Healthy Wealthy & Wise Relationships

Today, I’m going to navigate from my norm. I’m going to speak about a pet peeve of mine that…well, let’s just say, it takes me there. I’m not asking for opinions or confirmation today. This is all about me being in my feelings and speaking my mind. Yep, speaking my mind. I titled this one, What the He double hockey sticks are you thinking…he’s married.  Why are you dating a married man? I don...

Trigger warning: I discuss the act of rape in this episode. What did he or she say? They said something that hurt your feelings, made you think…what’s REALLY going on or said something that you want to believe so much that no matter what their past behavior was, you believe it anyway. Not only that, you continue to believe it until the lie hurts so bad…you have no other choice than to let that per...

Has there ever been a time in your life where you’ve felt that you’ve lost who you are? Lost everything you’ve built. I mean, the dreams you once had are gone. The person who would stand up for herself exists no more. The mani-pedi self-care days have disappeared. The long bubble baths where Calgon or Goddess Nectar Milk Bath no longer take you away to peace and calm. Books you used to curl up wit...

This week you’ll find out if you’re in love or just addicted to love.  Talkspace therapist Rachel O’Neill, Ph. D., explains, “You develop a pathological need to replicate the feeling of being in love when you’re addicted to love.” When someone becomes addicted to drugs or alcohol, it’s something they are overwhelmingly convinced that they can’t do without. It gives them ‘something’ that makes...

Are you practicing self-love? Not the narcissistic everything is always about me, love. I'm talking about being there for YOU. Listening to what your intuition is telling you. Doing the hard work and digging in deep to see why you feel unlovable...why you accept toxicity in your relationships. #iyanlavanzant    #lesbrown    Comments are welcome: 872-256-3072

What if you decided that THIS Valentine’s Day the focus would be on celebrating and loving YOU? Everyone is in some type of relationship but what about your relationship with yourself? My mom used to tell me that focusing on yourself is selfish. That you should focus on others and put them first. Well, that sounds good, we should focus on others, but unless we learn how to love ourselves how do we...

Vindication. What does that word mean? When you are vindicated, your name is cleared. You are defended successfully; proven to be valid; supported, and cleared of blame or suspicion. When you are validated by someone you never saw it coming from it feels really, really, good, especially when you value that person’s opinion of you. It’s like being acquitted of something you didn’t do but were convi...

I know, it’s scary, just thinking about leaving the person whom you’ve given your all to. The one who told you he loved you and maybe who you share children with…the one who has shown you some good times, the one you’ve grown accustomed to…but trust me…the light is so much brighter on the other side of abuse. No, I’m not saying your life will immediately get better because it won’t. What I am sayi...

This is #3 of 4 episodes in this series. Escaping into the New Year, Going off the Grid. Week 1 shows you how to mentally prepare to leave your abusive relationship, week 2 explains why we continuously attract abusive relationships, week 3 I shared the traumatic effects domestic violence has on your child…and this week I’m showing you action steps to leave. Leaving is something you must do, so you...

You probably aren’t even thinking that the child you are carrying or have carried would ever witness domestic violence, but because it’s happening to you, it’s happening to them. Even while the child is in your womb, they feel emotions. Whatever you are feeling, so is your child. Are you feeling fear? So is your child. That same child who is now sitting at the dinner table, as you and the abuser a...

Statistically, the victim leaves and goes back to their abusive relationship 7 times. You don’t have to become that statistic. You can leave and not go back. It’s important that you do this so you can give yourself the chance to thrive, so your children can have a chance at knowing what a healthy and loving relationship resembles, away from the abuse they’ve been witnessing. Next week, I’m going t...

For the next 4 Wednesdays, I am going to give you insight into how you can leave your abusive relationship in 2022. Through these next 4 Podcasts called Escaping into the New Year, you’ll get practical and actionable steps that build upon each other so you can definitely achieve this exciting goal and start your new life healthier, wealthier, and wiser. Only you can take these steps up to a better...

Do you know of someone or have you experienced back to back lies, innuendos, lost hope, someone telling you something happened that didn’t being forced to have sex, continuous threats against you or your family, someone belittling you to build themselves up, being constantly called – texted—or stalked…all from someone you are in an intimate relationship with…in the name of love? That’s called dome...

Do you want someone else to define you? When you don't know who you are, that's what will happen. You'll go into relationship after relationship expecting your mate to tell you what to do, like, and who to be. Who wants to live like that? Learn how to get to know YOU. Here are the links I mentioned: https://www.myersbriggs.org/my-mbti-personality-type/mbti-basics/ https://likeananchor.com/2017/07/...

According to Wayne Dyer: “We do not attract what we want; we attract what we are.”  When you have done the hard work of becoming a whole person, not needing someone else to complete you, then you can have a healthy, wealthy, and wise, loving relationship. Do you have a list stating your 'must haves' in romantic relationships? , Of all of the things on your must-have list, which ones are your...

According to, Kristen Hick, at the Center for Shared Insight, PC, “When you are desperate for love, you are more inclined to rush relationship milestones or find yourself in rebound relationships or relationships that you choose too quickly without fully understanding the lessons of the previous relationship.” Desperation leaves you in despair, bitter, and judgmental. On top of that, people can sm...

If you are considering or are in a relationship with someone who is excessively jealous under the guise of love, is hypervigilant in his desire to know where you are at all times and who blows small things out of proportion, or someone who takes over the entire conversation by talking about himself, or who isolates you from your friends and family, be on the lookout. You are not entering into or i...

You live with yourself every day, so you have to treat yourself better so that you can begin to attract better into your life. Once you start exercising that ‘be kind to yourself muscle’, you’ll wonder why you hadn’t done it sooner. When you don’t stop and look seriously at what’s happening to YOU, around you, with you, that’s when you are intentionally choosing not to be kind to yourself. You’re...

When you’re true to yourself you don’t do things that go against your grain, your morals, your values. You don’t take awesome care of someone else while neglecting yourself. You don’t make it a point to make your mate's life seamless while you begin to resent him because what you’re doing is not being reciprocated in any way at any time. If anything in today's Podcast resonated with you, please em...

Your intuition really is your guide. It's that nudge you get when something isn't right. It's your Northern Star. You really can avoid getting into a toxic relationship by paying close attention to how you feel around a person or by listening intently to a person's words and definitely by seeing if the walk the talk.

The purpose of this Podcast is to help you, control, alt, delete your pattern of negative choices that keep sabotaging your life and allowing toxic people a place in your life. In a nutshell, I want to educate, encourage, and empower you to become the dynamic person you were created to be and become comfortable, confident, and courageous in your own skin. I don’t specifically know your situation,...