Changeable Podcast

In this episode, Dan and I go more deeply into how identity — taking yourself to be a limited, separate-from-the-rest-of-life entity — is the key factor behind the ability to explore love and and relationship in the way we’ve discussed in our episodes thus far. The sense of self demands a lot of attention, which means far less attention is freed up to be fully present with your p...

In Part 2, we look more deeply at how we work through relationship issues through the lens of our “post mortem” process. We also turn toward the underlying spiritual and identity work that we feel allows us room to look at issues with minimal defensiveness and more objectivity. We believe anyone can explore identity this way and achieve similar benefits.  Please email me at  amy@dramyj...

In Part 1 of this two part episode, Dan and I give an example of a conditioned pattern that arises in our relationship and how we work through it. Our approach is rooted in our strong mutual desire to examine anything and everything that arises, and our strong aversion to avoiding triggers or sweeping issues under the rug. We’re willing to let things get uncomfortable and messy to clearly se...

Since we began recording episodes together, Dan and I have received several emails from people realizing their relationship isn’t where they want it to be. Some of those people want to re-engage with their partner but aren’t sure how.  In episode 402, we share a few steps on how to re-engage with your partner so that you can both get a better sense of what you’re open to with eac...

In this episode, Dan and I share the “whale under the boat” sense we’ve had from the beginning of our relationship that there is something very powerful and intelligent behind our union. In conventional thinking about relationships, two people get together for reasons of love, connection, comfort, companionship, etc. While those features are present in our relationship too, they seem more like the...

Dan and I look at the difference between believing you love your partner — a largely thought-based state– and the active, alive, energetic state of being ‘in love’ with your partner. We discuss being in love as an energy cycle that takes both people to keep it going and we explore the vital role of presence when it comes to being in love. We end the episode with a few words...

In this episode, Dan and I explore the difference between thinking and direct perception. This distinction is crucial in the spiritual and self-investigative work we’ve done and that we’ll be discussing more in future episodes. It’s an important  difference in how we relate in relationships and in all of life, actually! Please email me at  support@dramyjohnson.com  with your feed...

In this episode, Dan and I explore the benefits of asking meaningful questions. We discuss what meaningful questions are, the benefits of asking them, and why people don’t ask questions. We also go into depth about how we ask each other meaningful questions and the ways in which that has strengthened our connection and led to significant changes in our lives.  Please email me at support@dramyjohns...

In EP397, Dan and I share how we went from being quite independent – in part as a way to prioritize our respective spiritual paths – to now being surprisingly (to us!) interdependent and closely enmeshed in many ways. Please email me at support@dramyjohnson.com with your feedback and suggestions about this episode. We would love to hear what you think and what you’d like to hear more a...

In this conversation, Dan and I share one of the key ways our deep connection developed in the early days of our relationship; something we called “going into the portal” through sustained eye contact and feeling into the energies that were present.  We discuss how this process went for us and the benefits of it on our relationship. We even do a little “portal dive” while recording so you can get...

In this episode, Dan and I look at the role of attention in a relationship. We’ll explore what attention and connection have to do with each other, how attention is an open and receptive presence (rather than monitoring, watching, or evaluating), the benefits of attention, and the obstacles to giving and receiving attention and what The post EP395: The power of attention in relationships appeared...

Changeable is back and I have a co-host! Dan Kelso and I explore the mystical nature of relationships and unveil our ideas for a new set of dialogues exploring the intersection of identity and relationship. Please email me at support@dramyjohnson.com with your feedback and suggestions about this episode. We would love to hear what you The post EP394: The mystical nature of relationships appeared f...

Martha says she knows that circumstances can’t create suffering, yet she suffers when watching images of some things happening in the world. How can she reconcile this? uGfCbeGyYlpygwNQU7E8 The post EP393: Why are outside circumstances affecting me so much? A question from a listener appeared first on Dr. Amy Johnson .

This week’s episode is a conversation with Juliet O’Rourke for her brand new podcast, Gifted with ADHD.  Gifted with ADHD brings together mental health, wellbeing, and a big-picture spiritual understanding of how the mind works, particularly an ADHD mind. In our conversation, we go deep into the role of thought and emotion, particularly experiences like boredom, The post EP392: Breaking Habits and...

In this episode we’ll look at where attention naturally wants to go…and where attention might be going in ways that are unwanted. The more we have in our lives and around us that demand attention, the less free attention there is for exploring direct experience. ***I will be leading a Silent Retreat in Taos, New Mexico, The post EP391: Pruning life so attention can go where you want it to go appea...

This episode explores what it means to be energetically open versus closed, why and how we open and close, and what being open (versus closed) does for our vitality, wellbeing, and relationships. ***I will be leading a Silent Retreat in Taos, New Mexico, February 22-27. The retreat will provide a supportive space for you to steep The post EP390: Open and closed appeared first on Dr. Amy Johnson .

I’ll explore how to look at, and ultimately change, patterns in more detail.  I discuss how and why to reflect on patterns, how and why to communicate what’s arising, and how and why to examine identity as part of this exploration. ***I will be leading a Silent Retreat in Taos, New Mexico, February 22-27. The retreat The post EP389: More on patterns appeared first on Dr. Amy Johnson .

In this episode, I strongly encourage you to look at the beliefs you’re living by. There may be conflicting beliefs. You may believe things you swear you don’t believe. The only way to know – and for those beliefs to change – is to honestly and eagerly look and be willing to see what’s there. ***I The post EP388: Beliefs you live by but didn’t choose appeared first on Dr. Amy Johnson .

In this episode, I speak to a question from a listener who says she chooses romantic partners who are not right for her because – in her words – they make her feel more worthy.  I talk her through some of the ways she can examine this pattern in depth, noticing the beliefs behind her The post EP387: Choosing the wrong relationships: A question from a listener appeared first on Dr. Amy Johnson .

There’s a progression that seems to happen. You might say it’s from gross to subtle. Where attention shifts from being absorbed in abstractions, thoughts, representations, and relationships…to attention moving to much more subtle energies like sensations, sensory input, and maybe something like intuition or perception. Identity is viewed in these different ways. From gross thought and The post EP3...

Being in silence is not about suppressing anything.  It’s also not about creating anything, such as an environment of peace or thoughtlessness or anything like that. It’s the exact opposite, actually. It’s about leaving everything alone to simply be exactly what it is.“What it is” is constantly changing. It is totally unknowable. It’s far too fluid The post EP385: Special Rebroadcast: Noise is Sil...

What if 95% of attention and energy went toward sensing, feeling, and intuition, and 5% went toward the use of thought? That ratio is typically reversed. I’ll explore this with regard to being with trauma, brainstorming and problem solving, and self inquiry.***I will be leading a Silent Retreat in Taos, New Mexico, February 22-27. The retreat will The post EP384: 95/5 appeared first on Dr. Amy Joh...

In this episode, we’ll explore how to end habitual psychological patterns such as reactivity, shutting down, becoming controlling or hypervigilant, or eating or drinking. The way to end a pattern – very oversimplified – is to become deeply familiar with the elements of the pattern and stay open, rather than react, when the pattern begins. ***I will The post EP383: Staying open appeared first on Dr...

Emma believes that she is unacceptable if her weight goes above a particular threshold.  This belief is behind 45 years of restrictive and binge eating. Emma is onto the fact that this is a belief, but that doesn’t feel like enough. If she doesn’t have the ability to simply stop believing this thought, what can she The post EP382: I’m not acceptable unless I’m thin. Questions from a listener with...

 There’s an extremely important distinction to be made when it comes to where and how attention falls. It’s the difference between attention being on something versus absorbed in it. Attention on the fact of thought is completely different from attention being absorbed in the content of thought. Attention on sensation or pain or the sense of self The post EP381: Attention On versus Attention In  a...