She's Not Done

Are we spending too much money on our kids… or is raising kids today simply more expensive? Between sports, activities, school spirit days, clothes, Starbucks, Dunkin, DoorDash, Amazon, birthday gifts and all the little purchases that somehow become normal, the money adds up FAST. But this conversation isn't only about how much we're spending. It's about what our spending is teachin...

If you could go back to the moment before you became a mother—knowing everything you know now—would you still choose motherhood? For both of us, the answer is yes. But that doesn't mean we'd choose to do everything the same way. In this episode of She’s Not Done , we have an honest conversation about the parts of motherhood nobody can fully prepare you for: losing pieces of yourself, the...

“Girl, leave him.” It might be one of the easiest pieces of relationship advice to give—especially online. But are we actually encouraging women to walk away from their marriages too quickly? In this episode of She’s Not Done , Kouelee and Andrea look at the question from two very different perspectives: one woman who is still married and one who has been through divorce. Maybe women aren't l...

What does it mean to feel like a single mom when you're still married? In this episode of She’s Not Done , Kouelee and Andrea unpack the term “married single mom” and the complicated reality behind it. Kouelee shares that even in her marriage today, there are times when she's handling the kids alone because of her husband's work schedule. But she also remembers a very different peri...

What happens when love and money become impossible to separate? In this episode of She’s Not Done, Kouelee and Andrea revisit financial independence—this time through the lens of marriage, motherhood, divorce, and the decisions we often don’t think about until life forces us to. Andrea shares what she wishes she had done differently financially while staying home to raise her daughters, including...

How much of what we do is actually for ourselves—and how much is because someone else might be watching? In this episode of She’s Not Done , we’re talking about keeping up appearances: the homes we live in, the cars we drive, the way we dress, our careers, our bodies, our marriages, and especially the lives we show online. We get into the difference between genuinely wanting nice things and needin...

Co-sleeping might be one of those parenting topics everyone seems to have an opinion about—but what happens when you stop listening to everyone else and start asking what actually works for your family? In this episode of She’s Not Done , we’re talking honestly about our very different experiences with co-sleeping, bed-sharing, sleep training, breastfeeding, and eventually transitioning our kids i...

Are parents today too afraid of being disliked by their kids? In this episode, we talk about the uncomfortable side of modern parenting: the pressure to keep our kids happy, the guilt that makes us say yes when we really want to say no, and why being a good parent sometimes means being okay with your child being mad at you. We get into the difference between wanting a close relationship with your...

How much of the way we see our bodies is actually about our bodies… and how much of it is about how we feel inside? In this episode of She’s Not Done , we get honest about body image, confidence, aging, motherhood, food, comparison, and the years many women spend believing they’re somehow not “good enough.” We talk about looking back at photos from our 20s and realizing we were criticizing bodies...

Everyone says having kids changes your marriage—but does it make it stronger, or does it simply reveal what's already there? In this honest conversation, we unpack one of the biggest myths about marriage and parenting. We discuss why children don't create relationship problems, how they amplify communication issues, the pressure of parenting styles, and why so many couples stay together...

Does work-life balance actually exist… or are we chasing a fantasy? Everyone talks about finding work-life balance—but what if it's something we'll never truly achieve? In this episode of She's Not Done , we unpack the pressure women face to "do it all" while juggling careers, marriages, motherhood, friendships, and the endless mental load that comes with it. We share our...

As parents, our instinct is to protect our children. But when does protecting them start holding them back? In this episode, we dive into one of the biggest parenting challenges—raising confident, independent kids while still wanting to hold onto their childhood. We share honest stories about school buses, learning to ride bikes, Montessori education, letting go of control, teaching confidence, fi...

Why do we fight about the cup in the sink, the forgotten text message, the dirty laundry, or someone being five minutes late? The truth is… most arguments are never about the actual thing we’re arguing about. In this episode of She’s Not Done , Andrea and Kouelee dive into the hidden meaning behind small fights in relationships and why tiny moments can create huge emotional reactions. They talk ab...

In this episode of She’s Not Done, Andrea and Kouelee explore marriage and divorce as two sides of the same coin—how relationships can start with connection and slowly shift into distance, resentment, or clarity about leaving. They talk openly about what it looks like when a marriage enters a “roommate phase,” where couples are living together but no longer emotionally connected. From communicatio...

This week on She's Not Done , we're having an honest conversation about couples therapy —what it is, who it's really for, and why so many couples wait until they're on the brink of divorce before asking for help. We talk about our own experiences with marriage, divorce, communication, accountability, and why therapy isn't always about saving a relationship—it can also help...

In this deeply honest conversation, we unpack divorced parenting, co-parenting expectations, and the emotional reality behind what it actually looks like when two people separate but still share children. One host shares openly that she doesn’t fully resonate with the word “co-parenting” in her situation — and that becomes the foundation for a raw, layered discussion about communication breakdowns...

What does it really mean to be the "default parent"? In this episode, Andrea and Kouelee dive into the invisible responsibilities that often fall on one parent—the mental load, emotional labor, decision-making, and constant availability that come with being the default parent. They discuss how children naturally gravitate toward one parent, why many moms struggle to "clock out,&quot...

Mom friends can be lifesavers—or leave you completely drained. In this episode, Kouelee and Andrea dive into the complicated world of mom friendships: how they're formed, why some last a lifetime, and why others fade away. From awkward playground small talk and birthday party anxiety to finding the people you trust with your children, they explore what makes a true mom friend. The conversatio...

In this episode of She's Not Done , Andrea and Kouelee tackle a topic that resonates with so many parents and women: the village. We often hear people say, "It takes a village," but what happens when asking for help feels impossible? Is the village really gone, or have life experiences, disappointment, trust issues, guilt, and the pressure to be strong made it difficult to lean on o...

In this deeply honest episode of She’s Not Done , Andrea and Kouelee unpack the invisible mental load women carry every single day — from motherhood and marriage to divorce, intrusive thoughts, burnout, resentment, and survival mode. The conversation explores how emotional overwhelm impacts both mental and physical health, why so many women feel like they have to “do it all,” and the moment many w...

In this deeply honest conversation, we unpack one of the most important and often avoided topics in relationships: financial independence in marriage and motherhood. What does it really mean to be financially independent in a partnership? Should couples keep money separate, combine everything, or build a hybrid system based on income percentages? We explore real-life experiences of balancing caree...

In this episode of She’s Not Done , Andrea and Kouelee dive into the reality of modern motherhood, partnership, and the constant mental load that comes with trying to “do it all.” From working moms to stay-at-home moms, they unpack the invisible expectations, the guilt that follows every choice, and the impossible standard of being everything to everyone. They talk openly about intimacy in long-te...

In this introductory episode of She’s Not Done , Andrea and Kouelee share who they are, where they come from, and why this podcast exists. From divorce and motherhood to marriage, identity, and the unspoken realities women carry, this conversation sets the tone for what’s to come: honest, unfiltered discussions about life, relationships, and everything in between. They open up about the shame and...

In this emotional Mother’s Day episode of She’s Not Done , Andrea and Kouelee dive into the complicated feelings motherhood can bring — pride, guilt, grief, healing, disappointment, and unconditional love. They open up about the pressure and expectations surrounding Mother’s Day, the pain of feeling unseen, and how becoming mothers changed the way they viewed their own parents. From difficult moth...

In this episode of She’s Not Done , Andrea and Kouelee get brutally honest about the kind of exhaustion no one really prepares women for — the mental load, emotional burnout, motherhood guilt, relationships, divorce, marriage, and the pressure to “do it all.” From being touched out by toddlers to carrying the invisible weight of everyone’s schedules, emotions, and needs, this conversation dives in...