Ancient Intelligence

The biggest problem that exists today is the ’us versus them’ narrative about men and women that gets perpetuated in the mainstream. How did it get this way? What’s happening? In this episode I attempt to unpack some of the things that I think are factors in this including how modern comforts erased our physical differences, the historical abuse and control of women, the collective dismissal and l...

Sports are a great analogue for pointing out the clear differences between men and women. Understanding these differences helps us understand the difference in values men and women innately have and why when women start to pretend they value things that men value, they lose what makes them attractive in the first place. Learn about why men are wired to focus on competition and action? What makes a...

The reality is that women cannot handle stress the way men can and there’s a really great reason for that. If they could the following would not be true: Women are losing their cycles in record numbers and dissociating from their bodies. Women are using antidepressants 2X the number men are. 80% of autoimmune disfunction and diseases happens in women. These are not accidents. In this episode I exp...

Another Subscriber Q&A! The questions I cover are: Loved your video on male initiation stage 1 - boys and their moms. What about female initiation? For the girl dads. What advice do you have for men who get very nervous when they see a woman they want to ask out and end up not asking her out, even just for a smoothie to get to know each other as friends, not as a date? From a female perspectiv...

Tell me what your relationship is like with the opposite sex and I’ll tell you what your relationship was like with your mom (man) or dad (woman). This episode is a more vulnerable look at the masculine and feminine wounds in our lives including bits of my own story. The truth is that while difficulties with the opposite sex are universal, why we experience them is highly individual. I get into th...

This episode is about understanding the duality within each of us, both man and woman. We have both human animal which refers to our primal instincts and human soul which refers to our connection to something higher, something greater than ourselves and our survival instincts. Listen in to learn about what each of these parts want, how they behave, what they can teach us about sexuality and partne...

We live in a world that loves to slap a pretty pink bow on something we’d rather not acknowledge, like covering a zit with a glittery cute little star. Prostitution has existed since the beginning of time but today we’re pretending it’s something that it’s not. This has created a strangely fine line between casual sex and “sex work.” I want to unpack the tension point between sex and sexual empowe...

I spent last weekend listening to John Eldredge on Pints with Aquinas, and I have some important takeaways. One that really stood out to me is how he framed man and woman’s greatest fear. Understanding this in a deep way can help us understand why we do what we do as men and women. It can help us see what’s important to us and how we can sometimes use control and manipulation to try to avoid this...

What do teen boys and girls need from us right now? I had the privilege of hosting Rachelle Bergstein, lifestyle writer, author, and editor in a conversation about the complexities of adolescence today for teen boys and girls. Being able to reach teenagers to inspire them to see the good in each other, boy and girl, is a dream of mine. Rachelle’s work has appeared in the New York Post, The New Yor...

Welcome to this appreciation episode. These are 10 things I love about men with some evolutionary psychology and storytelling mixed in. Listen in to learn why men are better at prioritization and how much men care about and show their care for the people in their lives. Learn about what the biggest recorded sex difference is and how it translates to one of the things I love most about men and more...

I just returned from an immersive training run by the Uncivilized Man Organization with Traver Boehm and led by one of the wisest men I’ve ever met - Duey Freeman. With over 50 years of experience in psychotherapy, he impacted me in a big way. One big theme stood out and it’s the root cause of so many of our issues with each other - our struggles aren’t about trauma, they are about fragmented atta...

There is a huge amount of distrust between the sexes in the air. It seems like much more than before, what’s going on? In this episode I get into three main areas of focus that in my view are some root causes for this (though I’m certain there are many more). The first one is disrespect, specifically the lack of appreciation for the sacrifices men make. The second one is the sexuality overload tha...

Another Subscriber Q&A - The nine questions that I cover are: What is your take on stoicism? Is it something that’s applicable to men and women? What do you think of prenups? Is it important as a woman to learn how to turn off my masculine energy at home. I struggle with this? What are the top differences between mean and women that cause the most problems? Do you have a cutoff age for a man y...

In this episode I outline 5 ways that I honor men in my day to day life. Understanding how men approach life is important and then taking steps to make space for it makes a huge difference. Listen in to learn about what a legendary question is? what does respect actually mean? Why these 5 things matter based on singular versus diffused focus? and plenty of examples and anecdotes. If you want more...

I left off in PT 1 with the understanding that yin/yang principles precede us as humans. When they are functioning harmoniously, life thrives but when that harmony is severed there is a lot of disfunction. In this episode I get deeper into those two principles and what they are made of. Listen in for a partner dance analogy that explains what happens when things are out of place, why femininity ca...

“Beauty is the harmony of purpose and form.”  Scandinavian architect and designer Alvor Aalto, 1928 I love this quote because to me it represents the perfect harmony of yin and yang, yin being form and yang being function. Masculinity brings order, logic, and effectiveness while femininity fosters connection, intuition, and feeling. When one is missing we lose balance. In this episode I start...

I’ve talked about how a man can integrate his feminine energy to find his zone of genius (episode 65 on Spotify) but what about how a woman can integrate her masculine energy in heathy way leaving behind the boss babe energy? This episode is an introduction to understanding healthy female integration of masculine energy, when intact there is trust, logic, self-belief, and trust and appreciation fo...

Were hunter gatherers patriarchal or matriarchal? Neither. I had the privilege of hosting Elena Bridgers on the show to have a conversation about understanding our evolutionary past as hunter gatherers. Elena is a science writer, content creator and mom of two with a special fascination in hunter-gatherer societies and human evolution, specifically as it relates to motherhood. Elena has published...

With great power comes great responsibility. In this episode I dive into the link between duty, honor, and accountability and how these are all uniquely male attributes that require reverence. I talk about how the masculine drive towards these things shapes our relationships in positive ways and when appreciated how much that grows. I also get into one blind spot men have when focusing on accounta...

In this episode I share some of my findings on the mythology of matriarchies. I share some insights from late activist Russell Means (Lakota tribe) and some work from late Lithuanian Archeologist and anthropologist Marija Gimbutas. people throw around the words matriarchy and patriarchy these days without really defining what their intention is and how they ‘should’ function. I think it’s interest...

It’s not trad wife or boss babe, but it’s something else entirely. I had the privilege of hosting Courtney Ballard on the show to have a conversation about understanding masculine provision from a female perspective. She is a beautiful writer, creator, sourdough bread extraordinaire, homemaker, and friend. Author of the book Devoted, where she poetically describes how by becoming devoted to receiv...

There’s that moment in the film when the woman turns to the man during a crisis and says, “what are we going to do now?” Contrary to mainstream beliefs that say this makes women look helpless, this is actually the instinctual female desire to be guided at play here. I get into our survival instincts and how and why relationships play such a big role for women. I dive into detail about diffused awa...

I explore what I’m calling the art of masculine provision because it goes so far beyond finances and shelter. Men have a huge capacity to provide intellectual, spiritual, and emotional guidance that’s often missed and misunderstood. I get into the core desires of men and women, why understanding provision matters so much, and how this provision can be understood in modern relationship dynamics. Fi...

With men ‘falling behind’ women in many aspects of life from university attendance to career success, the question being asked is ‘How do we help men find success and meet women where they are?” While valid, I believe it’s fundamentally the wrong question because it ignores a foundational principle about men and women: men don’t want to compete with women, they want to care for women. I explore so...

In this episode I share a high level overview of the different ways that men and women experience attraction and pair bonding based on their respective hormones. I discuss the foundational pull between the masculine and feminine poles and how the instinctual desires men and women have are related to the hormones they release at different times within dating and mating. I highlight the core four ho...