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My husband brought me a soy chai out of the blue, he took responsibility for our son’s dental needs, and we watched a fun show together. A life you love is 100% possible for you. If you’ve thought of hopping inside my world, now is the time. Resources from this episode

She was dating a cop, but it was stagnant. He hinted about the future but was he monogamous? Listen to today’s podcast if you’re feeling stagnant and learn the techniques my (now) police girlfriend used to communicate and stop making assumptions about her man. Resources from this episode

My military spouse client transformed from feeling like “is anything going on in there” in her military husband, because he shut her out from his feelings TO “I get a front row seat to his feelings. I love it.” Openness is critical to remaining connected among military couples as one is deploying to the Iran War or Middle East. Resources from this episode

No consistent days off? He doesn’t trust therapists or coaches? Always with the kids? Let’s chat about these common barriers to receiving help in your police, fire or military relationship. Resources from this episode

Could you find out your husband had messaged another woman intimately and then go on a 45-minute gratitude rant about him just 2 months later? My Couples Coaching client did. Here’s how they got here. Resources from this episode

My resentment prevented my husband from joining SWAT early on in his career. Luckily, I adopted the mindset, daily routines and communication that I teach my clients and left resentment in the dust to step into a marriage I’m so proud of today. On this podcast, I share what your resentment is costing you in your relationship as a police wife, fire wife or military wife. Resources from this episode

Try my “dent in your fave mug” strategy inside as a police wife, fire wife, deputy wife or military wife. You’ll actually feel heard and resolve conflict like “wow, that was so easy!” Resources from this episode

Feel like he’s closed off to you? This episode will show you the power of Gentle Observation as a police wife, firefighter wife or military spouse. Resources from this episode

This conversation will change you as a police wife, deputy wife, firefighter wife, military wife or military spouse. Resources from this episode

This mini training will help you go from feeling like you’re doing it all alone or like a single mom to more supported than ever before if you are a military spouse preparing for deployment or a police wife or firefighter wife preparing for a long work time period or training away from one another. Resources from this episode

In this mini training, you’ll go from feeling distant and disconnected to on the same team again as a police wife, deputy wife, firefighter wife and military wife with your husband. Resources from this episode

These three barriers to receiving coaching or therapy as a police, firefighter, or military couple are holding you back, but I share how some of my clients have overcome them: 1. Your partner isn’t a fan of coaching; he doesn’t trust opening up to people 2. Your partner’s schedule changed every week 3. Your child/children are with you all the time Resources from this episode

There is truly nothing better than this. My firefighter + military couple went transformed from the wife feeling alone to “more supported than ever before” by her husband. Resources from this episode

Your brain doesn’t know the difference between a dream and reality, so it also unconsciously takes this as fact as well. This episode will be an important reminder to you as a police wife, deputy wife, military wife or firefighter wife or if you’re dating a cop, firefighter or service man. Resources from this episode

Learning this will ensure that you approach your husband or boyfriend with empathy rather than accusatory as a police wife, deputy wife, firefighter wife or military wife. Resources from this episode

Leave feeling like a single mom in the past. In the episode, welcome in feeling supported by your partner even if he’s deployed or working 75+ hours/week like my husband. Resources from this episode

You feel like your partner doesn’t talk about his feelings as a police wife, firefighter wife or military wife. But, what if he is opening up to you and you’re missing it? Listen to this episode to find out. Resources from this episode

Is a 3-hour argument with tears and yelling the norm in your marriage? You wake up puffy eyed feeling like nothing was resolved. What if 15-minute conversations resolving conflict without yelling or tears became your norm. This episode will inspire you. Resources from this episode

He tells you “I had a rough day,” but doesn’t give all the details. You’re left wanting more rather than acknowledging that he actually did tell you about his day. To him, he’s opening up. Then, you’re making him feel like it’s not enough. Look for the intention and acknowledge it to have that deep connection with your first responder or military partner that you desire. Resources from this episod...

Of course it’s a sweet phrase, but it’s unconsciously upsetting your nervous system. Try this bridge phrase instead that you’ll learn as you listen. Resources from this episode

This Big tip is so powerful. You’ll see your police, firefighter or military husband or boyfriend go from hypervigilant to melting in relaxation. Resources from this episode

Your partner left you hanging- left you on read or is shutting you out? This technique is gold to have him texting you back and opening up to you. Resources from this episode

The next time you think, “He doesn’t want to spend time with me” do this instead will have you feeling like “Of course he wants to spend time with me.” Resources from this episode

You’re all up in your head worried your police husband, firefighter husband or military husband is cheating. In this episode, you learn how to turn off the noise and look for evidence, yes evidence, but not the type you’re thinking of, to turn off the noise and feel confident again in your relationship. Episode all about the family dinner: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0JAWe2vXMnMwpPrqLhG62h?si...

When is the last time you looked inward? You actually have a record of how well you are communicating right in your phone. In this podcast, I share you with a marriage saving audit that you make you so self aware and know exactly what to do to improve your communication as a police wife, firefighter wife or military wife. Resources from this episode