Dear Adult Daughter

Mentioned in this episode: Compassion and the true meaning of empathy (TED talk by Roshi Joan Halifax) ~~~ Karen C.L. Anderson is a writer, author, and master-certified life coach who helps women use the troubled relationships they have with their mothers and/or daughters as a catalyst for growth, leadership, wisdom, and creativity.

Mentioned in this episode: Complex PTSD: From Surviving To Thriving , by Pete Walker ~~~ Karen C.L. Anderson is a writer, author, and master-certified life coach who helps women use the troubled relationships they have with their mothers and/or daughters as a catalyst for growth, leadership, wisdom, and creativity.

Mentioned in this episode: Educated by Tara Westover The Invitation by Oriah Mountain Dreamer The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal: A Guide For Revealing & Healing Toxic Generational Patterns , by Karen C.L. Anderson ~~~ Karen C.L. Anderson is a writer, author, and master-certified life coach who helps women use the troubled relationships they have with their mothers and/or daugh...

Karen C.L. Anderson is a writer, author, and master-certified life coach who helps women use the troubled relationships they have with their mothers and/or daughters as a catalyst for growth, leadership, wisdom, and creativity. She is the author of: :: After (The Before & After) (2011) :: The Peaceful Daughter’s Guide To Separating From A Difficult Mother (2015…no longer available) :: Difficul...

"The beauty of anti-racism is that you don't have to pretend to be free of racism to be an anti-racist. Anti-racism is the commitment to fight racism wherever you find it, including in yourself. And it's the only way forward." ~ Ijeoma Oluo Free five-part course from Resmaa Menakem: Racialized Trauma For a deeper dive: My Grandmother's Hands A Letter To My White Male Friends Of A Certain Age &nbsp...

Learn more about and sign up for The Mother Lode: A Conversation About Emotions, Power & Creativity here . Learn more about and sign up for the Overcoming Creative Anxiety book club here . ~~~ Don't forget to send me your questions . I will answer them in an upcoming episode, anonymously, of course.  You can also click the +Message button on the podcast homepage to send me a recorded comm...

Read my essay in O Magazine about the lessons I learned from my stepchildren's mother as she was dying ~~~ I am hosting a special community project in the month of June. The Mother Lode: A Conversation About Emotions, Power & Creativity is a free month-long event in which 20 women will share their stories about what they've learned (or didn't learn) from their mothers about emotion, power, and...

I am hosting a special community project in the month of June. The Mother Lode: A Conversation About Emotions, Power & Creativity is a free month-long event in which 20 women will share their stories about what they've learned (or didn't learn) from their mothers about emotion, power, and creativity, and how they use what they learned in support of their work in the world. Learn more and join...

What stops you from being willing to love yourself unconditionally? What are the conditions (if any) under which you allow yourself to love yourself? What would it take to love yourself unconditionally, not "in spite of" or "no matter what" or "even though" but simply because of who you are and because you deserve your own unconditional love? Make yourself an "I love myself BECAUSE..." list but in...

Don't forget to send me your questions . I will answer them in an upcoming episode, anonymously, of course.  You can also click the +Message button on the podcast homepage to send me a recorded comment or question.   Subscribe to my email Love Notes . ~~~ Karen C.L. Anderson is a writer, author, and master-certified life coach who helps women use the troubled relationships they have with...

Debunking Myths About Estrangement   ~~~ Don't forget to send me your questions . I will answer them in an upcoming episode, anonymously, of course.  You can also click the +Message button on the podcast homepage to send me a recorded comment or question.   Subscribe to my email Love Notes . ~~~ Karen C.L. Anderson is a writer, author, and master-certified life coach who helps women...

We choose to acknowledge that, at one time, we were victims. We suffered. We choose not to blame ourselves and we remind ourselves that our mothers were the responsible adults at the time. Chances are our mothers were not able to take responsibility then, for a variety of reasons, and nor will they want to do so now, but that doesn’t mean we can't stop blaming ourselves. We choose now to be respon...

The movie I mentioned: The Hollars ~~~ Don't forget to send me your questions . I will answer them in an upcoming episode, anonymously, of course. You can also click the +Message button on the podcast homepage to send me a recorded comment or question. Subscribe to my email Love Notes . ~~~ Karen C.L. Anderson is a writer, author, and master-certified life coach who helps women use the troubled re...

11 Signs Your Mother Might Have Jealousy Issues (P.S. I disagree with this: " The best thing you can do is support her, point out her accomplishments ") ~~~ Don't forget to send me your questions . I will answer them in an upcoming episode, anonymously, of course. ~~~ Karen C.L. Anderson is a writer, author, and master-certified life coach who helps women use the troubled relationships they have w...

“If you have to act in a particular way to avoid being something you don’t like, you’re trapped.”  ~ Debbie Ford, The Dark Side of the Light Chasers ~~~ Don't forget to send me your questions . I will answer them in an upcoming episode, anonymously, of course. ~~~ Karen C.L. Anderson is a writer, author, and master-certified life coach who helps women use the troubled relationships they have...

...and why I bother ~~~ Don't forget to send me your questions . I will answer them in an upcoming episode, anonymously, of course. ~~~ Karen C.L. Anderson is a writer, author, and master-certified life coach who helps women use the troubled relationships they have with their mothers and/or daughters as a catalyst for growth, empowerment, wisdom, and creativity. She is the author of: After (The Be...

I shed my guilt (of cutting family ties) when I accepted my decision on its own terms, without endlessly prosecuting old grievances, without weighing his sins against mine. Without thinking of my father I learned to accept my decision for its own sake, because of me not because of him, because I needed it not because he deserved it. It was the only way I could love him.  ~ Tara Westover in he...

~~~ Don't forget to send me your questions . I will answer them in an upcoming episode, anonymously, of course. ~~~ Karen C.L. Anderson is a writer, author, and master-certified life coach who helps women use the troubled relationships they have with their mothers and/or daughters as a catalyst for growth, empowerment, wisdom, and creativity. She is the author of: After (The Before & After) (2...

Mentioned in this episode: Beyond Victim Consciousness , by Lynne Forrest ~~~ Don't forget to send me your questions . I will answer them in an upcoming episode, anonymously, of course. ~~~ Karen C.L. Anderson is a writer, author, and master-certified life coach who helps women use the troubled relationships they have with their mothers and/or daughters as a catalyst for growth, empowerment, wisdo...

“no might make them angry but it will make you free. - if no one has ever told you, your freedom is more important than their anger.” ~ Nayyirah Waheed, Salt ~~~ Don't forget to send me your questions . I will answer them in an upcoming episode, anonymously, of course. ~~~ Karen C.L. Anderson is a writer, author, and master-certified life coach who helps women use the troubled relationships t...

My name is Karen C.L. Anderson and I am an adult daughter, with the emphasis on adult. I am also the author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration and The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal: A Guide For Revealing & Healing Toxic Generational Patterns . In this podcast I answer questions from readers, tell stories, give advice, an...