WHEN DATING HURTS

This story comes with many warnings. There are descriptions of cruel violence, addiction, crimes and incarceration, trauma bonding, and abandonment. These can be triggering for some. If listening to this episode becomes too intense, stop and do what is best for you. Sunshine Faye (not her real name) is a survivor. In her story, she never pretends to be a saint. She puts on full display her mistake...

This is a blend of survivor-centered education, psychology, and clear red-flag guidance. And it's all grounded in research. We call this: Mirroring - The Narcissist's Deadliest Trap. This is not an interview with a survivor. It is not red flags wrapped into a story. This is about the red flags you need to know so you will never be fooled by someone trying to use digital technology to control and s...

This is a blend of survivor-centered education, psychology, and clear red-flag guidance. And it's all grounded in research. We call this: Mirroring - The Narcissist's Deadliest Trap. This is not an interview with a survivor. It is not red flags wrapped into a story. This is about the red flags you need to know so you will never be fooled by someone trying to use digital technology to control and s...

This story comes with many warnings. There are descriptions of cruel violence, rape, addiction, crimes and incarceration, trauma bonding, and abandonment. If listening to this episode becomes too intense, stop and do what is best for you. Lisa Ortiz is an author and the founder of a nonprofit foundation. These are recent developments. In this story, you will hear how she rarely caught a break in l...

This story comes with many warnings. There are descriptions of cruel violence, rape, addiction, crimes and incarceration, trauma bonding, and abandonment. If listening to this episode becomes too intense, stop and do what is best for you. Lisa Ortiz is an author and the founder of a nonprofit foundation. These are recent developments. In this story, you will hear how she rarely caught a break in l...

This is a blend of survivor-centered education, psychology, and clear red-flag guidance. And it's all grounded in research. We call this: Safety Planning and Strategies. This is not an interview with a survivor. It is not red flags wrapped into a story. This is about the red flags you need to know so you will never be fooled by someone trying to use digital technology to control and stalk you in a...

This is a blend of survivor-centered education, psychology, and clear red-flag guidance. And it's all grounded in research. We call this: Safety Planning and Strategies. This is not an interview with a survivor. It is not red flags wrapped into a story. This is about the red flags you need to know so you will never be fooled by someone trying to use digital technology to control and stalk you in a...

This story comes with many warnings. There are descriptions of cruel violence, rape, and trauma bonding. If listening to this episode becomes too intense, stop and do what is best for you. This is part two of a two-part interview. Rebecca Lazzelle is a domestic violence survivor. She is also an author and healer. When Rebecca contacted me, she said her experience shows the kind of emotional abuse...

This story comes with many warnings. There are descriptions of cruel violence, rape, and trauma bonding. If listening to this episode becomes too intense, stop and do what is best for you. This is part two of a two-part interview. Rebecca Lazzelle is a domestic violence survivor. She is also an author and healer. When Rebecca contacted me, she said her experience shows the kind of emotional abuse...

This story comes with many warnings. There are descriptions of cruel violence, rape, and trauma bonding. If listening to this episode becomes too intense, stop and do what is best for you. This is part one of a two-part interview. Rebecca Lazzelle is a domestic violence survivor. She is also an author and healer. When Rebecca contacted me, she said her experience shows the kind of emotional abuse...

This story comes with many warnings. There are descriptions of cruel violence, rape, and trauma bonding. If listening to this episode becomes too intense, stop and do what is best for you. This is part one of a two-part interview. Rebecca Lazzelle is a domestic violence survivor. She is also an author and healer. When Rebecca contacted me, she said her experience shows the kind of emotional abuse...

This is a blend of survivor-centered education, psychology, and clear red-flag guidance. And it's all grounded in research. We call this: Spyware - Detection and Removal. This is not an interview with a survivor. It is not red flags wrapped into a story. This is about the red flags you need to know so you will never be fooled by someone trying to use digital technology to control and stalk you in...

This is a blend of survivor-centered education, psychology, and clear red-flag guidance. And it's all grounded in research. We call this: Spyware - Detection and Removal. This is not an interview with a survivor. It is not red flags wrapped into a story. This is about the red flags you need to know so you will never be fooled by someone trying to use digital technology to control and stalk you in...

This is part two of a two-part story with Katie. Be sure you are ready to hear this story. As it proceeds, you will be hearing about horribly abusive physical violence and actual torture... Trigger warnings need to be expressed due to both the content and graphic descriptions. If this story is too intense for you, please stop listening and take care of yourself. Katie's Story When Katie met Mark,...

This is part two of a two-part story with Katie. Be sure you are ready to hear this story. As it proceeds, you will be hearing about horribly abusive physical violence and actual torture... Trigger warnings need to be expressed due to both the content and graphic descriptions. If this story is too intense for you, please stop listening and take care of yourself. Katie's Story When Katie met Mark,...

This is part one of a two-part story with Katie. Be sure you are ready to hear this story. As it proceeds, you will be hearing about horribly abusive physical violence and actual torture... Trigger warnings need to be expressed due to both the content and graphic descriptions. If this story is too intense for you, please stop listening and take care of yourself. Katie's Story When Katie met Mark,...

This is part one of a two-part story with Katie. Be sure you are ready to hear this story. As it proceeds, you will be hearing about horribly abusive physical violence and actual torture... Trigger warnings need to be expressed due to both the content and graphic descriptions. If this story is too intense for you, please stop listening and take care of yourself. Katie's Story When Katie met Mark,...

This is a blend of survivor-centered education, psychology, and clear red-flag guidance. And it's all grounded in research. We call this: Gaslighting and Psychological Manipulation. This is not an interview with a survivor. It is not red flags wrapped into a story. This is about the red flags you need to know so you will never be fooled by someone trying to use digital technology to control and st...

This is a blend of survivor-centered education, psychology, and clear red-flag guidance. And it's all grounded in research. We call this: Gaslighting and Psychological Manipulation. This is not an interview with a survivor. It is not red flags wrapped into a story. This is about the red flags you need to know so you will never be fooled by someone trying to use digital technology to control and st...

I met Jen Lee six years ago when she and I launched separate podcasts at around the same time. Both podcasts are heavily aimed at identifying and supporting survivors. Jen and I share podcast tips and have remained professional friends ever since. Residing in Virginia, her first marriage ended amicably (really). She wanted a relationship that matched her energy and zest for life. While having an a...

I met Jen Lee six years ago when she and I launched separate podcasts at around the same time. Both podcasts are heavily aimed at identifying and supporting survivors. Jen and I share podcast tips and have remained professional friends ever since. Residing in Virginia, her first marriage ended amicably (really). She wanted a relationship that matched her energy and zest for life. While having an a...

This is a blend of survivor-centered education, psychology, and clear red-flag guidance. And it's all grounded in research. We call this: Dynamics that Make Coercive Control Effective and Difficult to Escape. This is not an interview with a survivor. It is not red flags wrapped into a story. This is about the red flags you need to know so you will never be fooled by someone trying to use digital t...

This is a blend of survivor-centered education, psychology, and clear red-flag guidance. And it's all grounded in research. We call this: Dynamics that Make Coercive Control Effective and Difficult to Escape. This is not an interview with a survivor. It is not red flags wrapped into a story. This is about the red flags you need to know so you will never be fooled by someone trying to use digital t...

We want you to hear from the mind of an abuser once more... This episode, our eighth in this "Mind of the Abuser" series, comes with content and trigger warnings: Domestic abuse, domestic violence, language, and graphic violence. We have heard enough about the minds and justifications of abusers to have insights into what we would probably hear. It would sound like the excuses for actions taken on...

We want you to hear from the mind of an abuser once more... This episode, our eighth in this "Mind of the Abuser" series, comes with content and trigger warnings: Domestic abuse, domestic violence, language, and graphic violence. We have heard enough about the minds and justifications of abusers to have insights into what we would probably hear. It would sound like the excuses for actions taken on...