All Therapists are Jerks, and . . .

Episode 23.  In this episode, Ulland and Jo review the common parenting dialects.  Several examples are given for normal behavior and pathological behavior.  Most examples are from Jo's childhood.  Ulland was such a good child.  Just ask his Mom. 

Episode 22. In this episode Ulland and Jo review dialectical philosophy with examples. Like how common house plants eat humans. How if you could visit yourself in the past you COULD shake your own hand.  How everything is connected and there are many ways to view things. Like how difficult it is to define what our essence is. Here uncertainty is sacred.  And no mysteries will be solved.  Not by us...

Ulland and Jo take a brief moment to express gratitude for listener support of the podcast. We have been podcasting for 8 weeks and have had about 1300 downloads in that time. We are grateful for the opportunity to share something we are passionate about on a platform we did not even consider could be global.  We are quite excited about a strong presence in Australia, and even in exotic, non-Engli...

Episode 21.  In this episode Ulland and Jo review behaviorism with some real world examples. Jo talks about peeing in pants, and Ulland encourages micturating on cheerios.  Ulland makes a possibly sexist comment revealing he believes gossip magazines are targeting women and that men might not grocery shop as much as women do.  

Episode 20.  In this episode Ulland and Jo review attachment theory and how it can be relevant to DBT and working with emotionally reactive individuals. The Positive and Negative Realities and Fantasies are reviewed, and how they are relevant to the secondary targets fo DBT. Multiple clinical and life examples are given.  Skills are necessary to move from the Shame Narrative of the Fantasies to th...

Episode 19.  In this episode Ulland and Jo discuss the secondary targets.  They are common dialects in the average person and are amplified in times of emotional dysregulation. They are Active Passivity vs. Apparent Competence, Emotional Vulnerability vs. Self-Invalidation, and Unrelenting Crisis vs. Inhibited Grieving. Understanding secondary targets becomes useful for predicting behaviors while...

Episode 18.  In this episode Ulland and Jo review Accurate Expression of Emotion.  They also review primary, secondary, and tertiary emotions. Two examples are given with sadness as the primary emotion.  In the examples, shame and anger are the secondary and tertiary emotions experienced. Validation is also important within an emotionally safe relationship so that accurate expression of emotion ca...

Episode 17. In this episode Ulland and Jo review Mindfulness of Current Emotion.  

Episode 16. In this episode Ulland and Jo review facets of conflict resolution, which includes the use of DEAR MAN and several mindfulness skills as well as accurate expression of emotion to be discussed in a future episode. Ulland and Jo try to resolve the conflict when Jo and crew went to Qdoba Thursday without him. Leaving him all alone with a heaping pile of sadness, tissues and self pity. 

Episode 15.  In this episode, Ulland and Jo review interpersonal effectiveness. Skills reviewed are DEAR MAN, GIVE and FAST. Examples are given. The content becomes the basis for effective conflict resolution which will be address in the next episode.

Episode 14.  In this episode Ulland and Jo discuss the levels of validation. Several examples are given. 

Episode 13. In this episode Ulland and Jo review validation in detail as one of the more important acceptance strategies. Several examples of validation and invalidation are given. 

Episode 12.  In this episode Ulland and Jo discuss emotions, thoughts and behaviors within CBT and the addition of relationships and identity as other areas of significant focus within DBT.  Examples for the five dysregulations are provided for emotional, behavioral, cognitive, relational, and identity dysregulations.  

Episode 11.  In this episode Ulland and Jo review mindfulness in general and why it is the core skill in DBT, and how it can be helpful for life in general.

Episode 10. In this episode Ulland and Jo discuss Wise Mind, one of the mindfulness skills within DBT. 

Episode 9. In this episode, Ulland and Jo review the HOW Skills of mindfulness which include non judgmentally, one-mindfully, and effectively. 

Episode 8.  In this episode Ulland and Jo review the WHAT skills of mindfulness which include Observe, Describe, and Participate. 

Episode 7. In this episode Ulland and Jo review Mindfulness of Current Thoughts as one of the reality acceptance skills in DBT.  Hear Jo do an impression of her deeply Wisconsin accented mother. Hear Ulland do his impression of 1950s nuclear safety videos. This episode also can be found on YouTube under the channel "All Therapists are Jerks".  

Episode 6. In this episode Ulland and Jo review the reality acceptance skills of Half Smile and Willing Hands. Several examples are provided for when and how they can be done. This episode also can be found on YouTube under the channel "All Therapists are Jerks".  

Episode 5. In this episode Ulland and Jo review reality acceptance skills of willingness and turning the mind. Jo explains her Theory of Stuckedness. This episode can be found on YouTube under the channel "All Therapists are Jerks".  

Episode 4. In this episode, Ulland and Jo begin to review the reality acceptance skills starting with radical acceptance. This episode can be found on YouTube under the channel "All Therapists are Jerks".  

Episode 3. In this episode Ulland and Jo discuss how humans are hardwired for suffering based on a long history of struggle. The Four Noble Truths are reviewed as a way to reduce suffering that humans had always had to face, and how that may be relevant today. This episode can be found on YouTube under the channel "All Therapists are Jerks"  

Episode 2. In this episode Ulland and Jo suggest using the principles of DBT for posts and communication. It also reviews the consultation team agreements as the vehicle for discussions. 

Episode 1.  This initial episode reviews reasons for why Authors were drawn to DBT. It also reviews what the goals are for the podcast.