It’s the Brenda Martillo Show

Hey guys.. It's me.. I hope you didn't forget me. It's been a while, and here is a little update. Life has been lifing.. OMG, has it been lifing!! Take a listen to this quick update. See you again real soon.

Omg it’s been a long time! Today I’m going to give you all a quick snippet of what has been happening the last 11 months. Life has been life-ing!!! So grab a chair and a drink and listen in on the craziness that is my life. Cheers!

You know how it is.. you book yourself to hang out but then you get bogged down with work, you had a rough night and now you're overwhelmed. But, it's a standing date with the girls. As a mom with mega anxiety, I'm always worried that I'm letting my friends down. I'm afraid of losing my friends because I have really good friends but my social capacity is at the max after one vi...

**vent session loading** You have a friend who you adore and love and is your chosen family but what do you do when you want to protect them from something that you deem hurtful? Do you mention it or just let it be? Grab a drink and a chair and help me talk this through.. what do I do?

No one is going to guess that you're stressed out and need a break. If you act like everything is ok, it will be fair to assume that it's ok. I realized recently that I wasn't ok and wasn't saying or telling the people around me what I needed and was mad and hurt. I had a major fall out with the fam and discovered that I was harboring resentment. Listen in as I talk about what that was and how I a...

Hopefully I will use this as a guideline to a better and less stressful 2023. Here I list my top 7 takeaways. These are just some things I learned this year and I hope to really accept these guidelines and use them. Take a listen and let me know what you think. Cheers to the end of 2022 and the beginning of 2023.

Can you just relax? Just sit and relax.. I can’t. It’s legit so stressful for me to stop. I always have to be doing something. I saw my mom do it too and in my mind, being busy means being a hardworking woman. I can be hardworking and still take a break. It’s ok to take a break. Take a break. I challenge you to take a 15 minute break and really do something for you without distractions and focus o...

How do you deal with that overwhelming feeling of letting people down or letting the people closest to you down? On top of that, it’s the holidays! So that feeling is overwhelming times 100. In today’s episode we’re going to be talking about that feeling.. that horrible, horrible feeling. I will tell you how I deal with it. But I also want to know how you deal with it. Are we doing ourselves a dis...

Hey girl hey!! I'm back with a life update. LIFE!! OMG it's been hectic and chaotic but I'm still standing. So what has happened? Too much! Grab your favorite drink and listen in. 

In life, it’s 90% of what happens to you and 10% of how you react to those situations. I have always been reactive, like really reactive. But recently, I decided to change this a little. I’m still learning that I can only control myself and those around me. But how can you change 40 years of this habit? Take it one day at a time. So, pull up a chair and grab your favorite drink and listen a long w...

Have you ever had a time in your life when you have a different point of view of the person you are talking to? Has it lead to misunderstandings or fights? Did you ever think that the experience you both described is the exact same thing but from different sides? You know that saying, “put yourself in their shoes”? Do you actually do it? It’s hard sometimes. Today I want to talk to you about it be...

I have been going through some things professionally and personally, really going through it emotionally. I have had a moment to reflect and think back and what the takeaways are from this experience- not that it’s the first. We all go through disappointment or rejection, but how do you deal with? I hope there is a take away for you out of today’s episode. Take a seat and a grab a drink..

I’m back! So glad to be back with you guys. I have missed you. What happens when you plan? Life! Freaking life! Omg! So much has happened and here is my story of the last month. So grab your favorite drink, pull up a chair and listen in on this crazy story. Virtual hugs to all! No real ones because we all have cooties lol! Jk jk

Today we talk about expectations. For me, expectations have led to some of the biggest disappointments and they have been mostly on myself. Expectations I have had for myself and others have led to depression and anxiety. It’s been tough. Have you ever been let down by expectations? It sucks! Grab a chair and a drink and come hang out with me for a bit!

Have you ever wondered what the difference is between Hispanic and Latinx is? It’s really simple. Here I dive in to the major difference and give you some resources, who to look up to find more info. Sit back and enjoy this quick episode. Cheers!

Hey girl hey! We have have burdens and we don’t want to share them because we think our friends have enough but it’s good to share because then it’s less heavy. I have had to look within, deeply, to realize that I need my sister circle just as much as I need professional help too. I’m not ashamed to admit that I have sought a counselor or a therapist when I felt like I couldn’t deal with my burden...

Hey guys! I know it’s been a while. Life has happened.. it has gotten in the way but I’m happy to be back. Today, my friend and I continue our conversation about her divorce journey. You don’t have to be married a long time or at all to relate to our convo today. Pull up a chair and have your favorite drink in your hand and enjoy. Sending you all my love! (Maybe we will do a part 3- what’s life po...

What do you do when your powerhouse couple friends announce they are getting a divorce? My good girlfriend, Robyn, walks us through what she went through, how she gave permission to her tribe to talk openly about our own marriages and how hard it is to do this day in and day out. She is a strong woman and I am proud to have her be part of my inner circle. ***Full disclosure- this isn’t a piece whe...

So I was reading this article about how men get more out of being married then women. Basically, they go into marriage when they are ready and not when they feel like they have to and women do it because we go into it thinking we found our prince charming. Said Prince Charming is sitting on the recliner with his hands in his pants and watching tv, all while we are running around cleaning up or dea...

It’s been over 13 months of being in quarantine and this summer is looking very promising. My girlfriends and I are planning a fun and safe getaway. Girl code applies - what happens in vacay stays on vacay! Grab a drink and listen in.

We are so busy with everything we have going on in our lives that sometimes it’s hard to squeeze in one more thing to do. Time gets away from us and that text or call didn’t happen. It doesn’t mean I don’t have the time for you, my brain is just fried and I forgot. We all have a lot on our minds. So what to do? Well, catch up when you can and don’t scold your friend when they haven’t reached out f...

Ok wait.. Do you do that too when you meet a cool new person? I do and I can’t help it. Then when it fizzles out, I’m left asking what I did wrong or where it went sour. If you are like me, you know this happens a lot. But don’t worry, it’s ok. Listen in and tell me what you think.

Do you have a dream or goal in mind that just seems unreachable? You losses so much power and you have to unleash it. Stop being intimidated by others. You can do it! I believe in you! Pull up a chair, grab a glass of your favorite drink and listen in as I help you realize that it’s not to late! You got this!

Today is a day to reflect an honor those women that have made us the women that we are today. I just wanted to send a quick little reminder to you that says that you are incredible, you are spectacular, and you have everything in your hands to do what it takes to change the world. Go get them girl!

Will you stop that?? Stop saying you can’t complain, stop saying you aren’t doing enough, stop being so hard on yourself!! Stop it!! We are doing the best we can and that is enough. We are all going through hard times and we are dealing with it the best we can. Be nice to yourself! Pour yourself a glass of wine or have some coffee and listen in as we talk about good enough for now.