Secret Habit: Porn Recovery for Christian Men

Can God still love you if you keep struggling with porn? This is one of the deepest questions many Christian men carry in silence. You may believe in God's grace, but after another relapse or another season of hiding, you may start wondering whether God is disappointed in you, whether you've gone too far, or whether your relationship with Him has been damaged beyond repair. In this episode...

How do you fight the lies in your head when you're trying to quit porn? For many Christian men, the struggle isn't only the temptation itself. It's what happens in the mind afterward: shame, condemnation, fear, secrecy, and the belief that something is fundamentally wrong with you. In this episode of the Secret Habit Podcast, Shawn Bonneteau explores how shame can keep men stuck in por...

What if “I like how porn feels” is true… but it isn’t the whole story? In this episode of the Secret Habit Podcast, Shawn Bonneteau explores what guys often mean when they say they simply like how pornography feels. Yes, there is physical pleasure involved. But Shawn challenges us to look deeper at what pornography may be offering emotionally and psychologically, things like certainty, control, co...

When pornography, sexual addiction, betrayal, or broken trust enters a marriage, the impact reaches far beyond the person struggling with the behavior. In this episode of the Secret Habit Podcast, Shawn Bonneteau sits down with Clinton and Charity Muñoz of Restored 2 More for a hopeful conversation about betrayal, recovery, marriage, trust, intimacy, and restoration. Clinton and Charity have lived...

What does preparing to play hockey have to do with overcoming pornography addiction? More than you might think. In this episode of the Secret Habit Podcast, Shawn Bonneteau shares a personal story about hockey, competitiveness, belonging, and the expectations he carries, and how it helped him better understand his own Heart Hunger and learn to lead himself instead of simply reacting to what he fee...

Should you be completely free from pornography before you start dating or consider marriage? It's a question I hear all the time from Christian men—and it's one Helena and I have had to live through personally. In this episode, Helena joins me for a very honest conversation about pornography, dating, marriage, honesty, trust, healing, and the hope of redemption . I brought pornography into...

What would it actually look like to trust God with your whole heart ? We've all heard Proverbs 3:5-6: "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding." But what if trusting God with your whole heart means more than believing the right things in your head? What if it means learning to trust Him in the very places of your heart where you still feel hungry? In this ep...

What happens after you get sober? For many men, this is where recovery gets surprisingly interesting. You can stop watching pornography. Learn your patterns. Read the books. Attend groups. Get accountability. And yet, You can still struggle to handle your emotions. You can become defensive when your wife is hurting. You can withdraw when conflict gets uncomfortable. You can repeat the same relatio...

Why is consistency so difficult in pornography recovery? You know what you should do. You've probably tried motivation, accountability, filters, Bible reading, avoiding triggers, and promising yourself that this time will be different. But then something happens. You get tired. Stressed. Lonely. Discouraged. Angry. Overwhelmed. And suddenly the strategy you were so confident about doesn't seem to...

What if one of the missing pieces in your pornography recovery isn't another tool, another filter, or another strategy? What if you need a deeper reason to live? In this episode of the Secret Habit Podcast, Shawn Bonneteau explores purpose, pornography recovery, the Hungry Heart, and the God-given gifts that make each of us uniquely equipped to live a meaningful life. After years of coaching Chris...

What if part of the reason your recovery feels harder than it should isn't just habit or willpower, but the spiritual battle surrounding your deepest vulnerabilities? Shawn Bonneteau shares a raw wake-up call from his own season in the Czech Republic and breaks down how the enemy looks for the exact places where your heart feels hungry, unseen, bitter, anxious, or vulnerable. Shawn unpacks why he...

What if the reason you haven't found lasting freedom from pornography isn't because you haven't tried hard enough, but because you've been trying to recover without the right plan? In this powerful conversation, Shawn sits down with Nick Stumbo , Executive Director of Pure Desire Ministries, to talk honestly about pornography recovery, sexual integrity, shame, community, healing, a...

Many guys struggle with the idea that they have trauma. I get it. It's hard to admit that our parents made mistakes and hurt us. This is why I want to give you a new framework. A new approach. A new perspective One that does not dismiss the pain or challenges you went through. But keeps the focus on what really matters most for your porn recovery today - the heart In this episode, Shawn will unpac...

Many men desire to get free from porn. Theres no shortage of programs out there, however, we have to ask, are they offering the help men need? Most men I meet feel like they're putting in the work, but they feel frustrated. They tell me that they don't really understand their struggle. Without that clarity, it's easy to get stuck in a cycle of sobriety for a month, then back to relapse...

Once you've identified who supports your recovery, it's time to ask another important question: What actually helps your Hungry Heart? Many men have a few healthy habits, but very few have a Green Zone that's intentionally designed around the hungers of their heart. In this episode, you'll learn how to move beyond generic coping strategies and begin building a Green Zone that genui...

Lasting recovery isn't something you build alone. One of the biggest mistakes Christian men make is believing they simply need more discipline or willpower. But God designed us to grow and mature in relationship. In this episode, we're beginning the Green Zone portion of the Personal Recovery Plan by exploring one simple question: Who helps your Hungry Heart? Not every relationship nourish...

Overcoming pornography isn't just about what you do when temptation shows up. It's about learning to recognize what's happening in your heart before temptation ever becomes overwhelming. In this episode, we're exploring one of the most overlooked parts of recovery: the subtle tendencies that reveal your Hungry Heart long before you find yourself reaching for pornography. Maybe you...

You've learned to listen to your feelings. You've started understanding the story beneath your thoughts. Now it's time to uncover the deeper issue both of them have been pointing toward all along: your Hungry Heart. Most Christian men think pornography is the problem. Others realize it's a symptom. But very few know what sits underneath that symptom. That's where your Hungry He...

Taking your thoughts captive is a crucial part of the christian life. It's an especially vital part of any solid porn recovery plan. However, most guys are missing the deeper piece of their thoughts that helps them break free from bondage Every thought has a story. And in this episode, I want to help you understand how the story beneath your thoughts is the missing data to your next breakthrou...

Everybody feels... however, not everybody understands what their feelings are trying to tell them. When you miss the clues built into your hearts cry, you miss the chance to move toward a solution that really works. Most guys are stuck trying to eradicate their feelings. They're more focused on avoid challenges than finding solutions As a porn recovery coach, iv watched guys do this for years....

You've learned about Heart Hunger. You've discovered the Red Zone and the Green Zone. You've started understanding why pornography isn't simply about willpower. So... now what? One of the biggest challenges I see after coaching thousands of Christian men is that information doesn't automatically lead to transformation. It's one thing to understand the framework. It's another thing to know how it a...

After everything you've learned throughout the Freedom Foundations Series , one question remains: Now what? This final episode isn't about learning another recovery strategy. It's about becoming the man you've been building toward all along. Throughout this series, We've explored your inner world, your Hungry Heart, formative wounds, emotional patterns, the Red Zone and Green Z...

Forgiveness is one of the hardest parts of the healing journe. Not because it's complicated, but because it touches the deepest places of our hearts. In this episode of the Freedom Foundations Series , Shawn explores why forgiveness isn't about pretending the past didn't happen or minimizing the pain you've experienced. It's about restoring intimacy with God and finding freedom...

Most men think repentance is about trying harder, feeling worse about their sin, or proving themselves to God. I don't believe that's what repentance is at all. I believe repentance is about restoring intimacy. Throughout this Freedom Foundations series, we've been uncovering the deeper reasons behind the struggle with porn. We've explored your inner world, your formative wounds, y...

Most men don't struggle because they lack motivation. They struggle because they lack a clear, repeatable process. After thousands of coaching sessions with Christian men, I've become convinced that lasting freedom doesn't come from collecting more recovery tools—it comes from following a simple system you can trust. In this episode of the Freedom Foundations Series , I bring everythin...