Reconnect to Self with Tracey and Scott

Have you ever found mold (or mould) in your house and painted straight over it? Sandy Martin did, and it took years of her life. She was 45, running one of the biggest celebrity events businesses in the world, when she opened a spreadsheet she had built herself two weeks earlier and could not read it. Two weeks of rest made it worse. A brain scan got her diagnosed with a head injury she never had....

There's a conversation you and your partner aren't having. It might be the one that turns into the same argument every time, so you've both learned to leave it where it is. Or it might be one you've simply never thought to have, and years have gone by without either of you noticing. In this episode, we sit down with Tina Mathanda, a Perth psychologist who specialises in couples and...

Have you ever sat down to rest and felt guilty within about ninety seconds? Not tired. Guilty. Like rest is something you have to earn, and you haven't earned it yet. Most high performers aren't bad at resting, they just can't shake the feeling that stopping is a kind of failing. And they usually don't stop until something makes them. In this episode, we sit down with Fleur Marks....

Have you ever wanted to quit something right when it started getting hard — even though you loved it? This is episode 50, and it's just the two of us. We get honest about the parts nobody sees: the self-doubt, the hard feedback, what this has cost our relationship and our time, and why we're still showing up to record every single time. Through real stories from behind the scenes, we dive...

Ever get a full eight hours of sleep and still wake up exhausted? You're not imagining it, and it's not a discipline problem. There's a specific reason sleep quantity doesn't guarantee sleep quality, and once you understand it, a lot of your bad mornings will suddenly make sense. In this episode, we sit down with Dr Jemma King — behavioural scientist, sleep researcher and author of...

Do you feel stuck in life — like you know something needs to change, but you have no idea where to start? Have you ever wondered why reading another book or watching another video never actually moves the needle? In this episode, we sit down with Tamsin Simounds — leadership coach, keynote speaker and author of The Experiment Mindset — to unpack why traditional goal-setting keeps so many of us stu...

Have you ever been so far down that you genuinely couldn't see a way out? Not just a bad week — but months, then years, of not being okay? That's where today's guest was. And what he built from that place changed the entire country. In this episode, we sit down with Graeme Cowan — co-founder of R U OK? Day, author of Great Leaders Care , and host of The Caring CEO podcast (ranked #2 gl...

Have you ever been told you're too nice? That being kind makes you a pushover? That real strength means being tough, not warm? In this episode, we sit down with Sophie Bretag — author, award-winning keynote speaker, executive HR consultant, and self-described Chief Kindness Officer — to unpack why everything you've been taught about kindness might be wrong, and what the science actually says about...

Have you tried everything — the doctors, the supplements, the lifestyle changes — and still can't figure out why you feel so flat, so heavy, so stuck? What if the answer isn't in your head at all, but in your body? In this episode, we sit down with Jenny Shortland — Advanced Diploma in Functional Kinesiology and founder of Align Kinesiology — to unpack what kinesiology actually is, how it works, a...

Have you ever held back from something you really wanted — a risk, a change, a life that felt a little too big to ask for? What if the thing stopping you was a fear you didn't even know you could lose? In this episode, we sit down with Dr. Mary Helen Hensley — speaker, author, chiropractor, and near-death experience survivor of over 30 years — to explore what happens to a life when fear of dyi...

Have you ever sat in couples therapy, done all the "right" things… and still felt like you and your partner were miles apart? In this episode, we sit down with Jonathan Robinson — former psychotherapist, bestselling author of 16 books, and one of the early pioneers of MDMA-assisted couples therapy — to explore why traditional therapy often falls short, and what 40 years of working underground with...

Are you constantly putting others first… only to feel drained, resentful, or like you’ve lost yourself in the process? In this episode, we sit down with Dr Katherine Iscoe — speaker, author, and self-respect advocate — to unpack the hidden cost of being a people pleaser, and why being “nice” might actually be holding you back. We explore how people-pleasing often starts as a survival strategy, the...

Is your relationship feeling harder lately… and you don’t know why? In this episode of Reconnect to Self , Tracey, a relationship therapist of over 20 years, opens up about her own experience navigating perimenopause, and how it unexpectedly began impacting her relationship with co-host and husband, Scott. This is a raw and honest conversation about what it actually looked like behind the scenes —...

On a New Year’s Eve over 20 years ago, one decision changed everything. In this episode, Paul Turley shares the story of a moment that cost someone their life — and the decades that followed as he learned to live with the weight of it. This is not just a conversation about drink driving. It’s about accountability, shame, and the question many people carry in different ways: Are you allowed to rebu...

What if the only thing standing between you and something meaningful… is starting? In this episode of the Reconnect to Self Podcast , we sit down with Craig Hollywood , founder of the charity Short Back & Sidewalks , to talk about how one small idea turned into a movement helping tens of thousands of people across Australia. Craig didn’t have a plan. He wasn’t a social worker. He wasn’t in the...

In a world where AI, algorithms and speed are doing more and more of the thinking for us, what does it actually mean to stay human? This week we’re joined by Bethan Winn, critical thinking educator, speaker and author of The Human Edge, for a conversation that became far less about technology… and far more about agency, meaning and identity. We talk about: The subtle cost of outsourcing our thinki...

Most of us feel pressure to do more, stay busy, and keep pushing — even when we’re exhausted. In this episode, Scott and Tracey sit down with bestselling author Donna McGeorge to talk about hustle culture, burnout, identity, and the deeply ingrained belief that we have to earn our rest. This is a real, honest conversation about why slowing down can feel uncomfortable, why being busy often becomes...

In this episode of Reconnect to Self , we’re joined by Emma Dunwoody , one of the world’s leading voices in Human Design. This conversation isn’t about learning another system or trying to become a better version of yourself. It’s about letting go of who you think you need to be and coming back to the blueprint you were born with. Emma shares how Human Design can help you: Understand why you work...

Ever feel like you’re running on empty — no matter how much rest you think you’re getting? In this episode, Scott and Tracey sit down with Tim Jack Adams (founder of GreenX7 and author of Energised ) to unpack why so many of us feel drained, overwhelmed and disconnected — and what we can do about it. 👉 Tim introduces a powerful way of thinking about your energy like a battery — one that leaks slo...

In this episode, we sit down with psychologist Janelle Booker to rethink everything we thought we knew about ADHD. Janelle works closely with ADHD’ers and highly sensitive people, and she brings a mix of science, stories and deep compassion to this topic. Together, we explore what ADHD really is (and why the name is so misleading), how it shows up in everyday life, and how it impacts relationships...

If you’ve ever hit mid-life and thought, “Is this it?” - this conversation is for you. Psychologist and mindset coach Dr Marny Lishman joins us to reframe the so-called “mid-life crisis” as a very human checkpoint rather than a meltdown. We unpack why a vague sense of discontent shows up in your 30s, 40s and 50s, how people-pleasing keeps you stuck, and the small, curious experiments that help you...

This week Scott and Tracey pull back the curtain on the 2-day relationship reset created by Tracey and her psychologist friend and relationship expert, Tina. They talk about why they created it, who it’s for (and not for), and the specific skills couples practice to stop “Groundhog Day” fights and feel closer again. It’s a practical, therapist-supported approach without the sales pitch: we talk re...

When Sophie Bretag hit the wall, she kept trying to push through. High-functioning anxiety, burnout, then a tongue-cancer diagnosis finally led her husband to insist she stop. In this raw, hopeful conversation, Sophie shares how that loving call-out became the circuit-breaker—why crisis puts you in survival, not processing—and how healing came from layering tiny, consistent practices. From time in...

In this episode, Tracey and Scott turn advice they gave to participants in their recent 30 Day Self Care Challenge into a fast, fun quiz. They share the small, doable practices that genuinely moved the needle: breathwork after lunch, a slower exhale (and hum) to calm the vagus nerve, curating your feed for joy, five-minute tidy timers, choosing rest even when it’s inconvenient, and stacking those...

Breakups hurt... even when you’re the one who ended it. In this episode, counsellor Tracey Quayle (20+ years’ experience) and her husband Scott share a compassionate, practical guide for the first days and weeks: what to do, what to avoid, and how to rebuild with clarity. What we cover The different types of breakups (amicable vs blindsided; leaver vs left) and why the experience feels so differen...