The Positivity Xperience

What if this doesn't work, what if I live alone for the rest of my life & What if they cheat on me are just a few examples of what if catostrophic thinking.   While linked to OCD, anxiety and depression doesn't mean that you have to struggle with this forever but you do have to want to release the control and need to know.   In order to do that you have to redirect those thoughts to the OPPOSITE o...

Self love is a love like no other.  It is the most fulfilling love you will ever know in your life.  You read the meme's and do the things to work towards that feeling but do you beleive that you deserve it?   You have to start at the basics with self love of accepting that you are in control of that love and you alone can provide that for yourself.    The voices inside your head that tells you th...

Grounding is  a technique in which you allow yourself to be connected to that moment in time and connected to breath. When you allow yourself to stay in the moment with the understanding that you control and own nothing then you are operating from a neutral energy and can allow for abundance.  When you are mindful of the present moment, the thoughts of the past and future do not exist in that spac...

Low self esteem is something that holds you back from living a peaceful life.  You focus on the negative and what you aren't doing and how you may be "less than"  Low self esteem is a huge root cause to transactional relationships and fear of taking risks.    To switch the narrative of the negative talk you have to focus on the things that you ARE good at.  I promise you are good at something.  Be...

Who are you seems like an easy question until you strip yourself of the titles and labels you are attached you.  To know who you are you need to discover what your own beliefs are not what others have told you to believe of yourself.  The introspective work attached to this question also allows you to start to rewrite that narrative and default that has been instilled over your lifetime. www.thepo...

There are 4 main attachment styles.  The goal is to settle in secure attachment where you are balanced and confident.  There are three other types of attachments that create codependency, negativity, avoidance and other traits that contribute to unhealthy realtionships.   You are not destined to stay in a negative style unless you choose to stay there.  You style may wander through all of them exc...

Procrastination is not you being lazy, it is your lack of a system that creates the overwhelming feeling and lack of inspiration.  Focusing on on the goal and not the process is what makes the task feel undesirable.   When you have a system that is specific to the task it becomes an automatic routine.  Microgoals are the elixer that prevents procratination and allows for better time management.  ...

Religious trauma is a contributing factor of your social and emotional maturity, feelings of guilt and shame, adult relationships and so much more.  You can only believe what you were taught in your childhood but you have the ability to rewrite those beliefs.   It is especially traumatic when you are told that if you belive or live differently that you will burn in hell and may lose the community...

Failure, mistakes and the unkown is not a scary place but rather a place of redirection and opportunity.  Perfection is always rooted in insecurity and the need of approval and usially a big road block of you taking the risks to provide you with that direction. Fear of failing isn't even your stuff that you are carrying.  When you realize that failure and mistakes WILL continue to happen to help g...

We attached emotions to various situations that happen in our life. One of the biggest tools I learned on my own healing journey was "It is what it is".  This practice has and continues to allow me to process my feelings and emotions without attaching it to a situation.   It's a practice that requires patience and consistency.  Your feelings are ALWAYS valid to YOU and this practice allows for you...

Feelings and emotions while two different things can be dibilitating if you don't focus on allowing yourself to feel them so you may process them.  Feelings can take on the illusion as facts but feelings are the perception of facts to the person having them.  Regardless of how painful they can be, labeling and processing them is how you release the hold that they have over you. Let's chat about it...

Ego is actually how we live our lives.  We have the ID, Ego and Super Ego.  When they all work well together that helps us navigate through life.  When however we allow the ID Ego to take over, we allow that negative part of the ego to rule your entire focus and mindset.  In order to release ego you must first come to terms with the fact that you have no control over anything except your mindset....

Three types of people to surround yourself with to help elevate your vibe.  The Supporter, The Boundary Respector and The Inspirer.  You must also be those three things for yourself first and extend that same energy to those around you. If you do not have these people around you, its a good indicator to not only revaluate your circle but to focus on your own self love and growth. NEW PATREON episo...

Releasing the need to have control over situations, things and people requires nurturing of your mindset and perspective.  By enhancing and nurturing your mindset, your desire to control the unknown deminishes.   The things you think you control is actually controlling you. What you are chasing, you will always chase and what you run from with always chase you.  Mindfulness and acceptance that eve...

If you are an empath you know the difficulties of protecting your peace.  While difficult it is not impossible as long as you are willing to accept that its not your job to actually absorb other peoples stuff.    Empaths need structure and boundaries and a place to process what they are experiencing.   The ability to distiguish the difference between other peoples pain and your own will allow you...

To develop self love is to release the limited belief system that your parents, friends and social media has given you.  You can't fully love yourself while trying to please everyone even if you were told that that is what you need to do.   Allowing yourself the space to restructure your thoughts to be yours and not everyone else does take time and effort but the journey IS the progress and the re...

We all have power but often give it away in hopes that other people will like us.  We hold expectations that other people have the power to make us "happy".  Only YOU can make you happy and expecting others to do so is draining your power.   To protect your peace and maintain your power, you must be willing to release control and let go of the things you think will make you 'Happy".  Harness your...

Boundaries are a foundation of healthy relationships when set with intention and consistent practice.  When we have unhealthy boundaries, those lines get blurred and thouse boundaries become unhealthy. Trauma throughout your life can also lead to unhealthy boundaries.  Focus on healing that trauma and establishing healthy boundaries. Let's chat about it..   For all socials and private sessions: ww...

If you find yourself living in the past and feeling as though you will never be "happy" or at peace, you may not realize it but you are making your life even harder.  The art of acceptance and letting go is the key to gaining self love and boundaries but you resist these things when they aren't comfortable.   Let's chat about it... For all social links and services follow the website here

Encountering a narcissist is something we have or will face in our life.  If you are lucky, its a brief encounter but more often then not we end up entangled with them.  The importance of self love and boundaries is the key to avoiding the attachment to these people but let's discuss a few of the types of Narcissistic Personality Disorders so you have a bit more insight on what or who you are deal...

Starting your day committing 10 minutes of gratitude pen to pad can shift your entire mindset.  There will always be things out of your control but gratitude and mindfulness allows you to be grounded, present and intentional.   Building a gratitude practice into your daily routine along with other wellness practices will give you an amazing start to each day

Not being belived, humiliated or blamed are three reasons people are afraid to report abuse. It becomes even more problematic when poeple don't see evidence of what they assume abuse should look like.   The idea that you have no other option then your current one can often make you feel like staying is the only option.  Let's chat about it Domestic Hotline 1-800-799-7233 Text START 88788 Follow th...

In this bonus episode the recent events in Ukraine and personal DM's surrounding the coping of anxiety when you feel so helpless and uncertain.  Consistent scheduling and self care is mandatory to help maintain some sense of normalcy.   We never know or can always prepare for a tragedy.  Maintaining a daily wellness practice every day will allow you to always have a safe space.    If you would lik...

Feeling stuck, lost, sad and in fear can be overwhelming.  It's often hard to look past your current situation but one decision can be the change of your entire life.   It's overwhelming when you are looking at the entire picture as an emergency.  When you sort and prioritize what is the most important to you, it allows you to process each area of your life without that overwhelm. Let's chat about...

Are you feeling numb or depressed to the point of overwhelm and thoughts of leaving the planet because of it? Often we feel as though what we are going through in this moment may last a lifetime.   Its hard to see light and hope at times but I promise you as dim as it may be, there is a light there. Pupose is something that has many legs and changes as you grow.  Let's chat about getting through t...