How to Be Human

Anger is often seen as a volatile, intense reaction, but it’s crucial to let yourself feel the full range of emotions. Unfortunately, women are held to a different standard when it comes to expressing anger and are often made to feel like their experience is invalid. On today’s episode, Anna and Nina discuss their relationship with anger and how they work to channel that energy into a positive, ac...

Anna and Nina have realized that they tend to attract clients that want answers about their purpose in life, or are looking to generate hope around things that feel impossibly hard.  So many of us go about seeking purpose backwards and struggle with feeling like we need to be good enough for our destiny, rather than accepting that purpose is neutral and exists in many containers. Anna and Nin...

We know that if we want to go far, we need to go together, and yet many of us struggle with feelings of jealousy, rivalry, and competition.  Anna has a relatively healthy relationship with jealousy in that she can admit when she feels it, but she doesn't personalize it. Same goes for when other people are jealous of her一she’s become more aware of it, but simultaneously more open to understan...

Applying life lessons sounds so clear and easy, but actually embodying what you know and putting it into practice can be challenging. On today’s episode, Anna and Nina talk about some of the major things that they’ve had to learn the hard way, and what sort of lessons they’re currently working through.  One of the most transformative lessons that Anna has learned is that she doesn't have to t...

On today’s episode, Anna and Nina do a deep dive on the origins of Tarot, explain their approach to reading, and address some of the common misconceptions about the practice.  Traditionally, Tarot is a pack of 78 cards with five suits, but there have been endless variations since the original Italian Visconti-Sforza deck debuted around the year 1450. At its core, Tarot is used as a way to gai...

Expressing and receiving love is something that seems universal, but communication styles, especially when it comes to romantic relationships, are highly individualized and nuanced. On today’s episode, Nina and Anna use Dr. Gary Chapman’s The Five Love Languages as a jumping off point to reflect on their current and previous partnerships and discuss how their perspectives on love and marriage have...

Forgiving others is a difficult emotional process. For Nina, it presents itself as anger; for Anna, it’s triggering. We all carry it with us and over time it can lead to physical ailments as much as burnout or resentment. Only you can give yourself closure and only you can do the work, however far back it may go. It’s not about the other person or the apology you most likely will not receive. It’s...

We live in a culture where burnout is the norm. Depression, aggression, and fear are all symptoms of burnout, and oftentimes these lead to physical symptoms–headaches, stomachaches, intestinal issues, etc. So what do you do when experiencing burnout? The secret is to do something. For some, it may be to acknowledge you’re in burnout and talk to someone about it. For others, it may be to go on a wa...

Resentments run deep. Some therapists could even refer to it as a mood. What are we truly feeling? Let’s first acknowledge the resentment and sit with it. Where does it go from there? Are we jealous or are we angry? What part are we playing in these feelings? What if we step in the other person’s shoes and explore their perspective? Join Nina & Anna on today’s episode as they pull back the lay...

Spirituality means feeling, seeing, believing something bigger than ourselves - often an awareness outside of religion, tradition, or intellectual understanding. Our energy can be transformed throughout the day through this awareness and intentional connection between our mind, body, and soul. Anna + Nina believe anything can be spiritual including practicing gratitude for every day things and cir...

Control doesn’t run by itself. It has two buddies and runs in a pack with fear and anxiety. This leads us to ask, is all control negative? When is it appropriate to take control? How do you know when you’re in the thralls of someone controlling? When you’ve grown up in an environment with a controlling family member, it’s familiar and comforting to find those characteristics in someone as an adult...

Let’s talk about fear. Nine times out of ten it is often about your past. And in the present day, anxiety and fear can be best buds. Worry is not love and being afraid of something feeds negative energy. What happens if we give into fear? What are we actually afraid of? If we say it out loud, is it possible it won’t be scary anymore? What if we are scared of the evil of the world? How do we cope w...

How do we define sexuality? Our society taught us little about sex - maybe a banana in gym class or a book from a parent, but nothing we could actually understand or embody and take with us later. In today's episode we explore the evolution of sexuality and how we can better understand ourselves within it. In this episode of How To Be Human , Nina & Anna unravel their understanding of sexualit...

There is no hard line for selfishness. If you take time for yourself, are you selfish? If you prefer water to sweet tea but they only have sweet tea, are you selfish? To have a wedding or not have a wedding, which is more selfish? Selfishness is complex with a lot of layers. Join Nina & Anna on today’s episode as they muddle through the negatives, the positives, and the boundaries everyone sho...

Death is often a subject not talked about, even with our closest loved ones. Everybody has experienced death differently. The one thing we do know for sure in this world is we are all going to die. But, another thing we also know for sure is we are all going to live. Why are we so afraid of our timeline? What is it we’re actually afraid of? How often do you think about death? We often think what’s...

In today’s episode, we discuss the topic of victimhood, what that means and how it may be the result of painful ad traumatic experiences. More specifically, we dive into the topics of how to build a support system while struggling through a traumatic event, learning how to move forwards with our life, and how to transition into the healing process. It can be hard to move out of the vicious cycle o...

In today’s episode, we discuss the topic of clarity, what that means, and how it manifests in our everyday lives. More specifically, we dive into how to overcome that initial fear of improving clarity in a relationship, listening to others, and the importance of honesty in building a healthy relationship.  Today we also explore how clarity is the ability to be easily understood, think clearly...

What is the difference between the subconscious and conscious mind? In this week’s episode, we discuss the unique qualifiers of these two parts of our brain. As such, we talk about how one side allows us to rationalize our actions and think logically (the conscious mind,) whereas the subconscious mind is responsible for involuntary actions and instinct. Today, we also discuss how we can access the...

In today’s episode, we discuss the topic of beginnings, what that means and how it manifests in our everyday lives. More specifically, we dive into how to overcome that initial fear of trying something new, forming a deep bond with someone, or just allowing yourself to try a new hobby. It is important to move forward in life with a new story that conveys your authentic self, dreams, survival, and...

What is your process? A lot of us have been using some sort of system to make goals and track progress since before we were in school. Processes can help us feel organized and accomplished, but they can also be a major source of tension, especially for people who crave instant gratification. Today, we discuss what processes can look like in terms of work, emotions, and relationships. We get into w...

Failure is a necessary step to achieving success; however, too often we attach our own self-worth to the stumbles and falls we experience in life along the way. As a result, this ingrained fear of rejection causes us to hold back from achieving our full potential. This week, we discuss how we can re-channel our energy to view failure in a more positive and constructive light.  With so much pr...

We have all experienced it at one point or another in our lives, that feeling of others perceiving us in an extreme or negative light. It might happen when we interact with our friends, meet new strangers, or give a presentation to our coworkers. In today’s episode, we will discuss some of our best tips and strategies to feel less self-conscious in our everyday lives.  When we become overly s...

Discipline allows us to ensure that we are paving our way towards specific goals or healthy habits. That said, whatever it is that we decide to be disciplined in, it should stem from a place of entertainment and pleasure. More often than not, we correlate discipline with feelings of strong negative emotions. Rather than punishment, it is important to teach discipline in the form of habits. This cr...

In this week’s episode, we explore the topic of boundaries — whether that may be physical or emotional. Sometimes setting boundaries is an important aspect of self-care that maintains our own safety and wellbeing. Too often, the fear of rejection prevents us from setting these boundaries. Instead, we might compromise our values or try to appease someone else to not feel like a bad person. As we ta...

What is the psychology of choice? It explores why we subconsciously make the decisions that we do, what motivates those decisions, and what we need to do to make these choices work in our lives. Sometimes lack of information or decreased self-trust causes us to change these decisions. During this process, we lose sight of what is important to us and why we decided on a specific choice in the first...