig has an epiphany about being the CRAIG behind Craig’s Cookies. They realize “Seven degrees of separation from Craig’s Cookies” could be a new fun game. Craig shares the things he learned from theatre school and how he applied them to being an entrepreneur.   Mostly, Craig does all the wor...

Nat encourages everyone to “fail up” and turn our humiliations into successes! #goals #noregrets Bec and Nat determine that they don’t have one big success to tie them to their past (lucky them!); instead they are resilient types who just keep on chugging.  Bec learns something new about Nat when it comes to Instagram recipes. Bec shares the story of faking her art project in grade 11 and then get...