Can You Relate?

In this episode, I intuitively share the steps I’ve personally used in my relationship with my husband, Hemal, as well as the techniques I’ve applied to help many couples navigate fights and conflict. I explain how to grow through conflict and how it doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with the relationship or that it needs to be destructive. Conflict, especially in long-term relationships, is no...

I share a story about a client who’s stuck in a cycle of resentment with their spouse. Resentments build because there’s a translation being made about the partner or the person you’re dating that makes you feel like you’re not allowed to be yourself, or like you’re giving too much, or that you’re being used or taken advantage of in some way. That translation, however, could be true or not true. Y...

One of the biggest reasons for conflict in a marriage is money. So, in this episode, I’m sharing with you a personal story about how my husband and I struggled with topics about money. I share a breakthrough conversation that we recently had that helped me own my worth, and had him understand he was leading with his ego when it came to money. Take a listen.

I break down how my husband and I make it through rounds of conflict. He is more of the people pleaser type, not that I’m into labels, and I can even show up like that at times.  But I break down in this episode exactly how we make it through conflict, and how you can use the same techniques if you’re with a people pleasing type, or if you are the one that has more of the reactions my husband does...

Rejection is so HARD, no matter what form it comes in. It’s especially hard when you are rejected in the realm of love and romantic partnerships, often making you question everything about who you are. The heartache can easily make your head spin and your body ache.  In this episode, I share 3 tiers of rejection, why it really hurts, and the wisdom that emerged after a break up. I also share a lot...

Have you ever been on a date, with your partner, or a friend, and they say something that doesn’t quite match their actions? And it bothers you? Like, really bothers you?  Well, I was talking to a client of mine one day who is single and dating, and she was sharing how this happens to her a lot. For example, a guy will say he’s 6’1”, and IRL he’s 5’9”. That immediately makes her emotionally guarde...

Are you starting to merge your life with your partner’s life? Are there kids involved? Is there moving involved? Is it scary because it feels like you’re leaving your old life behind, and you don’t want to lose yourself? These are all very legit fears and worries. In this episode, I talk with my client Karimi, who has met someone that is her “pinch me” is this my partner kind of person. They are t...

Do you feel like your partner’s priority is to defend and protect their parents over prioritizing you?  Meaning if you say something honest like, “I feel like your parents don’t get me?” or “I feel like your mom said X, and that really hurt,” that your partner, unknowingly, dismisses you by saying something like, “Oh she didn’t mean that.” or “They get you, it just feels like they don’t because th...

If you’re still feeling some anxiety around an Ex, your heart still skips a beat when you see a post about them on social, or you walk past a place where you would often have lunch, and you can’t seem to shake this feeling of something is off, there’s a reason for that, and today’s episode is for you! My client, Kara, wrote to me and said, “I hate to admit that I still feel something anytime I hav...

For some, conversations that create connection out in the world can feel really hard. Most people feel like they have to be pleasing, performative, or perfect, or some mix of all of those. And that pressure can stop you right in your tracks from actually creating connection with others.  This is how Bridget feels, watch me coach her through how she can get past that freeze moment before connecting...

Shannon asked me a question. She asked, How does worth and desperation play out in relationships? She specifically wanted to know how her family system plays a role in her sense of worth and desperation. This is a question I often get in different ways.  Because so many people come to me thinking that self-worth and self-love are essential to “attracting” their person, or really standing up for th...

I share parts of myself that I’ve been shamed for, and how I have reclaimed those parts, and really embraced them for what they do for me and others.  We all have a lot of discomfort (pain & hurt) sitting inside of us, and that discomfort can either take hold of us and keep us hostage (often unknowingly), or we can turn to look at the discomfort, and see the wisdom it has to share with us.  In...

I sat down with my younger brother, Anand, to have a conversation about our relationship as siblings. If you’ve ever had a hard relationship with your sibling, this is a must watch episode.  We haven’t always liked each other, we used to fight all the time, and now he is one of my besties. We can share almost (some things he doesn’t want to hear;) anything with one another.  In this episode I shar...

Most think they need to create boundaries, especially in their relationship with their mom or dad (because those relationships are highly triggering). But I share how this can actually be damaging, and keep you from really understanding yourself and your parent.  In this episode I zero in on our relationship with our mom’s. I share a real example from my own life about how I don’t create boundarie...

This episode felt really personal, and enlightening for me. My husband, Hemal and I share with you how over the last 16 years of our marriage, we have had many necessary up levels. Recently we went through one this past year.  Through it there’s been a lot of conflict. I truly believe no real up level, evolution, or change can occur without conflict, it’s just a part of it. Hemal and I share with...