Authentic Parenting

For the past 25 years Marc Brackett, Ph. D has been researching and writing about emotions and running around the world talking to people about their feelings.  Marc Brackett, Ph. D., is the founding director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence and a professor in the Child Study Center, Yale School of Medicine at Yale University. "Our emotional state is one of the most important aspects...

A thirteen year old Laney and her mom Julie are here to talk about how they transformed their relationship. They went from fighting daily into a more peaceful, positive and connected place. Julie is an active member of the Authentic Parenting community and has appeared on the podcast before.  Julie has made some big strides and major shifts in her parenting. She has been consistently learning and...

The core struggle for most of us is we want things to be different than they are. How can we free ourselves from unnecessary suffering and experience freedom that is already present in our lives.  Ask yourself, what am I feeling right now that I don't want to feel? And is that a problem?  Often we look outside ourselves either for problems or solutions. Couples blame one another-you should change...

We all have an inner voice and how it manifests differs from person to person. How well do you know your inner voice? Rather than silencing the negative self-talk-the chatter, we need to learn how to harness it. This is the central question of my guest's brand new book Chatter: The Voice In Our Head, Why It Matters and How To Harness It. Ethan Kross, Ph. D  is an award-winning professor and bestse...

In this Special Episode, my freind and colleague Laura Froyen and I answer some of listener questions about siblings.  Questions range from keeping the older sibling from parenting the younger, parent's worry about bringing home a new sibling, coming up with win-win activities to do when kids have opposite preferences, as well as how to respond when your child says they "hate" their sibling and ho...

There are so many therapeutic methods and healing modalities available these days.   One of them is IFS, or parts work. I have the honor of  speaking with the creator of IFS, Dr. Rick Schwartz. He's the creator of Internal Family Systems, IFS, a highly effective evidence-based therapeutic model. It provides a non-pathologizing, optimistic, and empowering perspective and a practical and effective s...

Did you know that when we name our feelings the activity in the amygdala decreases? My guest Sarah Peyton and I start today's conversation with this topic. She mentions Matthew Liberman's research She talks about the panic-grief circuit of the mammalian brain and explains the phenomenon of alarmed aloneness.  Why she prefers the expression alarmed loneliness as opposed to separation anxiety and ab...

The mother-daughter relationship is one of the most important—and complicated in the lives of most adult women. Helping my patients understand their mothers has helped me become familiar with parts of myself - and my mother - I might have never known if not for the stories I've heard, says Judith Rabinor, PhD,  We don't choose our mothers but as an adult you always have an opportunity to choose ne...

Stress is part of life. When stress becomes too intense, too much and too frequent it overwhelms our nervous system, and awakens stress imprints from our past and we lose the ability to effectively recover from it. And for the past year-and-a-half we have been all pushed to our limits and stress and overwhelm have been ever more present in our lives. With stress activation unhealed and unprocessed...

Have you ever considered looking into astrology for parenting advice or insight?  How can learning about your child's horoscope guide you in terms of education, discipline, extracurricular activities, understanding their personality, how to support them, sleep and waking, technology, Briana Saussy, teacher, spiritual counselor, and ritualist says that astrology can give us flexible, playful and mo...

Leslie Pirscilla , founder of Latinx Parenting on h ow reparenting ourselves is important in breaking the cycles of inter generational trauma. We talked about ending the chancla culture-the power over way of raising kids. How forgiveness is possible for ourselves and for others. How non-punitive parenting while not easy but IS possible and any parent can learn to practice it.  About Latinx Parenti...

Communication in general is hard. Communication with kids is even harder. What do you say to your kids when you want to motivate them, get them to listen and cooperate without resorting to begging, scolding, lecturing, ordering, and threatening? Authors of the fantastic book The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives Ned Johnson and Dr. William S...

How feminism liberates everyone, not just women. How patriarchy is hurting men too and the 4 tenets of a feminist dad with Jordan Shapiro, author of Father Figure: how to Be a Feminist Dad. Here are the 4 principles of a feminist dad:  Critical consciousness Responsive fathering Anti-gender essentialism Rigorous inclusivity  Jordan's favorite definition of feminism comes from bell hooks — acclaime...

Do you want to raise compassionate, kind-hearted people who fight injustice rather than contribute to it? Melinda Wenner Moyer digs deeply into the research on child development and parenting and translates it into straightforward, actionable strategies that the science truly supports. In her book How to Raise Kids Who Aren't Assholes she tackles some of today's most important issues, including en...

In our performance, achievement, good grades and behavior oriented culture, we get stuck in unhelpful, old and deeply entrenched patterns.  We repeat what we don't heal.  It takes courage, willingness, commitment and hard work (and a whole lot of self-compassion) to parent differently than our parents. It's all about deepening our awareness on a daily basis, learning new skills and adapting a proc...

"We are really struggling with kiddos not listening right now…I'm struggling to be patient and to show up as the parent I would like to be." In this solo podcast episode I answer some of your parenting questions (posted recently in our FB group).  " We are struggling with our 6.5 year old teasing his brother and yelling at him. My little one is about to turn 3. My boys are whining and struggling t...

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BECOME A SUPPORTER OF THE SHOW 1. With your support we can continue the production of the podcast uninterruptedly. You can choose a level of support on Patreon.com by becoming a patron. 2. One time donations are also deeply appreciated. Give from the heart now.   FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast     ABOUT ME I help overwhelmed, frustrated parents who want to parent differently th...

How's your child's cumulative experience of himself based on your interactions and feedback? Is it mostly positive or negative? Do you find yourself scolding, admonishing, criticizing often? IN this solo episode Anna answers a question that was posted by a community member and offers some additional ideas, suggestions, insights and tips for making your child feel heard, seen, understood and import...

We are hardwired for empathy. While some people naturally are more empathetic than others, it's a skill and can be taught. With Lynne Azarchi, author of The Empathy Advantage we explore why empathy matters, the science and biology of empathy and how to teach it to kids by specific age group using books, storytelling, media and other ways. Sign Up for Anna's June Masterclass: How To Be a Clam Paren...

BECOME A SUPPORTER OF THE SHOW 1. With your support we can continue the production of the podcast uninterruptedly. You can choose a level of support on Patreon.com by becoming a patron. 2. One time donations are also deeply appreciated. Give from the heart now.   FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast     ABOUT ME I help overwhelmed, frustrated parents who want to parent differently th...

BECOME A SUPPORTER OF THE SHOW 1. With your support we can continue the production of the podcast uninterruptedly. You can choose a level of support on Patreon.com by becoming a patron. 2. One time donations are also deeply appreciated. Give from the heart now.   FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast     ABOUT ME I help overwhelmed, frustrated parents who want to parent differently th...

Are you living out of your False Self or Authentic Self? What's the value and significance of looking at your past? The role of separation in trauma in creating your counterdependent False Self. These and other questions on this episode with a returning guest Barry Weinhold, PhD .  How the False Self forms The two different ways that the False Self shows up Transforming life using your shame-based...