My Inner Torch

Send us Fan Mail In today's Podcast I emphasize the importance of recognizing your agency in relationships, especially when you find yourself involved with individuals exhibiting Cluster B personality traits, who often show emotional unavailability. I understand that while familial ties may limit my options, you can choose in romantic partnerships and assert self-determination. Reflecting on...

Send us Fan Mail In today's podcast, I explore the complexities and challenges of my relationships with my wife who I suspect has a Cluster B personality disorder. I emphasize the importance of recognizing the signs of dysfunction and reflecting on what constitutes a healthy relationship. I share personal experiences that illustrate my transition from initial attentiveness to feelings of imba...

Send us Fan Mail I often feel frustrated with those of us who romanticize relationships with individuals exhibiting cluster B personality traits, especially during and after a divorce. I remember a specific instance where someone mourned a “best friend” they believed to be a covert narcissist. I found their feelings misguided because these individuals were never true friends. It’s so important to...

Send us Fan Mail In today's podcast, I explore the complexities and emotional turmoil of being in a relationship with someone who exhibits Cluster B personality traits, such as narcissism or borderline personality disorder. I often find myself feeling confused and imbalanced, needing to tread carefully to avoid triggering my emotionally immature partner’s reactions. I have personal experience...

Send us Fan Mail I initiated my podcast in September 2020 as a platform to document my journey while helping others navigate the complexities of relationship dynamics, especially those involving narcissism. Over the past four years, I’ve shared insights about my long-term marriage. Initially, I believed my wife had borderline personality traits, but I now suspect she may be a covert narcissist. I...

Send us Fan Mail In this podcast, I discuss the trauma that comes from relationships with individuals who have Cluster B personality disorders, drawing on my own experiences and the struggle of feeling victimized. I encourage listeners to recognize their self-worth and steer clear of unhealthy relationships, using the metaphor of changing out ill-fitting shoes. Many of us grapple with the decision...

Send us Fan Mail In this podcast “Getting Past Love,” I delve into the challenges of moving on from relationships with individuals who exhibit cluster B personality traits. I focus on my personal experiences of disappointment rather than heartbreak. Reflecting on my disillusionment with my partner, a covert narcissist, I emphasize the absence of genuine love and the toxic dynamics that characteriz...

Send us Fan Mail In today’s podcast I outline nine signs of a toxic relationship in the hope of raising awareness and helping others recognize similar patterns without viewing themselves as victims. I find myself reflecting on the complexities of recognizing a toxic relationship, especially when my wife exhibits traits associated with Cluster B personality disorders, like narcissism. Initially, I...

Send us Fan Mail In today's podcast, I delve into the theme of distorted reality in relationships, particularly with individuals who exhibit Cluster B personality disorders, like narcissism. I share how these individuals manipulate perceptions through tactics such as gaslighting, creating false narratives that lead their partners to overlook abusive behaviors. Often, I find myself and others...

Send us Fan Mail In this podcast, I share my journey through the trauma I experienced from a long-term marriage with someone I suspect is a covert narcissist. I reflect on the early days when I idealized my partner, only to later uncover troubling behaviors and red flags. I delve into the psychological manipulation that often characterizes these relationships, particularly the DARVO concept, where...

Send us Fan Mail I find that self-reflection plays a crucial role in my relationships, especially when dealing with individuals who exhibit Cluster B personality disorders, such as narcissism and borderline personality disorder. I often try to understand my wife’s behaviors, but I realize that I sometimes overlook my own motivations for staying in dysfunctional relationships. Insights from Maria C...

Send us Fan Mail In the podcast “The Long Goodbye,” I explore my emotional struggles within my 23-year marriage to my wife, whom I suspect may be a covert narcissist. I share my feelings of disconnection and describe our relationship as more of a role-play than a genuine bond. Through conversations with friends, I’ve realized I am mourning a relationship that never truly existed. I grapple with th...

Send us Fan Mail In this podcast of My Inner Torch I explore the complexities of my relationships with individuals who exhibit cluster B personality traits, such as narcissism and borderline personality disorder. I’ve noticed a typical progression in these relationships, starting with love bombing and escalating to splitting and eventual discarding, which often leaves me feeling disposable. I stru...

Send us Fan Mail In this 200th podcast of My Inner Torch, I address the loneliness that often accompanies relationships with narcissists, sharing how these dynamics can leave me feeling invisible and unsupported. I emphasize that no matter the type of abuser, if my relationship lacks mutual love and intimacy, it’s not worth holding onto. I discuss my tendency as an empath and people pleaser to abs...

Send us Fan Mail In today's podcast, I want to delve into the challenges of being in a relationship with someone who has a Cluster B personality disorder, particularly focusing on covert narcissists. Contemplating leaving such a relationship can be incredibly painful. Still, I have realized the importance of prioritizing my self-care and envisioning a future where I can heal independently. It...

Send us Fan Mail In this week's podcast, I explore the essence of healthy relationships, underlining trust, effective communication, and mutual interest as vital components. I contrast these ideals with relationships involving individuals with Cluster B personality disorders, citing issues like lack of trust and communication challenges. I urge you to assess your trust in Cluster B partners b...

Send us Fan Mail In this podcast I will discuss the challenges of being in a relationship with individuals exhibiting Cluster B personality traits, urging you to step back and evaluate your own well-being. I emphasize how such relationships can lead to feelings of inadequacy, loneliness, and hopelessness, with us constantly trying to fix things. I will share personal insights, admitting that I wou...

Send us Fan Mail As I reflect on my relationship with my partner whom I suspect to be a covert narcissist, I find myself shouldering the burden of her happiness, only to realize the futility in my efforts to make her happy. It’s a hard truth to accept that Cluster B's are fully aware of their actions and unlikely to change, no matter how much love we pour into the relationship. I’ve struggled...

Send us Fan Mail This podcast delves into the distinction between being a victim and a survivor in relationships with individuals possessing Cluster B personality traits. I stress the significance of acknowledging one’s victimhood before transitioning to a survivor mentality, using my personal experiences with a covert narcissistic partner to illustrate this journey. Healing and change are portray...

Send us Fan Mail This podcast of My Inner Torch explores the significance of self-reflection and self-esteem in relationships, particularly when dealing with individuals having Cluster B personality disorders. I stress the importance of evaluating one’s worth to avoid toxic relationship patterns. I share some personal experiences of overcoming emotional abuse and codependency, emphasizing self-dis...

Send us Fan Mail Today's Podcast delves into the complexities of relationships with Cluster B individuals, particularly covert narcissists, emphasizing the importance of not overlooking past abusive behaviors and not excusing toxic traits. I highlight the challenge of forgiving abusers while questioning whether forgiveness enables harmful behavior. I stress the need for self-reflection to bre...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we delve deep into the manipulative world of Cluster B personalities, including psychopaths, borderlines, and narcissists. These individuals employ deceitful tactics such as sweet talk and love bombing to lure in their victims, leaving a trail of broken promises and emotional devastation in their wake. Join me on a journey through the aftermath of toxic relationsh...

Send us Fan Mail Today I reflect on toxic relationships, particularly with individuals displaying traits of Cluster B personality disorders. I question why we expect intense love from such individuals, only to realize their incapacity to sustain it over time. Terms like narcissist, borderline, and psychopath are used to describe such behaviors, pointing to relational abuse. Despite efforts to diag...

Send us Fan Mail In today's Look Back Listen: 2020 podcast I delve into the challenges faced by individuals in relationships with those who have Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), focusing on emotional intelligence. I share struggles with a spouse exhibiting BPD symptoms, exposing the lack of empathy and distorted reality common in such situations. I touch on the challenges of managing BP...

Send us Fan Mail This podcast explores my personal struggle with staying in a toxic relationship with a Cluster B partner despite being aware of her flaws. Drawing insights from a post in a narcissistic support group, they delve into the lack of empathy in individuals with Cluster B personality disorders and the futility of trying to prove love to such partners. Despite feelings of fear and being...