Breaking Our Borders

Send us Fan Mail Welcome back! I’m Dr. Michelle Border and today I’m going to discuss a personality disorder called narcissism. Because there is so much to tell about this disorder, this episode will be part 1. My next episode will be part 2, continuing the discussion on this harmful disorder. I believe my mother was a narcissist and I have encountered several narcissists in my life. It is a condi...

Send us Fan Mail   Welcome back! I’m Dr. Michelle Border and in today’s episode I’m going to talk more about how childhood trauma affects us as adults. When we have a childhood of abuse, neglect, or trauma we find coping mechanisms to try to reduce the pain of trauma. These survival methods are typically carried over into adult relationships, usually with unhappy results, and we hold borders in ou...

Send us Fan Mail   Welcome back! I’m Dr. Michelle Border and today I would like to give a shout out to all my teacher friends out there because in this episode I will discuss how childhood trauma affects children in the classroom. I have taught for over twenty years in the public school system. During that time I have experienced many students, thousands, many who were dealing with childhood traum...

Send us Fan Mail   Welcome back to the Breaking Our Borders podcast! I am Dr. Michelle Border. In today’s episode I’m going to talk about parenting, what children need from their parents, and what you can do to be the best parent for your child. We may have borders in our minds about parenting from our parents’ methods, from friends’ ideas, and from society about how we should raise our children....

Send us Fan Mail   Welcome back! I’m Dr. Michelle Border and in today’s episode I’m going to talk about healthy relationships and how to communicate our feelings in healthy ways. Survivors of childhood trauma often were not provided with relationship skills, did not see by example how healthy relationships work, or allowed to express their true feelings in a positive way. This can hinder developin...

Send us Fan Mail   Welcome back! I’m Dr. Michelle Border and in today’s episode I’m going to talk about the healing journey after childhood trauma, what it looks like, how to heal, and how long it takes. Childhood trauma can cause a lot of pain and until we learn to acknowledge, accept, and cope with that pain our lives will not be as fulfilling and happy as it could be. A lot of borders were buil...

Send us Fan Mail Welcome back, everyone. I’m Dr. Michelle Border and I hope you have had a great week! Some think that when we become adults the experiences of our childhood are forgotten or we erase the bad stuff and just magically become the person we are supposed to be. But that is definitely not how it works. In today’s episode I will discuss how children who experienced trauma coped during th...

Send us Fan Mail Hey, everyone, welcome back! I’m Dr. Michelle Border and in today’s episode I’m going to talk about some other mental disorders and physical effects that trauma can cause. Childhood trauma doesn’t just affect us during our youth. Its impact can be felt well into adulthood. The borders built in our minds as children remain until we learn how to break them down. Let’s get started do...

Send us Fan Mail   Welcome back everyone! I’m Dr. Michelle Border and in today’s episode I will discuss personality disorders and other coping mechanisms. Experiencing childhood trauma leaves us with borders in our minds about who we are, and can cause us to make choices that ease the pain of trauma, but can be unhealthy. I will explain several personality disorders and coping mechanisms and expla...

Send us Fan Mail   Welcome back to the Breaking Our Borders podcast! I’m Dr. Michelle Border and in today’s episode I will discuss social skills and communication. These qualities are taught during childhood and for people who experienced childhood trauma these qualities were not on the agenda of parenting. I will explain what they are, how we may be lacking them, and how we can improve these qual...

Send us Fan Mail   Welcome back to the Breaking Our Borders podcast. I’m Dr. Michelle Border and in today’s episode I will be talking about people pleasing, perfectionism, and Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder. These behaviors are results of experiencing abuse and trauma. They are borders we have created in our minds of what we need to do to get people to accept, like, or love us. Let’s ge...

Send us Fan Mail   Welcome back to the Breaking Our Borders Podcast. I’m Dr. Michelle Border and in today’s episode I will discuss self-esteem, self-worth, and self-identity. Children who experience childhood trauma often struggle with having positive self-esteem and self-worth, and creating a self-identity. I will explain why that happens and what we can do to improve them in this episode. Let’s...

Send us Fan Mail   Welcome back to the Breaking Our Borders Podcast! In today’s episode I will discuss what anxiety, depression, and hypervigilance are; how they have impacted my life; how they impact children and adults who have experienced childhood trauma; how they create borders in our minds, and how we can cope with all three. So let’s get started breaking our borders together.  

Send us Fan Mail   Welcome back to Breaking Our Borders! I’m Dr. Michelle Border, and in today’s episode I will explain what abuse, neglect, and trauma are. I also will explain what experiencing these three conditions do to our mind and body, and talk about the borders that are created in our minds from these experiences. Join me now as we begin breaking more of our borders together.   

Send us Fan Mail Welcome back, everyone! In today’s episode I want to explain the emotional development of our brains during childhood. I will also explain what kind of experiences we need to have as children to be emotionally healthy, as well as what happens when we don’t have those positive experiences, and how that will build borders in our minds. Finally I will talk about how this affects us a...

Send us Fan Mail Welcome to the Breaking Our Borders Podcast! I’m Dr. Michelle Border, and in today’s episode I am going to tell you about my credentials and experiences that may enlighten you into how to improve your life. I will also explain how my experiences created borders in my mind, and what that may mean for you. Let’s get started breaking our borders together.

Send us Fan Mail Welcome back to the Breaking Our Borders Podcast. In today’s episode I would like to tell you about my past, my traumatic experiences, and the impacts of those on my childhood and adulthood. I will explain what borders those experiences created for me in my mind. From this explanation, I am hoping that you will be able to identify some of the same experiences in your life, recogni...

Send us Fan Mail As we grow and experience many things in our lives, borders are created in our thought processes that make us think and believe in certain ways. Sometimes those thoughts can be harmful to our mental health. Dr. Michelle Border will examine the abuse, trauma, and experiences that cause the negative borders in our mind, and help you learn how to break down those borders to have bett...