Calmer in 5

Welcome to Calmer in 5 , where we make serenity simple—one thought at a time. Today, we're exploring a topic that can have a surprising impact on our peace of mind— cleanliness. For some, a tidy space creates a sense of calm and control, while for others, a little mess is simply part of life. Cleanliness is often seen as a virtue, something that society praises as good and right—but does that make...

Welcome to Calmer in 5 , where we make serenity simple—one thought at a time. Today, we're talking about something that many of us have a complicated relationship with— crying. Whether it's seen as a sign of weakness, vulnerability, or even something to be ashamed of, society has a way of shaping how we feel about shedding tears. But what if we reframe it? What if crying isn't something to suppres...

Welcome to Calmer in 5 , where we make serenity simple—one thought at a time. Imagine yourself on a beach vacation, feeling the warmth of the sun, the gentle ocean breeze, and the ease of being fully present. Now, think about a typical workday, where the same sun shines above, yet stress and busyness seem to take center stage. The only real difference? Your thoughts. Today, we'll explore how retoo...

There are many days when you might wake up and simply slip into autopilot, not really questioning…anything. Not really looking at your life, not questioning where it's going or what's up ahead. Today I ask you a simple question, one that you may think you have the answer to. But before you say anything, I would encourage you to think a little deeper, looking at all the variables. Links from the Ep...

Feeling overwhelmed? Just one deep breath can bring you back to calm. In this episode of Calmer in 5 , we explore the science and simplicity of deep breathing and how it can instantly reduce stress. Thom Walters breaks down why mindful breathing works, how it affects your nervous system, and the easiest techniques you can use anytime, anywhere. Whether you're facing a hectic day or just need a res...

We all have ideas about what we should do, or have to do. We have ideas about careers, productivity, responsibilities, etc. But did you ever think that all those things you are supposed to do aren't real? They aren't. Most of the things you feel you need to do are thoughts created by you and/or society. And following those directives without thinking about whether or not they mean anything to you,...

Everything in our bodies and society tells us to avoid discomfort at all costs. But what if that advice isn't the best way to grow. Hint; it isn't. Today I share a great article by Diana Hill that talks about the benefits of leaning into discomfort; and she tells us 6 great ways to do that.   Links from the Episode: Learn how to ease the pain of anxiety with meditation -  Schedule time with Thom (...

At times life seems long, and at other times it seems almost fleeting. If we perceive our lives as ending someday, what do we want to accomplish, if anything, in that time? That very question can bring up a great deal of anxiety. So why don't we look t things from a different perspective; ask a different question. With this question answered and explored, we can become a bit (a lot) more peaceful....

At one time or another, we have all become fully entrenched in our own "stufff", our own lives. Some people exist fully on that level each day; no judgment. However, if we are to become calmer then one that will benefit us each day, is to connect with the world around us. To that end, I have created an unusual scavenger hunt that will yield incredible results. Wanna hear about it? Come listen. Lin...

it's human nture to see the world through our eyes; more to the point, through our biases, likes and values. But nature or not, it's not the most serving way to interact with the world. Especially when we try to impress our likes and views on others. Do you want the premise of today's episode? It's real easy; you know nothing. Neither do I. We have borrowed our beliefs from others, and society. To...

Some of the greatest pain we will feel comes from distancing ourselves from the world. Think about it. So many people spend their lives trying to belong, whether it is to one person or a group. To feel connected. What if I told you that you could feel happier, less alone, if you would only seek to find connection…but not with just one person, or someone you know, but with everyone. Today I talk ab...

How we see our life, creates our life. Meaning, if we see our lives as painful, sad and sorrowful, then that is how we will continue to live life. Conversely, and wonderfully, if we see life as full, loving and joyful, that too is what we will experience. So how do we know how we see the world? I have an exercise that helps with that very thing. Come listen. Links from the Episode: Learn how to ea...

We all have an inner dialog; a worrisome voice that points out things to be afraid of, things to feel bad about. For some people it is just a whisper, almost silent. FOr others, many others, it is booming. Today CI5 is CI20, as I talk about ways to turn down the volume of that nasty voice. Links from the Episode: Learn how to ease the pain of anxiety with meditation -  Schedule time with Thom (Fre...

There are many days when you might wake up and simply slip into autopilot, not really questioning…anything. Not really looking at your life, not questioning where it's going or what's up ahead. Today I ask you a simple question, one that you may think you have the answer to. But before you say anything, I would encourage you to think a little deeper, looking at all the variables. Links from the Ep...

Maybe it's just me, but I'm thinking many people crave silence, or at least enjoy it. I mean why would so many people like going to the beach or the woods to relax? Wherever you find silence, it's safe to say that you find it, and not the other way around. Sure there are quieter places than others in the world, but for the most part the planet can get pretty noisy. Today I talk about the importanc...

Worthiness is not based on anything you will do. Is that a common belief? Not by a long shot. Society tells us there are many things we need to do to be considered worthy. But you know what I say, you are the one that defines you and everything about you. Such is the case of worthiness. Let's talk about it. Links from the Episode: Learn how to ease the pain of anxiety with meditation -  Schedule t...

We all understand that being kljnd is viewed favorably by society.  But what does that mean, if anything?  As we all know, it will serve us to only acknowledge and appreciate all the aspects of ourselves as we define them, not society.  So the question is, what does kndness mean to you.   Links from the Episode: Learn how to ease the pain of anxiety with meditation -  Schedule time with Thom (Free...

Many people turn to meditation to help them become calmer; and that's not a bad plan. But it won't always work without the right motivation, and it will never work the same for everyone. Let's finish out the week talking about calm and meditation. Links from the Episode: Learn how to ease the pain of anxiety with meditation -  Schedule time with Thom (Free Consultation) THANKS FOR LISTENING! Be a...

This week I have been answering the top five questions people have about becoming calmer. Since a poll was too involved and would take too long, I decided to opt for everyone's best solution; ask Chat GPT. While today's question is a bit like Monday's there is a little bit of nuance to it. The question? How do I stay calm in chaotic environments? Links from the Episode: Learn how to ease the pain...

Today, and all this week, I have enlisted the help of Chat GPT. I wanted to answer the top questions people had about becoming calmer. Day three has us thinking about ways to become calmer with the things we do every day. Even though that list is really long, how about I tell you my top three. Links from the Episode: Learn how to ease the pain of anxiety with meditation -  Schedule time with Thom...

Today, and all this week, I have enlisted the help of Chat GPT. I wanted to answer the top questions people had about becoming calmer. Next up? Why do I get anxious when I try to relax? Links from the Episode: Learn how to ease the pain of anxiety with meditation -  Schedule time with Thom (Free Consultation) THANKS FOR LISTENING! Be a part of the show! Send me a message: speakpipe.com/zencommuter...

Today, and all this week, I have enlisted the help of Chat GPT. I wanted to answer the top questions people had about becoming calmer. For the next five days I will be answering those questions. Let's start with…How do I calm down in stressful situations? Come listen   Links from the Episode: Learn how to ease the pain of anxiety with meditation -  Schedule time with Thom (Free Consultation) THANK...

From the day we are born we are judged…and it doesn't let up. If you don't have a method for helping you understand your self worth, then you are bound to base your value on the myriad ratings from the people around you. The trouble is, you lose your sense of calm when your misperceived self-worth is in contrast to what value you have as decided by you. Let's talk about it.   Links from the Episod...

In our society we are often told to hide or disavow certain emotions; like anger, sadness or anxiety. We are encouraged to only show the parts of us that are lighter and upbeat. But what do you think happens when you mask how you are truly feeling? Not only does it become incredibly tiring, it contributes massively to our level of unrest. Let's talk about it. Links from the Episode: Learn how to e...

We definitely have the ability to make choices in our lives; to do what we feel is best. But it may be important to know that there is also something guiding us in the background.  Before we even took human form, in my belief, our souls decided what they wanted to experience.  So they know the destination, and they leave it up to us as to how to get there.  But sometimes if we get lost, they orche...