Brown Girl Guilt

These days, my healing process looks like meeting my 5 year old self and chatting with her. I ask her what she wants to say and what she needs to feel safe, seen, and loved. Parenting my inner child has helped foster a deeper connection with myself. It's allowed me to build self-love from the ground up. In this episode, I talk about my journey with inner child healing and give you all a glimpse in...

A cycle breaker is someone who is actively breaking generations of trauma, hurt and karmic lessons. They're like a stop sign, or dead-end for relationship patterns, toxic behaviors, and addictions. It's where a shift in the lineage happens. Being a cycle breaker is no easy task and it comes with great responsibility, isolation, guilt, and shame. It also comes with a lot of joy, love, and liberatio...

This episode had me get into a powerful, important conversation on colourism with Seema Hari. We chat about the disembodying and disempowering experience of living outside of your body and what it's been like for Seema to arrive back into their body-- this time with love. Seema Hari is a nonbinary software engineer, multi-hyphenated artist, and activist. They hope to annihilate the caste syst...

Calling everyone who was told that they talk too much on their report cards. This episode is for us. In 2019, I was chosen as a speaker for SheTalks and for my talk, I decided to speak on the shame I carried around my voice and its expression. In 2022, I decided to re-read myself that talk and reflect on how far I've come with that shame. What I found is that I've come a long way in embracing my v...

If you also fiercely chase things, people, and opportunities that are not meant for you, this episode is for you. If you find yourself ignoring that voice inside your heart that tells you that you deserve better, while you're busy convincing yourself that you don't, this episode is for you. This episode of BGG is sponsored by The Whole Bowl. During the month of February, say my name when you’re in...

In this episode, we talk about lowercase brown girl guilt, how it shows up in our lives, and how we carry it. At the end, I ask how we can begin to undo brown girl guilt and start to live our lives for ourselves. This episode of BGG is sponsored by The Whole Bowl. During the month of February, say my name when you’re in-store and you’ll get 10% off. You can also use the code browngirlguilt to get...

Truly loving yourself means looking in the mirror and recognizing that sometimes the one creating drama and chaos in your life is your own damn self. Your job is then pointing at those parts in the mirror, picking up on your bad habits, asking yourself where they are coming from, and holding yourself accountable for the mess they may have created. The self-love part is doing all of this with gentl...

Truly loving yourself means looking in the mirror and recognizing that sometimes the one creating drama and chaos in your life is your own damn self. Your job is then pointing at those parts in the mirror, picking up on your bad habits, asking yourself where they are coming from, and holding yourself accountable for the mess they may have created. The self-love part is doing all of this with gentl...

Truly loving yourself means looking in the mirror and recognizing that sometimes the one creating drama and chaos in your life is your own damn self. Your job is then pointing at those parts in the mirror, picking up on your bad habits, asking yourself where they are coming from, and holding yourself accountable for the mess they may have created. The self-love part is doing all of this with gentl...

Truly loving yourself means looking in the mirror and recognizing that sometimes the one creating drama and chaos in your life is your own damn self. Your job is then pointing at those parts in the mirror, picking up on your bad habits, asking yourself where they are coming from, and holding yourself accountable for the mess they may have created. The self-love part is doing all of this with gentl...

My intention for this episode is to have listeners realize that we are infinite beings with all the potential to truly live the life that we want. That we are active participants in our own lives. Life does not happen to us, but life is happening for us and we are creating our realities. It’s up to us how we choose to move through our journey and experience. We get to choose how we feel, how proce...

Committing to learning more about yourself and then showing up as that version of yourself to the world can be hard. Practicing being yourself unapologetically and allowing the world to see the fullest expression of yourself is something that takes a lot of courage. What also helps this process is seeing others who are also practicing the same. In this episode, we get to meet Horsepowar, someone w...

Growing up, I didn't see healthy models of self-love. Seldom did I see people who were committed to loving themselves, or even remotely interested in exploring what it means to love themselves. Now, as an adult when I see people, and especially brown women embodying the practice of self-love, I'm in awe and so keen on knowing more about their journey. Bali Deol, aka Lady B, is an example of a brow...

Why would Harpo be hosting a conversation on nutrition and mindful eating in a season where we are exploring what it means to truly love yourself? In this episode, I chatted with Preet Bains, founder of Aura Holistic Health and a registered holistic nutritionist, and what we found is that self-love and mindful eating go hand in hand. Our nutrition and what we eat directly relates to how we feel ab...

What is sexual shame and where does it come from? In this episode, I chat with feminine embodiment coach Abneet Sandhar and we explore thee roots of sexual shame. In the process, we ask how and where it shows up in our bodies, how it might be permeating our relationships with others, and how we can begin to undo our own sexual shame. This episode also talks about sexual violence, so please gauge y...

Calling all people-pleasers, warm personalities, and overly forgiving & giving people. This episode is for us. When you're the kind of person that doesn't want to rock the boat, sometimes the sea of water that our boat is hanging out in can drown us. In this episode, I chat with Raj Thandhi, a good friend and host of perhaps the coolest Instagram account you'll follow on Instagram ever. Raj an...

If you've ever asked yourself, "what is my purpose in life?" this episode is for you. And spoiler alert, you're going to realize really quickly that your life's greatest project is actually just yourself. In this episode, I chat with Bhavneet Toor, founder and Creative Director of Buddha Beads, a brand that specializes in healing crystals and gemstones. If you're new to crystals, this is the episo...

Many people across the world suffer from Eldest Sibling Syndrome. It's a condition without a cure, and management and maintenance that takes a lifetime to perfect. In this episode, both myself and the guest, Manjot Badesha give you a glimpse into living with this syndrome. We chat about how Eldest Sibling Syndrome has permeated every inch of our lives, how we are navigating the consequences of the...

I am The One. We spend our whole lives looking for “The One”, our soulmate, our eternal lover, the one who is meant to complete us and hold our hand through this human experience. But I’d like to propose that, while I do strongly believe in finding “The One”, the One is not anyone else, it’s you. You are your own soulmate. Like BGG? Connect with us on Instagram @_browngirlguilt or www.browngirlgui...

Often, I'm left with two choices when navigating intimate partner relationships: dim my light to cater to make room for a partner, or stand strong in who I am and run the risk of never finding a partner who will fan my flames and not stifle them. In this episode, I get candid about my experiences with dating as a badass woman, which frankly has not been rainbows and flowers.  Like BGG? Connec...

Being rejected, broken up with, and ghosted is hard. While we know all of the above make us sad, what we don't talk about enough is how all the above can really be detrimental to how we define ourselves. In this episode, I explore how being rejected, broken up with, and even ghosted has left imprints on my self-worth and what I'm doing to avoid that moving forward.  Like BGG? Connect with us...

Welcome to Harpo's Love Life: A Series of Misfortunate events. It’s taken me an incredibly long time to get to a place where I can see these misfortunate events as lessons and not mistakes. It's taken me an incredibly long time also to see that everything had to happen exactly the way it happened for me to become this version of Harpo: one that is self-aware, confident, secure, and so in love with...

Not only is Searching For You the title of one of his tracks from his EP Kahani, but it’s also a description of perhaps what all of us are doing: searching for ourselves and looking to find all that we truly are. In this episode, I get to show you all a side of Asad Khan aka Khanvict that you might not be acquainted with. You all know that the premise of BGG is for me to show my own journey back h...

For so long, I was someone who ran from goal post to goal post. I had a list of things I wanted to achieve and a strong attachment to the end result, while completely bypassing the actual process. In surrendering to the flow of the universe, I've learnt to become friends with the journey of my life and to stop seeing it as one destination that I am chasing. In this episode, I chat with Manvinder D...

Arnie Sandhu has gone thru tremendous shifts and transitions, especially in the last year. He’s gone from Arnie McFly to Arnie Sandhu in front of our eyes and has created a space for himself that seems brand new to us, but if you ask him, has been a long time coming. In this episode, I ask Arnie about his character development. It left me feeling so confident and fulfilled about my own character d...