Dr Thomas Smithyman Podcast

In this episode I explore how self-criticism and the  pressure to perform can fuel anxiety, and how changing the way we respond to ourselves can change our experience. For more on psychology and social interaction, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear For regular insights and tips, subscribe to the newsletter: https://learn.thomassmithyman.com/email

Do you enjoy socializing, but find yourself completely drained afterwards? This video describes how I’ve learned to connect without exhausting my social battery. Download the full list of 15 ways I became more self-confident here: https://thomas-smithyman.mykajabi.com... For more on psychology and social interaction, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear For regular insights...

If you want help finding better answers to the questions people actually ask (including examples of what I would say), get the worksheet here: https://learn.thomassmithyman.com/Con... In this episode, I share five surprising things I’ve learned that lead to better conversations. For more on psychology and social interaction, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear For regular i...

If you want help finding better answers to the questions people actually ask (including examples of what I would say), get the worksheet here: https://learn.thomassmithyman.com/Con... Ever been asked about yourself and felt like the conversation went NOWHERE? This episode will help you with that. For more on psychology and social interaction, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithout...

In this episode, I explain three hidden psychological barriers that may be causing you to unintentionally filter out people who are actually into you. To work more on your social and psychological health, join the newsletter: https://learn.thomassmithyman.com/email If you want to work on dating and connecting, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear

In this episode, I explain why dating can feel like a performance or evaluation, and what helps it feel more natural and enjoyable instead. To work more on your social and psychological health, join the email list: https://learn.thomassmithyman.com/email . If you want to work on dating and connecting, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear

If you're a hard-worker who's feeling the grind, this episode is for you. As a psychologist, I've delved into both the research and real-world cases to uncover the truth about the necessity of vacations and the fears that keep us from taking them. Think you can power through without ever taking a break? The truth might surprise you. Skipping the downtime doesn’t just affect your performance; it co...

As a clinical psychologist, I've spent decades exploring the landscape of fear, not just professionally, but personally. In this video, I'm sharing the three pivotal lessons that you can learn when you face your fears. Join me as I recount personal anecdotes, like the rule that helped me write my book despite overwhelming anxiety, and give client examples that you can apply to your own life. You c...

Do you ever find yourself frozen in social situations, haunted by what others might think of you? In this podcast, I reveal the insights that triggered a mindset shift and helped free me from the shackles of social anxiety. This is a reading from my book: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cover: http...

This episode is about the psychology of playing hard to get, revealing indicators, how it works, and whether it's a good dating strategy, along with the downsides of using it.  To work more on your social and psychological health, join the email list: https://learn.thomassmithyman.com/email . If you want to work on dating and connecting, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear

This episode explores one reason we get overlooked, and what to do about it. If you want to work on dating and connecting, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear To work more on your social and psychological health, join the email list: https://learn.thomassmithyman.com/email

In this episode, I look at a dataset of 880 Guardian Blind Dates to explore what really happens when two strangers sit down for a first date. Rory Flint’s Blind Dates dataset: https://blinddates.rory.codes/ The Guardian Blind Date series: https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/series/blind-date To work more on your social and psychological health, join the newsletter: https://learn.thomassmithym...

In this episode, I explain what triggers overthinking when you like someone, what your mind is trying to do, and why it gets stuck — along with a better way to approach it.   Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://learn.thomassmithyman.com/email If you want to work on dating and connecting, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear

Do you spend a lot of time thinking about possible issues in the future? I've seen this cause a lot of problems for people lately. This video game analogy seems to help. You can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://learn.thomassmithyman.com/email

I share my journey overcoming social anxiety, which led me to write my book. Through personal stories and strategies backed by clinical experience, I explore how to move from fear and avoidance into what I call the "Warm Social World," where meaningful connections feel natural. For more on psychology and personal growth, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear Optimize your soc...

Becoming self-confident is easier than it seems (if you understand it). In this episode, I discuss the insight that changed everything for me. Backed by psychological research and personal insights, I reveal the real meaning of self-confidence and how it can transform your life. For more on psychology and personal growth, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear I’m creating a w...

Ever been in a conversation and had NO idea what to say next? This episode will help with that. I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cover: https://forms.gle/MUBu4MqMGcPsqNMDA For more on psychology and social interaction, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear Optimize your social and psychological health with my n...

I woke up feeling down, and decided to record a podcast (that day) describing what I did in response. I thought this could be helpful since I’m a psychologist and you can see how I used to deal with it, and how I’ve learned to respond differently now. And by the way, I stuck to this system and my mood returned to baseline within a couple of days.  Remember, it’s okay to have down days. What’s impo...

Can your personality actually make you more physically attractive? I explore how certain traits can change how others see your looks, backed by surprising psychology and neuroscience findings. What key characteristics shift these perceptions, and why? Listen to learn how your interactions and behavior could enhance your attractiveness, without changing your appearance. For more on psychology and d...

Download my "Worry Time Pocket Guide" here:  https://thomas-smithyman.mykajabi.com/worry-time-pocket-guide For more on psychology and anxiety, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear

Our phones are quietly undermining our social lives by pulling attention away from real human connection. In this episode, I explain the psychology behind how phones reduce happiness, weaken relationships, and block connection—and the small, practical changes that can help you level up. For more, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear I’m creating a workshop to help you date a...

Discover the evidence-based methods to staying positive even when your circumstances are difficult. I share my own story of how and why I had to learn all about this. You can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://drthomassmithyman.beehiiv.com.

There are 3 different styles of comparison in the comparison trap. I'll walk you through the psychological benefits and costs, as well as how to stop comparing. You can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://drthomassmithyman.beehiiv.com .

As a clinical psychologist who met my wife on a dating app, I’ll share strategies to stop endless swiping and texting, and start making real connections. I want to help you actually meet someone without falling into the common traps most people face. For more on psychology and dating, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect w...

Download the full list of 15 ways I became more self-confident here: http://bit.ly/4nbjDUA To improve your social confidence, you can get my book: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cover: https://forms.gle/MUBu4MqMGcPsqNMDA