Trail Blazers & Chain Breakers

It seems like common sense that to get to where we want to go, we need to walk away from where we've been... but there are a number of hidden ways that we can be clinging to the past. In today's episode, we talk the stories that we tell ourselves, love vs. fear, creating the exact situations we don't want, and more! Just a warning: we do occasionally swear in these episodes.  We don...

"Should" can become a dominating force in our life if we're not paying attention. They signal stories and expectations that we are creating, and today's expectations become tomorrow's resentments. In today's episode we talk about always and never, why maybe your kids should NOT be listening to you, the damage that expectations can do in relationships, and more! Just a...

"If there is no enemy within, the enemy outside can do us no harm." We've all heard this quote before, but how do we apply it to our lives, our relationships, our own growth? In this episode we dive deep on what an enemy is, the enemy within our relationships, fears, insecurities & more! Just a warning: we do occasionally swear in these episodes.  We don't curse like sailor...

There are so many people debating & theorizing about what makes a good man (or a good woman) these days... and while these conversations are worthwhile, too many people putting in their "2 cents," aren't actually doing what they say others should do. The debate has distracted from the actual doing. Marcus Aurelius said, "Waste no time arguing what a good man should be. Be o...

C.S. Lewis says "When the whole world is running towards a cliff, he who is running in the opposite direction appears to have lost his mind." When you're going against the grain, it can sometimes feel like you're crazy, and others will probably treat you like you are! In today's episode, we cover why other people are threatened by your growth, what "crabs in a bucket&...

"If you wish to get out of prison, the first thing you must do is realize you are in prison. If you think you are free, you can't escape."  (G.I.Gurdjieff) In today's episode we talk: when you don't even realize you’re in prison, ways we imprison ourselves, ways we might be holding our children prisoner, and how to break out of  these prisons! Just a warning: we do occasio...

We all want to get better, but sometimes thinking that we need to "fix" ourselves can actually be a trap... In today's episode we go deep on being a self-development junkie, how you could be missing the lesson if you're trying to "fix" yourself, creating the problems we're trying to avoid, "fixing" the kids & more! Just a warning: we do occasionally...

"What's best for the child isn't always what's most convenient for the parent."  We all probably know this on some level, but what does that look like in your life?  This week, we cover adult temper tantrums, our job as parents, why you should allow your kids to question you, kids lying and much more! Just a warning: we do occasionally swear in these episodes.  We don&apos...

Conflict in any relationship is never fun, but it can be necessary, and is always an opportunity for growth. This week, we go deep on conflict, fighting, how to repair after a fight, how to fight fair, the difference between disagreement & disrespect, and much more! Just a warning: we do occasionally swear in these episodes.  We don't curse like sailors, but if you are listening with youn...

There is no magic finish line in growth or life.  So many of us miss enjoying the journey because we're focused on the destination. In today's episode, we talk "I'll be happy when...," magic finish lines, society's definition of success vs. yours, how it's never too late to start and more! Just a warning: we do occasionally swear in these episodes.  We don't...

We may know who we want to become, but so many of us struggle to actually get there. What if the reason we can't become who we want is because we're too attached to who we've been? In today's episode, we talk about why changing our stories is simple but not easy, being attached to the stories we tell, clinging to anger & resentment & more! Just a warning: we do occasion...

"There is no greater burden on a child than the unlived life of a parent." These words from Carl Jung are a sobering reminder of one of the deepest dangers of being a parent. In today's episode, we go deep on legacy & burden, living vicariously through our children, why chasing our dreams is one of the greatest things we can do for our kids, and more! Just a warning: we do occas...

Sometimes all we want is to know where the finish line is... but unfortunately, when it comes to any kind of personal growth, there is no magic finish line, and there is no guaranteed timeframe.  This week, we talk about how these expectations actually hold us back, how to find the lesson in struggles, what a growth hangover is, and more! Just a warning: we do occasionally swear in these episodes....

Everyone wants more joy, but sometimes we don't know how to find it... In today's episode, we talk clearing space for joy, how joy is a choice, when joy feels unsafe and more! Just a warning: we do occasionally swear in these episodes.  It's who we are, and we believe in giving you an authentic picture of ourselves.  We don't curse like sailors, but if you are listening with yo...

The bottom line is: no one is coming to save you. No one can heal you, make you into a better person, or "fix" you. You have to do it yourself.  The bright side is: there are plenty of people who can help you, but only after you make the decision to save yourself.  We go deep on this truth in today's episode, as well as how our problems aren't special, the desire for instant gr...

Do you feel like you're spinning your wheels in your relationship? Are you falling into the same mistakes and patterns over and over again? Here are 7 things we've learned to let go of in our relationship through experiencing how destructive they can be... Just a warning: we do occasionally swear in these episodes.  It's who we are, and we believe in giving you an authentic picture...

These days, it's easy to feel like the world is full of darkness, but with the right perspective, there is plenty of light to see- and attract- in our lives.  In today's episode, we go deep on gratitude & resentment, living on autopilot, how it can scary when the light comes, and more! Just a warning: we do occasionally swear in these episodes.  It's who we are, and we believe i...

One of the reasons we repeat patterns is because "nothing ever goes away until it teaches us what we need to know."   Today, we go deep on learning life's lessons, why they repeat, acceptance of the lessons & more! Just a warning: we do occasionally swear in these episodes.  It's who we are, and we believe in giving you an authentic picture of ourselves.  We don't curs...

Ever wonder why you repeat the same patterns  and make the same mistakes over and over? In today's episode, we go deep on this, co-creation, the Will to Fail, Imposter Syndrome and more! Just a warning: we do occasionally swear in these episodes.  It's who we are, and we believe in giving you an authentic picture of ourselves.  We don't curse like sailors, but if you are listening w...

Often times we feel weighed down by the season of life we are currently in- illness, job loss, death in the family. But the seasons of life are like the seasons of the year: they all serve a purpose and benefit each other, even if the meaning and connections are hidden. In this episode, we go deep on the seasons of life, how they relate to the seasons of the year, special purposes for each season...

You're hard to control when you're healthy. You're hard to manipulate when you're clear. You're hard to influence when you are sovereign.  In today's episode, we go deep on the importance of being healthy, clear & sovereign, what that means, and how to find health, clarity, sovereignty, and more! Just a warning: we do occasionally swear in these episodes.  It&apos...

The words "victim" and "victimhood" are touchy subjects these days... In today's episode, we go deep on the difference between being a victim and victimhood, how to own your shit, why accountability feels threatening and more! Just a warning: we do occasionally swear in these episodes.  It's who we are, and we believe in giving you an authentic picture of ourselves. ...

We are  hardwired to seek acceptance from the group, but is that programming serving still us? In today's episode, we dive deep into this tribal need to fit in, contrarian thinking, building your own tribe and more! Just a warning: we do occasionally swear in these episodes.  It's who we are, and we believe in giving you an authentic picture of ourselves.  We don't curse like sailor...

Dying for your kids is seen as a noble sacrifice (and it is!), but truly LIVING for your kids is not given the same recognition. And we're not talking about making your children the sole focus of your every day- just the opposite, in fact! Living the life that you were meant to live, as a model for your kids takes intention, discipline and consistency- and might just be as noble a cause as dy...

All too often we find that we are our own biggest stumbling block on the path to growth.  Forgiveness, or a lack of it, is a powerful example of this. When we resist forgiveness, we voluntarily put ourselves into the prison of victimhood. In today's episode, we go deep on the power of forgiveness, setting ourselves free from the prison of victimhood, how you need to feel your shit to heal you...