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Send us Fan Mail In today's show Michael and Andy unpack the difference between guilt and shame and more importantly- how to address your shame when you do experience it.

Send us Fan Mail In today's episode Michael & Andy break down emotional regulation and how to improve it in 5 steps!

Send us Fan Mail In today's episode Michael and Andy break down EMDR therapy- what it is, why it's so effective, and some common misconceptions about it. Enjoy!

Send us Fan Mail What is assertiveness and how do I develop it in a healthy manner? Assertiveness is the ability to say what you need, want, feel, or think in a positive, direct manner without being too aggressive or passive. Assertiveness allows healthy boundaries to be expressed and held. It also allows you to take others' feelings, thoughts, and position into account while holding your own...

Send us Fan Mail Technical/Psychological Definition: Codependency is a dysfunctional relationship pattern in which individuals develop an excessive emotional or psychological reliance on another person, often to the detriment of their own well-being. It is commonly associated with relationships where one person enables another's addiction, poor mental health, or irresponsibility, and it often...

Send us Fan Mail Ep. 070 Types of Separations What are some reasons people may think about separation?  The “Deal Breakers” vs the Small Perpetual Problems. (Othen times the “deal breakers” we proclaim in the beginning are more solvable after years of marriage, and the smaller perpetual problems are the ones that tear us apart.)  Deal Breaker: issues or behaviors that threaten the relationship: bo...

Send us Fan Mail “What’s one thing you’d like to accomplish this year?” Common Pitfalls with Resolutions Use the SMART framework (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, Time-bound). Staying Engaged with Goals Track Progress: ○ Use apps, journals, or habit trackers to monitor your journey. ○ Celebrate small wins to maintain momentum. Adjust as Needed: ○ Goals aren’t set in stone; life changes,...

Send us Fan Mail In today's episode Michael and Andy discuss the phenomenon of "Phubbing" aka: snubbing somebody in your real life because your attention is on your phone. They break down research, ways to be self aware and not lose sight of valuable human connection at the expense of small dopamine hits from your phone!

Send us Fan Mail EP. 067: Wisdom from Quotes Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife - “We prefer the fantasy that we are owed happiness to the idea that we need to take responsibility for creating it.” Hippocrates - “Before you heal someone, ask him if he’s willing to give up the things that make him sick.” Lao Tzu - “Do not conquer the world with force, for force only causes resistance.”  Epicurus - “Do not...

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Send us Fan Mail In today's episode Michael and Andy discuss their experience with elections through the years, their thoughts on the right to vote, how to have political conversations with friends and family, and important self care tips for election night when the stakes feel high. 

Send us Fan Mail Blood Flood Retirement and Aging Genetics  Head Trauma Toxins Mental Health Immunity and Infections Neurohormone Issues Diabesity Sleep 

Send us Fan Mail Ep. 064 Fight Right - A Gottman Book Review Plato: “Be Kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.” Epictetus: “We have two ears and one mouth so that we can listen twice as much as we speak.” “It is not what you say, but how you say it.” Cicero: “In anger, nothing right or judicious can be done.” What do we really fight about? Most often NOTHING - meaning anything can...

Send us Fan Mail In today's episode Michael and Andy address several questions. They discuss mental health in our current political climate, the effect of mental health influencers and technology, religious trauma vs faith deconstruction, and how to discuss difficult topics such as suicide with your children. 

Send us Fan Mail Where have all the good men gone?  What makes a healthy masculine man?  Healthy masculinity is based on balance, meekness, strength, humility, vulnerability, accountability, protection, chivalry, boundaries, and will create a space for the emotions of his female partner. The ability to listen with your ears and through your body. The Calm in the Storm - being able to regulate your...

Send us Fan Mail In today's episode Michael and Andy explore the concept of discipline. Where it's useful, how to improve it, and why it can sometimes be a topic that makes us recoil a bit!

Send us Fan Mail Today we are going to talk about the dark and insidious world of gaslighting.  From the early 1939 play titled ‘Gaslight’ to the present psychological damage caused by gaslighting. We will tackle it all….. Hopefully.  Basic definition is a form of psychological manipulation in which one person seeks to make another person doubt their perceptions, memory, or reality.  Sarah Morales...

Send us Fan Mail In today's episode Michael and Andy give some tips for dealing with back to school struggles that emerge- especially for parents!

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Send us Fan Mail In today's episode Michael and Andy discuss several lessons they've learned from being therapists. These lessons are not just about how they've grown as therapists, but how being a therapist has helped enrich their lives and more!

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Send us Fan Mail Ep. 055: Marriage and Attachment Styles Can you give me any specific advice on how to deal with stonewalling in my marriage? How can I (as an anxious attachment style) better handle some of my negative thoughts towards my spouse, (an avoidant attachment style)? I know it’s probably not about me, but when my spouse shuts down and isn’t willing to communicate and share feelings, I s...

Send us Fan Mail Book: Attached by Amir Levine  &  Rachel Heller .  Baruch Spinoza - “All happiness or unhappiness solely depends upon the quality of the object to which we are attached by love.” Byron Katie: “A thought is harmless unless we believe it. It’s not our thoughts, but our attachment to our thoughts, that causes suffering. Attaching to a thought means believing that it’s true, witho...

Send us Fan Mail In today's episode Michael and Andy address several quick hitting topics and questions. If you want your question to be included in a future podcast- please take advantage of the new text us feature above!

Send us Fan Mail Seneca - “It’s not because things are difficult that we dare not venture. It is because we dare not venture that they are difficult.” “There is no growth in the comfort zone, and there is no comfort in the growth zone.”  Safety ➡️➡️➡️ Challenge ➡️➡️➡️ Overwhelmed ⤵️    ⬆️⬅️⬅️⬅️⬅️⬅️⬅️⬅️ What is anxiety?  Defined by Dictionary.com - “1.distress or uneasiness of mind caused by fear o...