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So what are you after in life? Are you out just to be happy? or are you after something more? Many men want to point to our founding documents and take from there that all we are supposed to be is happy. We are supposed to pursue happiness, yet are we able to actually catch our happiness, or would you settle for joy? How about something greater than happiness? Are you supposed to settle for just h...

Roman code or Mos Maiorum Mos maiorum  means  the way of the elders 8 virtues F ideas  - Be trust worthy The Latin word  fides  encompasses several English words, such as trust/trustworthiness, good faith/faithfulness, confidence, reliability, and credibility. It was an important concept in Roman law, as oral contracts were common.  Pietas  - Be respectful Pietas  was the Roman attitude of dutiful...

In this episode of the Relaxed Male podcast, we dive into the significance of altering our thoughts in order to improve our lives. Our thoughts shape our reality, emotions, and outcomes. It's common for people to believe that making a big change, like switching jobs or losing weight, will automatically bring them happiness. However, that's not the case. Our happiness and overall results are determ...

Getting the proper soul diet How are you helping yourself? Who are you talking to? How often are you talking to them? What are you doing for yourself? What are you doing for others? How do you start feeding your soul? Find what you are interested in. Look at different topics. Be hands-on. As long as you keep your interest occupied then good keep exploring that topic The moment you find your attent...

How do you handle your mind? What is meant by gaining control of your mind? How is this skill even possible? Don't we have thoughts all the time? You can't control your emotions Why does your mind run like it does? Unintentional Thoughts Used to just go where it wants Learn mindfulness Meditation Journaling Pay attention to what you are thinking Breathe You are signaling to the thinking part of yo...

Life can get monotonous We all let life slide by. We find ourselves floating down that river You don't have to let it Take over You have to notice when you are letting your life slide. Ask questions about that thought. Sadly we don't allow ourselves to get curious anymore. Importance of Being Curious It allows you to become childlike in wonder. You come to understand yourself better when you do al...

In this episode, we explore the power of positive thoughts and how they can help us overcome challenges. We acknowledge that it's common to feel overwhelmed by problems, but stress the importance of maintaining a positive mindset. We share personal experiences, such as dealing with internet issues, to illustrate how positivity can make a difference. We also express gratitude for our audience and t...

In this episode of "The Relaxed Male" podcast, I discuss how harnessing the power of a divorce can help men become better men. I begin by introducing the podcast as a place where men can remove the nice guy from their lives and find solutions to their suffering. I greet new listeners and acknowledge their role in the show's growth. I then talk about how people generally avoid discomfort and develo...

How do you want to show up? What is showing up? are you present at the moment or are you always lost in thought? How are you valuing those you are around? living with intention Who do you want to be in your marriage What type of husband do you want to be? are you listening to her or are you trying to fix it? Your Family Are you showing them the values you have are you letting them find their value...

In this episode of The Relaxed Male, the host delves deep into the importance of celebrating fathers on Father's Day. He explains that dads play a crucial role in society by being the pillars of households. Dads not only provide for the family financially but also emotionally. Masculinity is a much-debated topic. According to the host, dads show their sons how to be masculine by being leaders, and...

  The Problem with our problems Our thoughts about the circumstance often create our problem The problem is that of comparison We want the problem to be a bad thing when it may actually be good. Many  times we get mad at problems  because we are thinking intentionally We want to think we just  solved a problem  and so we shouldn’t have any more problems. Our solution to a problem just makes more p...

Now we all know about doing what you say to other people. This is part of keeping your word and that is important. If you break your word there is a lack of trust. That lack of trust has ramifications through more than what you want to think, and this is part of what is keeping you from going for the big prize in life. You don't even believe in yourself. People Don't Believe You It may be a given...

People want to think that finding friends is difficult. and while it can be challenging to find quality friends the issue of finding friends isn't any harder than changing your thoughts. Your thoughts about meeting people will result in you either meeting good people or meeting bad people. or meeting no people. That Choice is yours. Be intentional As with anything in life if you aren't being inten...

Something I hear over and over again is the man needs validation from his wife or the wife needs validation from her husband or friends or family or something to that effect. In this week's podcast episode, I am here to help you see that you are not a parking lot voucher and so you don't need to be validated. We also talk about the fact that I am out of the office and back in a truck and why that...

What happens when you try to fix other people's problems? The answer is a lot of unintended consequences. Many guys who are going through their divorce see that they are struggling to find their place in the current scenario and with men often having some aspect of a nice guy they try to rush to a person's aid. Why can't you fix a problem if you can? Trying to fix  a problem isn't going to help an...

What is holding you back? The root cause is fear. Yet as I have talked before we run from fear. We avoid feeling fear in almost every aspect of life. This is where courage in the face of fear is most needed. Yet we hide from that fear by masking the fear. We often do many different activities to hide from the fact that we are feeling fear. When you are hiding from fear or any other emotion what yo...

Now You hear me talk about  Grown men  and  grown boys . I have juxtaposed the two against each other a few times. Yet I want to do it on the podcast because sometimes people just don't like to read. Yet there is a huge reason that it is important to differentiate these two. That reason is that one is the source of weakness and victim mindset while the other isn't. Boys are Consumers In active A v...

What does it look like when you are living your life in fear? When you have a constant state of anxiety and fear how does one man cope? In fact, how does anyone cope? That is a huge and very important question to ask I  come across so many men  who are living in one form of fear or another. The Gentleman who is talking in this post shows all the detail of why living in fear causes you so many diff...

To be busy is almost a badge of pride for most men. Yet is it really? Is it better to be busy or is there something else you want to focus on? If it is something else then why do we focus on being busy? Why is busy what we want to do and not the other thing? The fallacy of busy Being busy is not the goal we want. Whether we are running our own business or helping another person  achieve their goal...

Note I talk about this being episode 171 and it is episode 172 Many times we claim that happiness is our goal. We want to be happy. We just want to be happy. Yet when it is time to take steps to be happy what is holding you back? Why do we avoid happiness? Because we are designed to look out for the bad. We know we have a better chance of staying alive if we worry about the tiger that might be in...

So, how many times have you had someone yell at you about bout not judging them? What do they mean by the whole don't judge me? How do you not be judgmental? You cant What is actually happening people don't want to be told they are out of step. They don't want to be told they are wrong. It is a double standard It is a lot like how women want to dress nicely to attract the guys they find attractive...

We as humans have emotional responses about many many things. Some people have more responses than others. Yet one of the big choices a person is able to make is not to the benefit of someone else but to themselves. Yet for some reason many people don't want to better themselves. I have started to  understand that many people  often seek out suffering and pain in their lives. This sounds so odd to...

Thoughts are what make your world yours. We love to have thoughts and share thoughts about what our thoughts are thought to mean. Our thoughts are fascinating when you step back and look at them. Especially when you can step back and see when a person is lost in their thought loops. A thought is nothing more than what we think. Was that the audience saying " Duh!"? YOu would think that it is a uni...

What happens when the pressure of life gets too much? How do so many men act like life doesn't bother them while you are sweating bullets? Frustration is a huge emotion when you are in a stressful situation. Examine why you are having all this pressure You are running to get the kids for your 4 hours of visitation. Yet you have a boss who is holding your job over your head. Stating that if you are...

This week we have a long episode. Yet it is a great episode. I have a friend of mine who has gone through a divorce and we talk about how a divorce changes a man and how that can be for the better or the worse. This week we have Craig Ignatowitz from the podcast At Home with Craig, He has gone through 3 different divorces and so if anyone has some insight as to how divorce can affect a man it is t...