Modern Manhood: The Podcast

On this episode of Cold Takes, Veronika and I go into what it means to have gendered role models as we reflect how we grew up noticing gender (including school dress codes). We also talk about the death of RBG and try to gingerly walk around the controversy of the movie 'Cuties.' This podcast cannot be done without the support of Next Gen Men, which you can support by subscribing to our online com...

Today we're joined with Garrett Carlson from https://dudefluencer.com/ to talk about his ex career, the one of teaching and what made him leave. His frustrations which mirrored my frustrations. This will be the first of a multi part series on the Education System.  This podcast cannot be done without the support of Next Gen Men, which you can support by subscribing to our online community at nextg...

On this week's Cold Takes, we take a look at what is the slippery slope that can make a socialist or leftist movement unwelcome for women and people of color. We also dive into the politics and masculinity of the documentary "Boys State" https://gen.medium.com/the-lefts-misogyny-problem-3fc37eea6e0e https://medium.com/mel-magazine/advice-for-the-bro-left-from-an-og-socialist-dd45572305cd https://w...

One of the biggest pet peeves I have when I read or look at things about gender, is the amount of assumptions we make around what makes a man and what makes a woman. How many times have you heard the word or phrase: “Men’s brains are like this and they think about sex all the time or they think about being the protector because that’s how they were born to be because of their real life masculine b...

In the latest episode of Cold Takes, we'll investigate what masculinity has to do whether you wear a mask or not. As well we go deep into what universal basic income is and how it can be a project worth fighting for. Masks and Masculinity -  - https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2020/jul/03/covid-19-masks-men-masculinity - https://www.cambridge.org/core/journals/politics-and-gender/article/t...

In the midst of the bigger conversation about Black Lives Matter, Abdul Malik sent me a message about something he has been thinking about for a while, the intersection of his culture within the ever-presence of toxic masculinity and white supremacy. The intersection of race and masculinity is real, and we’re here to talk about it. You can find Abdul Malik at abdulmalik.com or on Twitter @socialis...

Today Veronika has a special treat in which she will share with us some findings of Sexual Violence awareness campaigns she's learned. As well we talk about the Male Happiness Scale and what really makes men happy (Hint: It's Jobs). Research on Sexual Violence Amy R. Baugher and Julie A. Gazmararian: Masculine gender role stress and violence: A literature review and future directions Carline, A.,...

The Murder of George Floyd has sparked an international wave of reconsideration and doubt over many things. Many things that we may have considered as normal. The main one has been around the idea of policing. What does policing look like in the modern world? And is it broken? And do we even need it? Questions that not only question the role of one of the most established institutions that we have...

Two Weeks ago, George Floyd was murdered in the streets of Minneapolis. George Floyd, a black man whose body was treated like nothing, was killed by a police officer, while three other police officers stood by. All of this was caught on camera as another example of police brutality against black people. Ever since then, the cities of the world and especially in the US have exploded with protests,...

Today on Cold Takes, Veronika and I talk about the Joe Biden sexual assault allegations, and the problem of partisanship within the #MeToo movement. As well, we will talk about the crappy neoliberal history of social work.   This podcast cannot be done without the support of Next Gen Men, which you can support by subscribing to our online community at nextgenmen.ca/join You can also subscribe to t...

If you look back at the 2019-2020 hockey season, it should be really eye opening to anyone who considers themselves a hockey fan. First came the misdemeanor charge for Auston Matthews, who intimidated a female security guard. Then came the firing of Mike Babcock and then the revelation of this toxic intimidating mind games towards his younger players, then came the revelations that Flames head coa...

Ask people to define what Positive masculinity is? Well, you’ll get a variety of answers, from being virtuous to being self-reliant, but not too self-reliant; being emotionally open, being a good father, or being a good partner. It gets confusing, especially if we’re looking for examples! There’s a lot! But I get why we as men who really want to relieve ourselves from toxic masculinity want to loo...

CW: Talk about Suicide On today's edition of Cold Takes, Veronika and I talk about the economic impacts for men and women in regards to COVID-19 and how it aligns with the genders. As well we went on a deep dive on the movie 'The Platform' (get it). Articles discussed: The Platform: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RlfooqeZcdY Gender and The Economy: https://www.gendereconomy.org/primer-on-the-gend...

COVID-19 affects the aging population at a greater risk than it does anyone else. Self-isolation we hear time and time again is not so much for us not to get the virus, but it’s so we don’t transmit it to the aging population who are at a higher risk to die. So for this Modern Manhood, you will hear from three aging males tell their stories of their life and the struggles they may face before we e...

In this episode of Modern Manhood, we're going to start something new and hopefully something continous. A way of reacting to the news cycle and having some fluid conversations with someone who is not only a good friend, someone who came up in the volunteer space around gender about the same time. Introducing "Cold Takes" a space to talk about articles and everyday life with my co-host Veronika Il...

For the 100th episode of Modern Manhood, I want to think about the future. I asked people from the r/MensLib and Next Gen Men community to send me recordings of what they think the future of masculinity would be like. And you will hear my thoughts on the future of politics and culture in regard to gender. As well as ponder about the end of gender.  Everyday Sociology article: https://www.everydays...

Cleo Stiller is the writer of Modern Manhood: Conversations about the Complicated World of Bring a Good Man Today, and we had an awesome chat about the book Modern Manhood, (obviously our values align here) and where the conversation about some of these tough issues around gender begin, and where we can go.  As well, there is a SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT You can find all of Cleo's work at cleostiller.ne...

(CW: Sexual Assault) I know of Kobe Bryant. I know the titles, I know the 81 points, I know when he wanted to be called Black Mamba like in Kill Bill, I know the commercials, I have even said “Kobe!” when I shoot paper basketballs at garbage cans. I also know about the rape case, I know about Denver, I know about the trial, and I know about the arrest.  What is appropriate to say at these times? A...

Today, we speak to writer Barrett Swanson, who attended an EVRYMAN men's retreat and wrote about it for Harper’s for a piece titled "Men at Work". He will tell us through his eyes, what some of the red flags, emotionally, physical, and sociological groups like EVRYMAN can be.  You can find Barrett at: https://www.barrettswanson.com/ Men At Work you can read here: https://static1.squarespace.com/st...

On the last episode of Modern Manhood, we surveyed the landscape of masculinity in the last ten years starting from Tony Porter’s Man Box and the election of Rob For all the way to end of 2017 In this episode, the first of 2020, we continue the conversation with Jake Stika, Executive Director at Next Gen Men, highlighting what caused ripples in the world of gender and masculinity.  Starting from V...

It’s been ten years since Tony Porter introduced The Man Box to us. A tool and a theory that has shaped the way we see gender with men, and the system that hurts us and hurts others.  But a theory is only as good as it’s proof of concept. And you can say that in the last ten years The Man Box theory has been proven over and over again. On this episode and the one after this of Modern Manhood, we’l...

Lately, we have seen a lot of warnings. From moms, dads, from adults that are worried about their sons. Their sons, for the most part, are easily susceptible and can be easily manipulated into communities online that are toxic, unhelpful, and in some cases downright dangerous. Most of this is happening online, and for a lot of caregivers, they are fighting an everyday battle to just understand wha...

Learning about masculinities, gender power structures, and feminist ideals can be key when people are organizing to fight the climate crisis.  So in this episode of Modern Manhood, we’re going to take some of the beautiful speeches done at the Wolfpack about the environment, and weave it with ideas and thoughts about masculinity and the environment. Links: https://www.nationalobserver.com/2019/11/...

The way Albertans reconcile with the Oil industry is a major way in which Albertans see their own identity, and the people who work in the oil patches are also in the crossfires and have been for ages. The rates of suicides went up, the rates of negative mental health have also gone up.  Today we talk to Dylan Rhys Howard, one of the directors for the documentary "Digging in the Dirt" which talks...

Oil and Gas dominated the conversation for both elections here, and the people involved are caught in the crossfire. The workers who are mostly men have come to demonstrate the stereotype of Alberta men, the pickup driving, beer-drinking, hard ass.  Yet, they are just humans as well. How has this industry affected the men who work there, and affected the community around it? The way that we look a...