Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And Guide

Conflict is normal, natural, and a healthy part of a long-term, intimate relationship. Yet, it is all too common to get stuck in power struggles and painful conflict patterns, which can lead to negativity loops, relationship dissatisfaction, and discontent. How do you shift conflict patterns if they have been in effect for a while? How do you change the dynamic if you and your partner have been pa...

If you have ever experienced a time when your significant other is experiencing pain or difficulty for any length of time, then you know – it is extremely challenging to stay balanced, positive, and constructive. As much as you would like to take their pain or difficulty away, you cannot make it better for them or do their work for them. All you can do is take care of your side of things and show-...

Last week, I started talking about the topic of  How to feel more confident in Relationship . A listener asked me to talk about how to deal with social anxiety, awkwardness, and embarrassment. Most of have felt some level of insecurity, inadequacy, or lack of confidence in relationship. Here are some tips to help you feel more capable, confident, and self-assured when relating to others: If you mi...

Most of have felt some level of insecurity, inadequacy or lack of confidence in relationship. Here are some tips to help you feel more capable, confident, and self-assured when relating to others: BE AWARE OF YOUR BODY POSTURE: Neurochemical response to your body posture –  Ted Talk  by Amy Cuddy Shoulders back, chin up, or victory pose Exercise: Collapse your posture and look down and say "I feel...

What is love? This may be more of a philosophical question or construct (conceptual or subjective), but we do have some information about types of love. Recently I wrote an article referencing the Triangular Theory Of Love and ancient greek words for love, before sharing my nine types of love in relationship. If you would like to read it, you can find it  here . Each person will define love differ...

What is a "Do over?" A "do over" is having or taking the opportunity to try something a second time. Learning Curve When we are learning something new, we rarely get it right the first time. Children playing together are a great example of what is possible with a "do over." Children will commonly ask for a "do over" or freely ask to try again. Many of us have the expectation that we should know ho...

In this episode, we are exploring how to deal with feelings of anger in relationship. Anger is a healthy, normal, and natural emotion. Anger is a cue. It lets us know that something is hurting us or has crossed a line. The  way  we deal with anger makes it destructive or constructive. Anger is often a secondary emotion. Meaning, there is a primary emotion underneath the anger, like feeling hurt or...

Show Notes: Be sure to listen to the episode to hear stories, examples, and more tips. In this episode, we continue exploring what contributes to the experience of feeling lonely and disconnected in relationship. If you ...

Show Notes: Be sure to listen to the episode to hear stories, examples, and more tips. Here are some reasons why we feel lonely in relationship and what we can do about it.   We are defended and ...

In a recent study , Lee and his colleagues looked at the impact of a "unity" mindset versus a "journey" mindset on relationship satisfaction. Participants were asked to take a quiz, which exposed them ...

A listener submitted this topic for this week's online relationship help episode, which is How To Stop The Drama In Relationship. We all probably have different definitions of "relationship drama," but I am referring to ...

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Technological devices are a part of our lives. Most of us have smartphones and use them consistently throughout the day. They are impacting the quality of our relationships, our attention, and ability to be present.

Wedding Ceremony In this episode, you will hear my husband, Reid Peterson, and I share a little bit about our journey and some of what has been significant to us over the last several years. Recording this ...

In this episode, I share my personal story of falling in love and having relationship challenges. Hear how I dealt with it, what I learned, and what ultimately ended up happening for me. Here are the ...

All too often, we avoid challenges in our relationship. Either we don't know how to address our concerns skillfully or we are afraid of creating tension and upset. While we want to increase the likelihood ...

The Relational Approach emphasizes the priority of the relationship. It puts the focus on the quality of connection and bond, rather than any task or agenda at hand. Here are 4 C's to help you practice ...

Agreements help foster clarity, confidence, progress, and trust. Setting up a conversation for success can be the most important part of being effective. STATING & ASKING Men will often use the language, "We should ________." Women will often use the language, "Do you want to _______." Goal is to use transparent and clear language, like, "I would like _______. What do you want?   CHECKING IT OUT &...

Our expectations inform how we relate and react to others. Usually, we don't stop to look at why we have certain expectations and whether or not they serve our relationships.  Even when our expectations go ...

Expectations can fuel and motivate how we relate and react to our partners. Commonly, we expect our partners to treat us in a particular way and love us in the way that we want to ...

What are the ways you offer support when your partner is having a difficult time? While most of us will have a few answers to this question, it may be another story in the heat of the moment. Picture your partner being very upset, see what happens for you internally when you imagine this scenario. It is common to feel a sense of tightening in your body or have some type of reaction or concern. You...

Many times we know we need to take action, but we don't know what step to take. Or we feel that change needs to occur, but we feel too overwhelmed to take a step. Here are some steps to consider that may help you feel more clear and inspired to take that first step. In this Episode, I offer a 5 step process for how to take action if you are feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or unsure. 1. BE OPEN TO POSS...

If you have ever felt confused in your relationship, this episode offers a 5 step process to gain more clarity. This process will help if you are feeling confused about a small issue or if you are feeling confused about a bigger concern in your relationship. Over the many years of working with clients with relationship concerns, especially with my individual clients, they often express feeling con...