Want to Want It with Jamelyn Stephan

Loss and the ensuing grief are inevitable parts of our mortal experience. It can be the loss of a loved one or the loss of a dream, they all bring us grief. I invited Certified Life Coach Tricia Zody to talk about this sensitive topic. In 2017 Tricia's husband of 30 years tragically died, leaving her in despair. But God reached in and told her she could have another beautiful life. Now she ru...

Self-confrontation is when you look within yourself and examine your own attitudes and behaviours to see where you have shortcomings so that you can make needed changes. It’s about taking an honest look at yourself and finding your own flaws so you can correct them.  This isn't easy work to do. But it's powerful work that will change your relationship with yourself and your relationship...

Listen in on this conversation with Daelene Byam, a certified life coach who works with teenagers and young adults who struggle with anxiety. On this episode we will discuss: - how to know if your child is experiencing normal, human anxiety or if it something that they need help with. - how to normalize anxiety. - 4 things parents can do to help their kids with anxiety. Daelene's Website: htt...

When we are always complying to the requests and demands of others we can suddenly find ourselves leaving compliance and swinging way over to defiance. Listen to find out the difference between compliance that brings goodness versus compliance that is detrimental to us. Also, find out why detrimental compliance will always push us to defiance. Lastly, learn how to stop the compliance/defiance cycl...

Just like our world is made up of ecosystems, so are our relationships. Whether at home, at school, or at work, humans are really good at creating patterns of living together that are comfortable. But just like nature's ecosystems, there are things that disrupt our relationship's ecosystems. A new baby, a divorce, a new teacher, a new boss, a rebellious teenager.  Listen today to learn h...

I believe what you think really matters because what you think in your mind creates the life you end up with. I believe this so deeply and that's why I help people learn how to believe new things. I want to help them create their lives more intentionally. On this episode I teach you how to learn to believe something new.  (And I promise it's not about using mantras.) https://jamelynsteph...

Some of us claim to love our spouse but often what we really love is them loving us; we love them doing the things we want them to do for us so we can think good things about ourselves. If you're not sure exactly what I mean by this or if you aren't sure if you do this, this episode is for you. https://jamelynstephan.com https://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/ https://www.instagram.com/...

We all have felt regret before - that feeling of sadness or disappointment over something that has happened or that we've done. It's not a positive emotion but it can be used to teach us lessons - often the lesson of how we will do it differently next time. But what happens when instead of taking the lesson and moving on, we hold onto the regret? Then it becomes a tormentor as we are fil...

It is easy to let our negative emotions drive the car of our lives. But they often take us places we really don't want to be. And they are really terrible drivers. So, how can we let the negative emotions be in the car without being in the driver's seat? Listen in to find out. https://jamelynstephan.com https://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/ https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_co...

Every time a person's name crosses your lips you are selling them to the people around you. On this episode I discuss why this is, why it's important to understand, and how to sell people well instead of selling them short. https://jamelynstephan.com https://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/ https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/ jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com

I don't claim to be a parenting expert but having 7 children (who currently range from 11 to 24 years of age) has taught me a thing or two. On this episode I share 8 things I've learned that have helped me as I parent my children - and as I allow my husband to parent them as well. https://jamelynstephan.com https://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/ https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stepha...

We have all been taught how to act with kindness, even towards those we would say are "hard to be kind to". But what if no one is actually hard to be kind to?  I learned a life-changing lesson about the importance of feeling kind, not just being kind, that I want to share with you. https://jamelynstephan.com https://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/ https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_steph...

On the previous episode I talked about unnecessary suffering and how we choose it. On this episode I want to clarify that not all the suffering we choose is unnecessary. Some of the suffering we choose is actually meaningful because it gets us closer to what we really want in our life. When we want something, when really desire it, we have to willing to suffer sometimes to get it and when we under...

Life has inevitable pain - sometimes physical, sometimes emotional. What isn't inevitable is the unnecessary suffering we add onto our normal human pain. Here is how we do this: - we resist what is. - we believe that there is better than here . - we think we are supposed to suffer. - we focus on worst case scenario. - we think that things are going to be hard. On this episode I dive into each...

Some of us think respect is something we can just expect, or even demand from others. In other words, we feel really entitled to be respected. But guess what? We can't make anyone respect us. And often, when we try to make someone respect us, we end up disrespecting them. This episode talks about feeling entitled to being respected, what respect really is, and how to foster more respect for y...

Confusion is an emotion that many of us indulge in so we don't have to take action. We don't do it on purpose but our subconscious does it because it feels safe. You see, when you are confused you don't have to do anything uncomfortable and you don't have to make a decision you might regret. The problem is, when you stay confused you also never get to create the opportunities a...

Just like a camera can zoom in and zoom out, so can the focus of our lives.  Sometimes the circumstances of our lives require us to zoom in so we can take care of something that requires immediate, intense attention. At other times we have more freedom to zoom out. Freedom to look at the big picture of our lives and create a vision for our future.  On this episode I discuss when to zoom in and why...

There are three types of business. God's business. Their business. And your business. Too often we want to spend our time focused on God's business and other people's business. But, if you want a life that feels free and more in your control you need to spend your time worrying about your own business, not God's and not their's. Email: jamelyn@jamelynstephan.com Facebook:...

Newton's Third Law states that for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. In other words, there is opposition in all things. Even within ourselves. For example, perhaps you choose not to exercise today. Your brain starts to tell you how lazy you are and how inconsistent you are. The next day you exercise. This time your brain tells you that exercise hurts too much and is too ha...

Did you know the average person complains 15 to 30 times a day? Did you also know that complaining actually makes you feel terrible? Of course you did. So why do you keep doing it? Listen to find out why we are addicted to complaining and how to stop. Complaint Free World: https://customerservice243c9b.clickfunnels.com/order-490679491623345347975 https://jamelynstephan.com https://jamelynstephan.c...

I know you've heard a lot about gratitude but on this episode I am sharing with you Kevin Clayson's FLIP formula for gratitude. Once you learn this it is going to blow your mind and change your ability to feel gratitude forever. Kevin Clayson's Website: https://kevinclayson.com/home Flip The Gratitude Switch: https://flipthegratitudeswitch.com/book President Nelson "The Healing...

Some emotions are negative and they feel bad in our bodies, like anxiety.  Some emotions feel good but are negative because they lead us to do things that bring bad into our lives, like pride. Some emotions are positive and they feel good in our bodies, like glee. Some emotions feel bad but are positive because they lead us to do things that bring goodness into our lives, like courage, patience, a...

Human’s want to feel good all the time. We like dopamine. So, when we are faced with a negative emotion our instinct is to get away from it and one way we do this is by buffering. Buffering is when we use something outside of us to decrease the negative emotion we are feeling inside. But this isn't really a good idea because when we buffer we use a false pleasure to distract us from our negat...

Denita is a trauma coach for Latter-day Saints and she's on the podcast talking about how trauma affects intimacy. Specifically she talks about: - what trauma is. - how your body reacts to trauma. - your nervous system's window of tolerance. - and how this affects your ability to be intimate. Website: https://denitabremer.com/ (this is where to find her free Trauma Assessment) Podcast: T...

Do you ever feel like you just can't get yourself to do the thing you know you want to do? You just can't get yourself to start taking care of an item on your to-do list, a new skill or habit you want to create, or a goal you want to achieve. On this episode I will teach you why you feel so stuck and it all has to do with your desire to avoid discomfort. But what if the reality is you&ap...