Make Your Damn Bed

Don’t be afraid to go after anything you want even if you’re a lil scared its not the perfect fit because who the hell cares if its a temporary gig, at the very least you’ve got a dope party story and best case scenario you get to combine all your skills into the ideal life for yourself.  Open yourself up to new experiences, be brave, face the what if I hate it’s with so what if I hate it - a...

In the book, Stumbling on Happiness, Dan Gilbert says: "Most of us do have the expectation that our lives are improving and will get better and better, but often we’re not ready to do anything to actually achieve that next level. So, we spend our days hoping for better, our evenings dreaming of better, but our time doing nothing to make anything better - which means - things probably aren’t actual...

Save the work until you get to the work.  So often, we get caught up in our heads about potential problems and our workloads that we basically double the work on our plate by basically having to go through it twice.  Have you ever been driving to work and pre-writing emails, or pre-planning meetings, or predicting problems?  How many times have you left a job and started planning fo...

When being propositioned for anything, practice saying oh that sounds great can I get back to you in ____ insert appropriate time frame here.  I typically tell people I will put it in your calendar and check back in closer to the date. Then immediately I will set a second calendar event for a week or a day or so prior to the event reminding me to check in about it.  That way I can have t...

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Good morning sunshine! Hope today is magic for you. Today's (and tomorrow's) episode references: https://time.com/4116259/google-search-2/ https://www.usatoday.com/story/tech/2019/11/02/expert-tips-for-google-search/4113013002/ MEDIA BIAS CHART EXPLANATION: https://adfontesmedia.com/how-ad-fontes-ranks-news-sources/ https://www.allsides.com/media-bias/media-bias-rating-methods 1. Language is impor...

I feel the need to remind us all that truly unbiased humans don’t exist so truly unbiased news sources can’t exist either. Buuuuuut, luckily there are some resources that don’t explicitly sell out to advertisers, politicians, agendas or whatever else people get brainwashed by or choose to sell their souls for and fortunately for us - that means there are the occasional resources that opt for good...

sometimes when I am really missing the beach - and I can’t make it to the lake because it’s 17 degrees outside - I put on my insight timer to beach sounds, get a lil high, put the fan on full blast and the heater on my toes and I imagine that I am on the beach while I meditate. In the summer, I go to the lake and sincerely pretend it’s Florida. And I gotta say - pretending works. Plus, when y...

I don’t think there is any industry that people discourage more immediately and blindly than they do of anyone pursuing a life in the arts.  People are happy to tell you how hard it is - but they’ve never tried. They claim safer industries and careers and condescendingly claim to admire your passion while silently offering fearful judgements and thinly veiled disappointment in you.  Bein...

Do the prep work, then forget about it. You’re more likely to be able to handle whatever the universe throws at you if you’re already ready to handle what was expected.  It’s less stress to prepare for a mess than it is to be surprised by one. Most of the time, I am proud to be the prepared friend. My official @MYDBPodcast tote bag is never lacking on snacks, lotions, hot sauces, or pens. I c...

SPECIAL EPISODE: Evening wind down guided meditation. Take and adapt this lil wind-down to fit your needs! Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

SPECIAL EPISODE: this is an adaptable guided meditation to help you wake up in the morning and recharge with positive, warm energy for the best possible start to your day! Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

if you’re like me - and you have ever felt resistance or a sense of overwhelm with trying to convince yourself that you need to meditate and seem to struggle sitting down for three to five minutes at a time, and cant quite understand why? I get it, bc I’ve been there. Quite a bit.  And in my experience, the best way around that resistance is to remind yourself that meditation is not a time to...

In my opinion, the only true, long term solution to not wanting to stay in bed all day, and that is to create genuine motivation to get your ass out of bed and begin your day.  Obviously knowing you have to do taxes wont get you out of bed but knowing you have a zoom friend date with some grocery store sushi and a bestie from middle school this evening is far more likely to get your ass amped...

When it’s time to start moving there are a variety of tactics I find myself cycling through to effectively get myself off my ass and in a better energetic mindset for the day.  Some ways to help you get out of bed:  MYDB PODCAST: Listen to the Make Your Damn Bed Podcast + practice associating it with starting your day. PLAYLIST : Put on a hype up/game day playlist and blast it.  BLA...

If you want to participate in discourse get educated if you’d like to have opinions. Ideally you are only listening to multiple Reputable sources from different organizations and areas and are as unbiased and unsponsored as possible.  then - if you have the capacity to do something to help in any way - which I have to be honest, I don’t know that writing our alderman is really gonna work on t...

I believe, in general, if bad news or even just the idea of news genuinely incapacitates you from life and you cant deal with learning or knowing or watching or doing anything that makes you feel heavy, fuck it. You are under no obligation to learn or know or watch or cater to anything heavy for a while.  Nobody is checking you to ask what you know or what you don’t know about current events....

Be raw when you can because it shows others they can be raw too and it also shows the world it’s okay to need shit, to not be perfect, to have blemishes, and make mistakes. Life is nuanced - what you compare yourself to should be too! Don’t get stuck in echo chambers of single minded, neutral looking, straight sized bodies. Diversify, branch out of your comfort zone, and be more objective with the...

Had a great revelation during the recording session of the relative comparative baseline series and wanted to share it with y'all! I am spending a lot of time findin' the right balance that works best for my style and preferences and most optimized results. With trial and error, I find more and more things that I find surprising to admit they genuinely bring me joy. Who would've thought bringing a...

And every new human I meet and every new story I learn only encourages me more to show up fully in my own life. I like knowing the wide world has lots of options and there is not any expectation for me to be the best or worst of anything. I will fall somewhere in between and where I land is ultimately up to me and fate.  If I follow the kardashians I am far more likely to end up on amazo...

if people who are raw and “UGLY” or messy or open or authentic online, and that is off-putting to you - check in on why - is the reason valid or is the hesitation because you’re so used to seeing perfectionism and unrealistic expectations in your feed? I know people very personally who share very misleading versions of their lives online which genuinely makes me jealous even though I see them and...

A good place to start when it comes to expanding your baseline of comparison and relativity - is social media. And I recommend starting to realign that by looking around you - does everyone at the grocery store in your area look like the people that come up in your timeline feed? Or is your feed filled with one type of body or person? One type of content? If it’s all puppies or recipes - great. Bu...

Day III of series. Please go back to day one if you're new here! If you chronically feel not good enough - your baseline of comparison is probably too fucking high and unrealistic. Reevaluate and recalibrate that shit.  The grass is always greener and our brains are designed to get bored of repetition so novelty is more important than getting ‘the best of the best’.  Basically, we need t...

This extra special extended episode features the incredibly brilliant Dr. Darcy (you can find her and take the quick lil trust quiz at www.thetrustquiz.com) and we chat about common relationship drama, inheriting generational trauma, and why we act out around our mama*. *I did this for the rhyme, we cover why we get meaner to the people we are closest to, but you get it. I hope you enjoy this epis...

Success as a whole is relative - which means it’s kinda bullshit.  They did a study on people wanting to own nice cars based on the proximity to lotto winners who won or immediately purchased nice cars and the chances of you investing in a new car multiplied by 50% ish if you were in the neighborhood and 80% if you were the next door neighbor.  If your social media feed is filled with me...