Dr Thomas Smithyman Podcast

Do you ever find yourself frozen in social situations, haunted by what others might think of you? In this podcast, I reveal the insights that triggered a mindset shift and helped free me from the shackles of social anxiety. This is a reading from my book: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cover: http...

This episode is about the psychology of playing hard to get, revealing indicators, how it works, and whether it's a good dating strategy, along with the downsides of using it.  To work more on your social and psychological health, join the email list: https://learn.thomassmithyman.com/email . If you want to work on dating and connecting, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear

This episode explores one reason we get overlooked, and what to do about it. If you want to work on dating and connecting, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear To work more on your social and psychological health, join the email list: https://learn.thomassmithyman.com/email

In this episode, I look at a dataset of 880 Guardian Blind Dates to explore what really happens when two strangers sit down for a first date. Rory Flint’s Blind Dates dataset: https://blinddates.rory.codes/ The Guardian Blind Date series: https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/series/blind-date To work more on your social and psychological health, join the newsletter: https://learn.thomassmithym...

In this episode, I explain what triggers overthinking when you like someone, what your mind is trying to do, and why it gets stuck — along with a better way to approach it.   Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://learn.thomassmithyman.com/email If you want to work on dating and connecting, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear

Do you spend a lot of time thinking about possible issues in the future? I've seen this cause a lot of problems for people lately. This video game analogy seems to help. You can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://learn.thomassmithyman.com/email

I share my journey overcoming social anxiety, which led me to write my book. Through personal stories and strategies backed by clinical experience, I explore how to move from fear and avoidance into what I call the "Warm Social World," where meaningful connections feel natural. For more on psychology and personal growth, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear Optimize your soc...

Becoming self-confident is easier than it seems (if you understand it). In this episode, I discuss the insight that changed everything for me. Backed by psychological research and personal insights, I reveal the real meaning of self-confidence and how it can transform your life. For more on psychology and personal growth, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear I’m creating a w...

Ever been in a conversation and had NO idea what to say next? This episode will help with that. I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cover: https://forms.gle/MUBu4MqMGcPsqNMDA For more on psychology and social interaction, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear Optimize your social and psychological health with my n...

I woke up feeling down, and decided to record a podcast (that day) describing what I did in response. I thought this could be helpful since I’m a psychologist and you can see how I used to deal with it, and how I’ve learned to respond differently now. And by the way, I stuck to this system and my mood returned to baseline within a couple of days.  Remember, it’s okay to have down days. What’s impo...

Can your personality actually make you more physically attractive? I explore how certain traits can change how others see your looks, backed by surprising psychology and neuroscience findings. What key characteristics shift these perceptions, and why? Listen to learn how your interactions and behavior could enhance your attractiveness, without changing your appearance. For more on psychology and d...

Download my "Worry Time Pocket Guide" here:  https://thomas-smithyman.mykajabi.com/worry-time-pocket-guide For more on psychology and anxiety, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear

Our phones are quietly undermining our social lives by pulling attention away from real human connection. In this episode, I explain the psychology behind how phones reduce happiness, weaken relationships, and block connection—and the small, practical changes that can help you level up. For more, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear I’m creating a workshop to help you date a...

Discover the evidence-based methods to staying positive even when your circumstances are difficult. I share my own story of how and why I had to learn all about this. You can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://drthomassmithyman.beehiiv.com.

There are 3 different styles of comparison in the comparison trap. I'll walk you through the psychological benefits and costs, as well as how to stop comparing. You can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://drthomassmithyman.beehiiv.com .

As a clinical psychologist who met my wife on a dating app, I’ll share strategies to stop endless swiping and texting, and start making real connections. I want to help you actually meet someone without falling into the common traps most people face. For more on psychology and dating, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect w...

Download the full list of 15 ways I became more self-confident here: http://bit.ly/4nbjDUA To improve your social confidence, you can get my book: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cover: https://forms.gle/MUBu4MqMGcPsqNMDA

After years of working on overthinking--called "post-event rumination" to us psychologists--I've come up with a 4 step process that has been pretty successful for me. I lay that out for you in this episode. You can get more info on all these idea in my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cov...

For more on psychology and dating, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cover: https://forms.gle/MUBu4MqMGcPsqNMDA Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://drthomassmithyman.beehiiv.com.

For more on psychology and dating, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cover: https://forms.gle/MUBu4MqMGcPsqNMDA Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://drthomassmithyman.beehiiv.com.

Discovering who you truly are can transform your life. In this episode, I break down the science of self-concept clarity, a cornerstone of self-awareness, using the psychological research and my experience as a clinical psychologist. You’ll learn why understanding yourself matters, how it leads to greater happiness, purpose, and self-confidence, as well as actionable steps to build deeper self-awa...

Have you ever stared at your reflection and thought, “If I could just fix this one thing, I’d finally feel confident”? This video aims to help with that. I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cover: https://forms.gle/MUBu4MqMGcPsqNMDA If insecurity has held you back from connecting with others, this book might help: https://geni.us/Datin...

Ever worry you’re too quiet to be charismatic? This video will help with that. For more on psychology and social interaction, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cover: https://forms.gle/MUBu4MqMGcPsqNMDA

Learn 4 psychology-backed pathways to actually recharge. For more on psychology and dating, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://drthomassmithyman.beehiiv.com.

For more on psychology and personal growth, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://drthomassmithyman.beehiiv.com.