Married to Addiction

My guest for this episode is Tanya Gioia, a Family Recovery Coach and host of the 'Sober on Purpose' podcast. Tanya and I discuss financial infidelity, which is something that affects most marriages where addiction is involved due to the addict's continual need for substances. We'll outline exactly what financial infidelity is, how it shows up, what to do if it is happening in your relationship, a...

In this episode I am speaking with one of my Secret Sisters Circle members about her journey as the wife of an alcoholic. I think you will find SO many relatable shares in this episode. I hope it encourages you and helps you feel less alone, knowing that others can relate to *so* many of the things that you are going through. If you'd like to join us in the Secret Sisters Circle (or just learn...

Are you unknowingly setting yourself up for more pain, heartache and frustration as the wife of an alcoholic? Sometimes along this journey we end up inadvertently doing things that actually make it even harder for us. In this episode I will share with you three things you might be doing to set yourself up, and we will talk about how they might be harming you. If you are currently doing any of thes...

Sure wish I could've found someone to give me a dollar every time I said that back when my husband was deep in addiction! I would be rolling in the dough. It seemed so obvious to me back then. Most of my problems stemmed from my husband's drinking. Therefore if he stopped drinking so would my problems. In this episode we will talk about the BIG problem with this way of thinking. I'll a...

Obviously we focus mostly on alcoholism here on the podcast because that is the type of addiction that I walked through personally with my husband. But what about other types of addiction? How do they differ and how are they the same? Is there anything that we as wives need to do differently depending on what our husband is addicted to? We'll talk about all of that in this episode. -----------...

Triggers. As wives of alcoholics we experience them daily. Sometimes even multiple times a day. They affect us to or core: emotionally, mentally, and many times even physically. (Ever felt sick to your stomach when you realize your husband has been drinking?) They also affect what we *do*. And sometimes we do things that are not in our best interest because of our triggers. So in this episode I wi...

Staying stuck in the negativity of being married to an alcoholic is a place where most wives stay, at least for a while. I mean, it's understandable....this is a really hard thing to go through. And it's hard not to find yourself drowning in the difficulty of it all. Problem is that when we stay there it *poisons* us. And the longer you stay there the worse it gets. But HOW can we not stay...

Let's talk about silence. When is it good? When is it bad? And how can we know the difference? In this episode I'll talk about the value...and danger...of intentionally using silence in your relationship with your alcoholic husband. -------------------------------------------------------- PLEASE NOTE: This podcast is pre-recorded, so not all offers mentioned/listed will be currently availa...

It can feel like the last thing we are concerned about as the wife of an alcoholic....caring for ourselves. We are usually so caught up in our husband's life that we feel like we just *don't* have the time or energy to worry about us. But as a result we fall deeper and deeper into a pit of neglect, ending up a shell of our former selves. And when you add that to all of the emotional trauma...

Hope. It feels like all we have sometimes as wives of alcoholics. And sometimes we don't even have that. In this episode I will share a shift that you need to make where hope is concerned. And it's a *really* important one. ------------------------------------------ PLEASE NOTE: This podcast is pre-recorded, so not all offers mentioned/listed will be currently available. 👉🏻 For a current...

That 'stuck' feeling is the worst, isn't it? You're not happy where you are, but you don't feel like you can do anything about it. But what if I told you that's not the case? In this episode I'll talk about why we feel stuck, where those feeling really come from, and exactly what you can do about it. Also....please plan to join me for my upcoming FREE online event calle...

Does your head feel really loud right now? Does it seem that the more you look for answers the more confused you get? In this episode I will talk about how our search for clarity as wives of alcoholics can actually make us more confused instead. I'll also give you some direction on a different way to approach things that will likely feel SO much better than what you have been doing. ----------...

Should you just 'wait it out' in your marriage if you don't feel like you have clear direction from God? Not always. In this episode I talk about five different scenarios in which you should strongly consider a change. In these cases there is too much at stake, so it is probably best to make a change first, and then wait for divine direction from there. --------------------------------...

In this third part of our three-part series on how we have to navigate our way through this a bit differently as Christian wives of alcoholics we are talking about the shame and isolation that can make its way into our lives. We can begin to feel like we have nowhere to turn, and that we can't even talk to anyone at our church in a lot of cases, which keeps us in hiding. Because of this we oft...

This is the second episode in a three-part series about how this journey as the wife of an alcoholic is different for us as women of faith. In this episode I talk about how we can encounter some confusion around our faith. I'll also discuss the other types of difficult feelings we can come up against where our faith is concerned, and what to do with those feelings. This is an important one. Pl...

This episode begins a three-part series on navigating your husband's addiction as a Christian wife. I feel that we come up against some additional challenges when we are in this position as a woman of faith, and I think it's important to talk about those challenges. In this episode I will discuss balancing forgiveness and empathy with boundaries. This can be a tricky line to walk, so I hop...

Oh, the holidays. They can seem pretty lackluster as the wife of an alcoholic. For some of us they are the most difficult time of the whole year. And for many of us, no one even knows what we are going through which can make it all seem that much harder. So first of all....I SEE YOU. I know firsthand how hard this time of year can be. But I also want you to know that the holiday season doesn't...

You hear it on airplanes all the time: 'Put your mask on first'. But what does that mean for us as as the wife of an alcoholic? In this episode we talk about why 'putting our mask on first' is so important, how it can help us and those around us, and ways you can start. If you don't feel like you can breathe right now then please listen to this episode. ------------------------...

So your husband has decided to attempt sobriety. You thought you'd be blissfully happy when this time came, but are instead finding parts of it challenging, or even annoying. In this episode we will talk about things we need to keep in mind if our husband is trying to stop drinking. It's important for every wife to give this one a listen, even if your husband isn't currently at this po...

When my husband was addicted I became such a good detective that I bet the Scooby Doo gang would've hired me in an instant. I worked hard to figure out all his drinking habits. I thought I was 'good' at it, and walked around with a smug sense of pride and superiority because of it. It hurts my heart to say that now. Because looking back it only made things worse. In this episode we&#39...

You've heard it before, I'm sure: An alcoholic has to 'be ready' for recovery. But what does that mean exactly? And how do they get there? Is there anything we can do to hurry it along? In this episode I will share an analogy with you that I think will really help you understand the concept of 'being ready' for recovery. Thanks for tuning in. _______________________________...

This is a scenario I hear about a lot. Many of our husbands' early (or even late) attempts at sobriety will be trying to do it on their own. Is that ever successful? What are the challenges around that? What things can make it actually possible? We'll talk about all of that in this episode. __________________________________________ PLEASE NOTE: This podcast is pre-recorded, so not all off...

It's probably been about everyone but you for a while now, hasn't it? I get it. I was in the same position when my husband was addicted. But here's the thing... If you keep ignoring YOU, then you will keep sinking deeper and deeper into a pit of despair. And that, dear sister, is no way to live. It's time to make room for you . It's time to focus on your recovery. I'll give...

Nothing changes if nothing changes. If we feel like we are being prompted to make a shift then we need to listen to that. It can be difficult because change often feels uncomfortable, but God knows where He is trying to lead us so we need to trust that He will never steer us wrong. In this episode we will talk about a shift that is coming for Married to Addiction, and also the possibility that it...

Have you heard the term 'dry drunk'? What does that mean? Is your husband considered a dry drunk now? Why does it occur? And what can we do if our husband is exhibiting 'dry drunk' behaviors? We will tackle all of that in this episode. __________________________________________ PLEASE NOTE: This podcast is pre-recorded, so not all offers mentioned/listed will be currently available...