Love, Happiness, and Success For Therapists

You're fully booked. The money is coming in. So why does your bank account still feel stressed? If you've ever looked around your practice and thought, "I should be making more than this..." you're not imagining it. In this episode, I sit down with CPA and cash flow strategist Emily Bowie to talk about cash flow for therapists and the financial trap nobody warned us about: earning more is not the...

If your practice is growing but you're more exhausted than ever... if you're working nights and weekends just to stay caught up... if you're making more money but somehow feeling less free... this episode is for you. Because here's the truth nobody tells therapists: you can be exceptional at helping clients and still build a practice that quietly burns you out. In this conversation, I'm joined by...

All therapists have blindspots, and learning to recognize them is deep personal and professional growth work. It will make you more empathetic, more insightful, and more insightful, not only as a therapist, but also as a human.   But the thing about blindspots is... we can't see them! ⁠ Uncovering your blind spots to become a more culturally competent therapist⁠ is a process of self-exploration th...

Ever had a client look at you, desperate for help, and ask, “What should I do?” Today, I’m pulling back the curtain on a dilemma that I hear from therapists all the time: “My clients are stuck, they need direction, and they’re asking me for advice. But I’m supposed to stay neutral, right?”  On one hand, we want to help, but on the other, we’ve been trained to stay neutral and let the client find t...

After 25 years as a psychologist, I still catch myself doing it. A client edges toward something sexual, I reflect, I validate, and I quietly move us somewhere safer. If you have done the same thing in a session, you are not a bad clinician. You were just never taught how to stay in that moment, and almost none of us were. In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Nicole McNichols, the University of Wa...

Ever walk out of a session thinking, “Was that okay? Did I do it right? Did I help enough?” If so, you are so not alone.  In this episode of Love, Happiness, and Success For Therapists, I’m diving deep into ⁠therapist performance anxiety⁠ — the kind of internal pressure that doesn’t just keep us up at night, but can actually interfere with the quality of our clinical work.  From subtle fears about...

Have you ever heard the term coaching psychologist? Probably not. In the United States, it barely exists as a concept. In the United Kingdom, it is a recognized specialty of the British Psychological Society, with peer-reviewed journals, formal credentials, and university-level standards. So the next time someone tells you coaching can’t be a serious discipline, the honest answer is that it alread...

Elliott Connie thinks most of what we were trained to do in couples therapy is, in his words, ridiculous. The way he explains it: if you get shot with an arrow, does it help you to know who shot you, or do you just want the arrow out? That’s the question that anchors solution-focused couples therapy. And it’s the question that’s been quietly changing how a generation of clinicians thinks about the...

You've been recommending Attached for years. Your client has read it twice. They can name their attachment style, walk you through the childhood wound, and articulate exactly why they do what they do. And they are still, every few months, processing another version of the same painful cycle in their relationship. In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Amir Levine, the Columbia psychiatrist and molec...

You had a first meeting with a prospective therapy client that YOU thought went great… but the client never came back. Here’s why: Therapists don’t know how to communicate their value. Why do amazing therapists struggle with ⁠therapy client engagement⁠? Spoiler alert: It’s not about your clinical skills, it's about how you connect. Engaging therapy clients isn’t just about being good at what you d...

If you’ve been trying to figure out how to stop thinking about your therapy clients once the workday is over, you’re not alone. One of the hardest parts of being a therapist is that the session may end, but your mind keeps going. You replay what your client said, wonder what you could have done differently, and carry the emotional weight of the work into the rest of your life. In this episode, I’m...

The research on psychedelic therapy is becoming too compelling to ignore. While it’s easy to dismiss this work as fringe—or assume it’s not relevant if you don’t plan to practice it—the reality is that, in the hands of skilled providers, these approaches can be profoundly effective. As therapists, it’s our responsibility to stay informed so we can have thoughtful, ethical conversations and help cl...

Therapist boundaries are essential to ethical, effective care, but from a client’s point of view, they can sometimes feel confusing, distancing, or just plain weird. A long pause. A declined social media request. No direct advice. No follow-up between sessions after something heavy. If you’ve ever felt a client pull back after one of those moments, this episode is for you. In this episode of Love,...

Marketing for therapists is harder than it should be and most aren’t getting clients. In this episode, I'm sitting down with marketing specialist Jenny Arroyo to unpack what actually drives client growth in private practice and why so many therapists struggle to gain traction despite being excellent clinicians. Jenny Arroyo is the founder and owner of Strategy Solutions. Her journey into the world...

Somatic therapy is changing trauma treatment—but what happens when therapists can’t provide it? In this episode, I'm chatting with Keeley and Michelle, practitioners of a consent-based relational touch modality, to explore a provocative question: what do we do when our clients need experiences we ethically cannot provide? This is a rich conversation about the gap between insight and lived experien...

Sometimes, being a better therapist has less to do with learning a new intervention and more to do with paying attention to the pace of the work. Are you moving too fast with clients, or not moving things forward enough? I’m revisiting this episode because therapy pacing is one of the most common and overlooked reasons clients get stuck, lose momentum, or start to wonder whether therapy is really...

Therapists are being targeted by scams in ways that are becoming increasingly sophisticated and difficult to detect. These therapist scams often involve threats to your license, your clients, or your private practice, and they are designed to create urgency so you act quickly without verifying. If you’ve ever had a moment where something felt off but serious enough that you thought, “What if this...

If ending therapy sessions on time feels harder than it should, you’re not imagining things. Many thoughtful, dedicated therapists struggle with this, especially when meaningful work is happening in the room or when a client brings up something important right as the session is ending. But learning how to end therapy sessions on time is a professional skill that quietly shapes your boundaries, you...

Therapists in therapy often overthink, overanalyze—and miss their own blind spots. What happens when the helper becomes the client? In this candid conversation, I'm sitting down with Dr. Bill Doherty to explore why therapy for therapists can be uniquely challenging, and how our professional training can actually interfere with intimacy, boundaries, and relational intelligence. If you’ve ever wonde...

Have you ever walked out of a session wondering if you talked about yourself a little too much? Therapist self-disclosure can be powerful when it’s brief, intentional, and clearly in service of the client. A thoughtful share can normalize an experience or strengthen rapport. But oversharing in therapy is different. When your stories start taking up too much space, when clients feel responsible for...

Private practice can feel like the ultimate goal — until it becomes financially and ethically overwhelming.⁠ So many therapists dream of starting a private therapy practice for freedom, flexibility, and a higher private practice therapist salary. But what happens when the reality of private practice therapy doesn’t match the expectation? In this episode, I’m breaking down the private practice busi...

Therapist burnout isn’t a personal failure, it’s often a therapist career planning problem. Let’s fix it. If part of you has been thinking, “Something about this isn’t sustainable,” I want to talk about that. Most of us were trained to be competent clinicians. Very few of us were trained in therapist career planning. We weren’t taught how to build a sustainable therapy career that supports our ner...

Dating coaching for therapists is becoming a common clinical need, yet most of us were never trained to offer step-by-step support when clients want help with dating. Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby is joined by evidence-based dating coach Tim Molnar to talk about practical, ethical tools therapists can use when helping clients build healthy relationships. Many therapists feel confident helping clients unpac...

What if your client’s self-esteem struggles aren’t about deficits — but about being in the wrong role? Many therapists work with clients who feel chronically discouraged, stuck in career dissatisfaction, or locked into exhausting power struggles with their partners. Often, these clients come in believing something is “wrong” with them — when in reality, they’re operating far outside their natural...

There's a mismatch of expectations between therapists and their clients. A lot of therapy clients—especially the high-functioning ones—walk into therapy thinking, “Great. I’m hiring someone who can help me make meaningful changes in my real life.” They’re looking for clarity, strategy, momentum, and better outcomes. But many therapists (often without realizing it) meet them through a clinical-trea...