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Asexuality Has Always Existed—Even Without a Name Before the labels, there was already recognition. Before I ever knew the word asexual, I had already lived the experience. In many precolonial African societies, there were people who were not driven by sexual desire. Not out of repression or trauma, but because their energies were directed elsewhere—toward spiritual work, community memory, guardia...

The Hidden Lessons: How Critics and Enemies Sharpened My Growth There are moments in life when feedback arrives wrapped not in kindness, but in hostility. Sometimes, the most honest feedback comes laced with hostility—delivered by those rooting for your failure, whether out of envy, resentment, or their own woundedness. And yet, what they offer, often unknowingly, is something far more useful than...

Feminism, Gynarchy, or Matriarchy? Lov(ette) or Leave It — Episode 4: This episode is drawn from a recorded expert lecture on matriarchal governance, patriarchal systems, and feminist theory, originally delivered to researchers, policy advisors, and institutional leaders across three continents. It challenges the growing misuse of “matriarchy” in Western feminist discourse and clarifies why true m...

Self-Care That Makes Sense for Autistic and Neurodivergent Women I’m Lovette Jallow, autistic, ADHD, and committed to sharing tools that center self-respect, not self-optimization. I write for those of us who live at the intersection of sensory overwhelm, survival planning, and emotional nuance. This series offers short-form strategies rooted in lived experience, disability awareness, and autonomy...

ot everyone who calls you ‘sis’ or ‘bro’ actually means it. Overfamiliarity is often a manipulation tactic —a way for people to fast-track relationships, bypass boundaries, and gain access to your time, resources, or emotional energy without actually earning trust. For autistic individuals , who take words literally, this false closeness can be particularly disorienting. But this isn’t just a pers...

Understanding Autistic Loneliness: When You’re Surrounded But Still Alone I’m Lovette Jallow, an award-winning author, speaker, and consultant specializing in neurodiversity, intersectionality, and human rights. As a Black Autistic woman with ADHD (AuDHD), I know what it’s like to exist in spaces that don’t offer the same curiosity, care, or reciprocity that I extend to others. Autistic loneliness...