Low Demand Parenting

When I started practicing low demand parenting, it wasn’t because I read a book or found a perfect system. It was because our family hit a wall—and nothing else was working. One of the very first mindset shifts that saved me, and continues to guide me every single day, is this: shifting from won’t to can’t.   This episode is all about that shift—from believing our kids (or ourselves) won’t do...

Toileting struggles, periods, and body care—these are some of the trickiest internal demands our kids face. When a child refuses to wear a seatbelt, smears poop, or struggles with managing their period, how do we support them in a way that respects their nervous system while still meeting real needs?   In this episode, I break down:   •   What internal demands are and why they can b...

How do you create a low-demand partnership while raising neurodivergent kids? This week, I sit down with Lindsay and Daryl Flanagan—fellow low-demand parents—who share their journey of shifting from traditional parenting to a more intuitive, needs-centered approach. We explore how dropping demands for each other and for our children has transformed their relationship and family life. In this episo...

In this heartfelt and insightful episode, I dive into the essential work of teaching our kids to trust themselves, even when the world tells them otherwise. Using real-life examples, I share how traditional parenting approaches—like pushing through discomfort or faking calm—can break trust and escalate stress. Instead, I advocate for dropping the demands, honoring a child’s “no,” and embracing co-...

Episode Resources:   Aligning with Yourself Course : Designed to help you shed perfectionism and show up in your truth, this course supports you through tough seasons like burnout. [Learn more here]   Episode 11: Burnout Doesn't Last Forever.   In this listener mailbag episode, I tackle the tough questions about phase two of burnout recovery—what I call Curious but No...

In this honest and heartfelt conversation with clinical psychologist and author Dr. Emma Svanberg, known online as the "Mumologist," we explore the intersection of grief and parenting. Emma shares her journey from studying attachment theory to supporting parents in navigating the overwhelming pressures of modern parenting. Together, we unpack the grief that arises when reality doesn’t match our id...

In a lovely and inspiring conversation on The Low Demand Parenting Podcast , Amanda Diekman sits down with Iris Chen, founder of Untigering, to discuss her journey from authoritarian parenting to a radically respectful and connected approach. Together, they explore: Detoxing from authoritarian and fear-based parenting Breaking free from the "good girl" and "good mom" identities Letting go of obedi...

Burnout can feel endless and all-consuming, both for children experiencing it and for the parents navigating it alongside them. In this solo episode, I’m sharing four key steps to understand and support your child’s journey out of burnout. We’ll tackle common misconceptions, unpack what burnout truly is, and explore how to create a healing cocoon of safety and love. I’ll also outline the stages of...

In this episode of The Low Demand Parenting Podcast , Amanda Diekman welcomes Debbie Reber, founder of Tilt Parenting and author of Differently Wired . Together, they delve into the unique challenges and strengths of raising twice-exceptional (2E) kids—children who are both gifted and neurodivergent. From understanding asynchrony to fostering self-advocacy and embracing parenting as activism, this...

In this special Holiday Mailbag episode, Amanda Diekman answers listener questions about navigating the holidays as a low-demand parent. From food struggles to Santa dilemmas, and handling judgment in public, Amanda offers compassionate insights and practical strategies for making this season work for your unique family. Key topics include: Supporting kids with PDA who struggle with eating. Naviga...

In this episode of The Low Demand Parenting Podcast , Amanda Diekman breaks down why the dominant parenting paradigm of rewards and punishments isn’t serving our kids—or us. Grounded in brain science and personal insight, Amanda shares how focusing on connection and attunement unlocks long-term trust, regulation, and growth in our children. Through real-life examples and a compassionate lens, Aman...

In this deeply empathetic mailbag episode of the Low Demand Parenting Podcast , Amanda Diekman answers two listener questions about navigating the challenges of dysregulated kids: Physical Aggression and Meltdowns : What do you do when your child is physically aggressive, whether toward you or siblings? Amanda shares strategies for: De-escalation : Dropping demands in the moment to reduce tension...

In this deeply engaging episode of The Low Demand Parenting Podcast , Amanda Diekman sits down with Morénike Giwa Onaiwu—an activist, advocate, and thought leader in neurodiversity and intersectionality. Together, they unpack how intersectionality informs low demand parenting, highlighting the overlap of privilege and marginalization in parenting and life. From understanding how societal norms roo...

Permissive parenting has been labeled the boogeyman of modern parenting—but is it time to rethink what "permissive" really means? In this episode, I unpack the history of parenting styles, challenge the fear and judgment around permissiveness, and explore why flexibility, collaboration, and permission might just be the tools we desperately need to raise thriving, neurodivergent kids. Join me as we...

  In this mailbag episode, I answer listener questions about one of the things I get asked most: How to balance adult needs with low demand parenting. We dive into what to do when your family isn’t on board with low demand and how to meet your own core needs when your kid can’t leave the house for months. From finding support as a low demand parent to managing a PDA child’s need for closeness...

In this episode, Amanda speaks with Dr. Megan Anna Neff, psychologist and co-host of the   Neurodivergent Conversations   podcast, to discuss how understanding the nervous system changes everything about parenting. They explore how stress responses affect both parents and children, the power of co-regulation, and why meltdowns are more than just big emotions. Dr. Neff shares insights on...

What it's about: In this episode of   The Low Demand Parenting Podcast , I’m diving into what low demand parenting really looks like. As an autistic adult, mom of three, and someone who’s been on this journey myself, I’ve seen firsthand how letting go of traditional parenting pressures opens the door to more trust, connection, and joy in our families. Inspired by Ross Green’s Collaborative an...

What it's about: In this very first episode of   The Low Demand Parenting Podcast , I share the story behind my journey into low demand parenting. It all started when my middle child faced autistic burnout during the pandemic, and I realized that traditional parenting approaches were breaking us down. Through this episode, I explain how letting go of expectations and embracing trust, connecti...

Welcome to The Low Demand Parenting Podcast, where we drop the pressure, find the joy, and thrive—even when life feels like it’s stuck on level 12 hard. I’m Amanda Diekman, author, autistic adult, and mom of three. But more than anything, I’m a fellow traveler on this wild parenting journey. if you’re ready to parent with more joy, less pressure, and a whole lot of compassion for yourself and your...