Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And Guide

GUEST MICHAELA BOEHM Michaela Boehm teaches and counsels internationally as an expert in intimacy and sexuality. She combines her background in psychology and extensive clinical experience with her in-depth training in the yogic arts as a classical Kashmiri Tantric lineage holder into a unique offering of experiential learning. She is passionate about teaching skills that enhance deep intimacy, la...

THE CHALLENGE WITH WEDDING VOWS: Wedding vows are beautiful expressions of love. When we go to a wedding, we want to hear about the couple's love for one another. We are moved by the deeply sentimental proclamations. We are inspired by the power of love, demonstrated through a reading, scripture, poem, original vows or some combination. However, vows are often aspirational and very hard to follow....

WHAT IS THE STORY YOU TELL YOURSELF? The story you tell yourself is so important, and most likely you are reinforcing the story over and over again. It is said that 90% of our thoughts are repetitive and 70% of these thoughts are negative. What does that mean for your story? Our story shapes our identity, who we are and what we experience. If you listened to  last week's podcast episode , we looke...

Make sure you check out Part One  ERP 095: How Your Beliefs Can Destroy Your Relationship , if you missed it. In this episode, you will learn why we can go from anticipating the best about our partners and relationship to anticipating the worst (as a form of protection). When we are triggered, we are more likely to react and jump to conclusions. Therefore, it is important to slow down. so that we...

In podcast episode 94, " 4 Reasons Why Creating Lasting Love Is So Difficult"  I offered four reasons why partners will give-up on or break-up a relationship. Today, we are exploring the mechanisms behind our belief systems in relationship. This will be a two-part series. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the  transcript  to hear more explanations, stories and examples.) HOW COME MY PA...

LISTENER'S QUESTION: A while back, I received a question from a listener who was going through an extremely painful time with his wife. One of his greatest pains was she was pulling away, just as he was starting to learn how to be a better partner. He described trying to encourage her to belief in them and believe in their marriage. Yet the harder he tried, the further she would distance from him....

GUEST DR. KEITH WITT Dr. Keith Witt is a Licensed Psychologist, teacher, and author who has lived and worked in Santa Barbara, CA. for over forty years. Dr. Witt is the founder of The School of Love, at  www.drkeithwitt.com , where he offers his six Books, his six hour audio class Loving Completely, the School of Love Lecture Series, blogs, Therapist in the Wild webseries, and Integral Conversatio...

LASER COACHING SESSION WITH LISTENER In this episode, I offer coaching to help a listener explore her struggles with fear, doubt, and old programing as she develops intimacy in relationship. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read  the transcript  to hear the conversation and examples to describe these points.) 5 TIPS FOR DEVELOPING A NEW PATTERN: 1. Recognize your pain point and old pattern...

FIRST LISTENER'S QUESTION: "I often listen to your podcast and try to learn from it as much as possible. Your podcast has provided me an ample amount of knowledge and made me flexible to various aspects of being in a relationship. Thank you. I came across a girl on a  matrimony website and we have seen each other only 3 times in past 9 months of knowing each other as we stay in different states. T...

LOVE LANGUAGES To learn more about Love Languages; a description of each Love Language, and how to determine you and your partner's Love Language, check out the first part of this conversation on  ERP 089. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read  the transcript  to hear my stories and examples to describe these points.) CAN YOUR LOVE LANGUAGES CHANGE? Depending on your life circumstances, yo...

WHAT ARE LOVE LANGUAGES?: Love languages are a tool to help us understand how we each give and receive love differently. This is particularly important to know if you are in a long-term intimate relationship because, most likely, you and your partner have different primary love languages. Which means you and your partner could be trying to express love to one another, but could be completely missi...

HOLIDAY, DREAD, AND BLUES The season for "holiday cheer" can also be a season for stress, anxiety and angst. We tend to put a lot of expectations on ourselves and it can be difficult to manage these at times. Managing our stress and expectations can especially difficult when we are feeling down, lonely, or challenged. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read  the transcript  to hear my storie...

LISTENER'S QUESTION "I sought out your podcast a few days ago and have found it very helpful for the difficult situation my relationship is currently in. My partner lost his job a couple months ago due to downsizing at his company. Since then he's also lost a lot of confidence, reignited many insecurities, become extremely negative about everything related to job searching, been unmotivated. Meanw...

LISTENER'S QUESTION "I sought out your podcast a few days ago and have found it very helpful for the difficult situation my relationship is currently in. My partner lost his job a couple months ago due to downsizing at his company. Since then he's also lost a lot of confidence, reignited many insecurities, become extremely negative about everything related to job searching, been unmotivated. Meanw...

LISTENER'S QUESTION: "After searching the web for answers and finding nothing closely related to the situation at hand in our family, I thought perhaps you could provide some great insight on the issue. I have four adult children, one son (32), 3 daughters (26, 25, 25). The issue is the following and involves only my daughters and their boyfriends; Ever since my daughters have begun dating as youn...

LASER COACHING SESSION WITH LISTENER In this episode, I offer live coaching to help a listener explore her struggles with developing the type of relationship that she ultimately desires. We talk about self-doubt, fear of intimacy, and relationship dreams. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear the conversation and examples to describe these points.) 5 TIPS FOR DEVELOP...

GUEST: CHRISTIANE PELMAS Christiane Pelmas has been in private practice as a psychotherapist since 1993. While most concerned with the connection between the human soul and the soul of The World, as inspired by the likes of Carl Jung, Marion Woodman, James Hillman and Clarissa Pinkola Estes, her work includes theory and practice from Ecopsychology, Somatics and Wilderness Therapy. She works with c...

LISTENER'S QUESTION: "I have recently discovered your podcast and have listened to a couple episodes. I appreciate your insight in many relationship scenarios. I was hoping that you can dedicate an episode or part of an episode to long distance dating and how to sustain it. I have been dating my boyfriend for a little over a year, and we live one state apart. We seem to have an issue with communic...

LASER COACHING SESSION WITH LISTENER In this episode, I offer live coaching to help a listener explore what happens for her when she experiences an opportunity for love and connection and she "shuts down." She shares about her desire for love and authentic relationship, as well as her fear of being "too much." Listen to the episode to hear her process and the take aways (that I am sure we can all...

Today, I am sharing with you the second part of my story, where I faced my fears. If you missed the first part of the story, please listen to  ERP 079: A Personal Sharing Of My Honoring The Darkness  first. Please listen to the episode to hear my story. I would love to hear your feedback. Please comment below. Thank you! MENTIONED: ERP 076: How To Deal With Upset In Your Relationship In A New Way...

When writing the show notes for last week's podcast episode,  "ERP 078: How To Honor The Darkness,"  I realized it might be helpful for me to share a more poignant example of a time in my life where I faced my shadow in a significant way. Please listen to the episode to hear my story. "Why do we choose partners so different from ourselves? It's not fate or chance or cliches like, "the heart wants...

ACKNOWLEDGING OUR SHADOW Last week, I took a yoga class, where the instructor talked about honoring our shadow. She spoke about the fact that we all have parts of ourselves that we don't want to acknowledge. We tend to focus our attention on positive aspirations, sensations, and feelings…like being happy, joyful, and in love. It is not as easy to look at our shadow. WHAT IS OUR SHADOW Put simply,...

LISTENER'S QUESTION: "I'm a single mom of a 7 y.o. Boy? separated from dad 5 yrs..bf of 2 yrs is adoring, complimentary, caring….but drinks and only works 2 days a week. I work 35-38 hrs a wk. i am motivated, he is….not. I love him..he's a good person, although has been caught in multiple small lies….he wants US sooo bad and i KNOW he wants to be good and do right but seems to unknowingly play "vi...

LASER COACHING SESSION WITH LISTENER Please listen to the episode to hear the whole coaching session. MAIN POINTS 1. You can't change your partner. 2.   You CAN work with your partner , if they are willing. 3.  By having a different conversation (exploring a new way of dealing with conflict),  you will gather more information  (i.e. Is your partner interested, are they able, are they willing). 4....

Before listening to this episode, check out  ERP 074: How To Combat The Damage Of Stress In Your Relationship  – Part One. "Up to 98 percent of American adults report feeling some form of stress on a regular basis." writes Laura Newcomer in "Is Stress Hurting Your Relationship?" In  part one  to the podcast topic, I layout for you: What is stress? Damage of stress. Stress inventory. Stress curve....