Securing Sexuality

From the Republican Party to the local sports bar, everyone in America is talking about Taylor Swift this week. But why are they so obsessed with her and WTF does it have to do with Securing Sexuality? This conversation starts out with Stefani's desire to finally convince Wolf that football is fun... but it quickly becomes an exploration of misinformation, deepfakes, artificial intelligence, a...

This week Stef and Wolf are joined by the cybersecurity's Ring Master, Ean Meyer! He's here to tell us all about manatees, muppets, and how to make scary topics accessible- a challenge many clinicians and educators also wrestle with. How can we get folks to learn skills to keep themselves safe? Why is making them even more afraid not an ideal strategy to reinforce learning? And how can we...

From fashion trends to SCOTUS rulings, this episode has a something for everyone. Join us as we try to get a cover-all on the 2024 Predictions Bingo card put out by one of Stefani's favorite brands. There's no sponsored content here- just rollicking conversation about abortion pills, TradWives, and the RenFaire. Laugh along with us- but be sure to shout BINGO to claim your winner's sta...

One of the biggest complaints that Stefani hears in her practice is that there are so many treatment options for men who struggle with arousal disorders and relatively few available for women. It can be disheartening for many clients to feel like the medical community isn't taking their needs (or their bodies) seriously... and if there's one thing that Wolf and Stef want you to take away f...

This has been a busy year for the Securing Sexuality Home Team! Wolf and Stef talked to some incredible experts and recorded dozens of podcast episodes, Comms Director Frank and the crew helped us host our first ever live conference, and we even visited a cyber brothel! But which episodes were our favorite of 2023? In a year full of so much, what sticks out in our minds as the most impactful momen...

This has been a busy year for the Securing Sexuality Home Team! Wolf and Stef talked to some incredible experts and recorded dozens of podcast episodes, Comms Director Frank and the crew helped us host our first ever live conference, and we even visited a cyber brothel! But which episodes were our favorite of 2023? In a year full of so much, what sticks out in our minds as the most impactful momen...

It's that time of year again! PornHub has released its annual report on viewer trends and Stefani can't wait to unwrap it. Join Wolf and Stef this week as they discuss what surprised them about 2023's top fantasies, offers their insights into why some themes are more popular than ever, and they debate whether or not she should start her own channel in 2024. Show Notes on SecuringSexual...

It seems like it's impossible to live in the 21st century without sharing parts of our lives on different social media platforms. LinkedIn for professional networking, Facebook to keep up with the family, the website-formerly-known-as-Twitter when you're just dying to ruin your mood. Every facet of life has it's own dedicated website- including our most intimate identities. The BDSM co...

Perhaps the most common question people ask Wolf these days is how they can evaluate an app or other digital product before using it themselves or sharing it with others. This week, we'll use the recent example of Speaker of the House Mike Johnson's revelation that he and his son use the Covenant Eyes "accountability" app to track their digital behaviors online as a case study. W...

Life is weird these days. Everyone is polarized. The news is a clusterf!ck. And now we have to hang out with Racist Uncle Joe and eat some overcooked turkey. Thankfully (see what we did there?!) Wolf and Stef are joined this week by Tilly Bridges, the author of Begin Transmission: the Trans Allegories of the Matrix to talk about how we can use our post-parade TV time to brush up on all the ways th...

How much would you pay for a stolen credit card number? A social security number? Can you put a price on someone's online identity? What about just their medical records? In this weeks episode, Stefani has questions about healthcare hacking: why it happens, how to recognize it, and why someone would bother stealing the records of her last flu shot. Have you ever wondered why criminals target h...

Social media is full of commentary on masculinity these days. As gender norms change and evolve, more and more men are thinking about what it looks like to be a good man in the 21st century- both online and off. This week, author Eric FitzMedrud is here to join Wolf & Stef in these conversations. Listen in as they chat about the evolution of masculinity, consent for men, what Ted Lasso can tea...

Wolf and Stef got an early holiday gift in the mail from Lovehoney! Join us this week as Sarah Tomchesson, Lovehoney's Resident Sexual Wellness Advisor, guides Wolf & Stef through unboxing a sexy advent calendar! As each new treat is revealed, Sarah, Stefani and Wolf share tips, tell stories, and gear up for the most decadent holiday season ever. Show notes on SecuringSexuality.com

Michael Kaye is the Director of Brand Marketing & Communications for Archer- a new dating app for gay men. He's here to give Stef & Wolf a glimpse into the world of online dating platforms- how sites are designed, how safety and inclusivity are prioritized, and how folks from under-represented gender, sexuality, and relationship communities can find friendship, connection, and love in...

It's finally here! The Securing Sexuality Conference is live in Detroit and it's sold out!! People are making new friends, learning from experts, and picking some locks... but just beneath the surface, a scheme is brewing. Join us as Wolf and Stef share their favorite conference moments and recount their behind-the-scenes adventure as someone tries to pull off a targeted phishing attack ag...

Maya Brooks is a legit genius. An award-winning educator, speaker, and entrepreneur, she is Founder & CEO of Privy Labs, an anti-piracy protocol designed to protect media content from harm, abuse, and misuse. And this week, Maya is here to tell us how to keep our spiciest images safe online. In order to do that, through, she'll first have to get Stefani to understand what the blockchain ac...

What counts as cheating online? Is watching porn cheating? Is having friendships with folks you only know from social media emotional infidelity? Is buying time with your favorite cam performing the same as having an affair? The answer is YES. Or maybe no. It all depends on your specific relationship agreements. But no matter what counts as infidelity for you and your partner(s), everyone agrees t...

If you've ever wondered what the coolest job EVER was, Simon Dubé has it. Simon is a post-doctoral research fellow at the Kinsey Institute, where he specializes in erobotics, sextech and space sexology. YES.... he is a space sex scientist! And he is here to tell us all about his work in erobotics, the International Congress on Love, Sex and Robots, and why the future of space exploration might...

Breakups are never easy. It never fails to surprise us how quickly love can turn to anger and hurt. Knowing that our now-ex has a record of the good times, the sexy times, can make a breakup feel even more stressful and disorienting. This week, Wolf and Stef are here to talk about how to navigate the tech side of a breakup- what to do with all of those saved flirtations and deeply personal pics yo...

Sex-positive Punk-Folk musician Rachel Lark, creator of the rock comedy musical "Coming Soon" which explores themes of connection and healing from trauma, visits Securing Sexuality this week! Her hits include “ ⁠Polyamory Blues⁠ ,” “ ⁠Shut Up & Hit Me⁠ ,” " ⁠Warm, Bloody, And Tender⁠ ,” “ ⁠It’s Hard To Be A Feminist⁠ ," and she's here to tell Wolf and Stef all about her...

What do you do when your photo pops up somewhere you DON'T want to be? Do you have any options? Heck... do you even own your image? Inspired by a recent call from a concerned therapist, this week Wolf tells Stefani all about the Digital Millennium Copyright Act- how it can protect you when unwanted images, recordings, and other content is shared online and where it's usefulness is limited....

Shakun Sethi had a vision: she wanted to create a user-friendly, approachable s3x education platform that would let people get answers to the questions they were too embarrassed to ask anywhere else. She wanted to teach, to empower, to amuse. So when her site, Tickle. Life was deplatformed by her payment processors? She approached the situation like any passionate teacher would: she immersed herse...

This August, Stefani was invited to speak at SquadCon- one of the many community events that happen in Las Vegas at Hacker Summer Camp. Join us as Wolf offers color commentary on her presentation, hear her thoughts on why developers need to be designing with mental health in mind, and learn why Stef STILL f*cking hates the Elf on the Shelf. Much like Summer Camp itself, this is not to be missed.

We all know someone who logs on to Only Fans these days, either as a content creator or as a consumer. But what many of us don't realize is that the nature of the site has changed dramatically. In this episode, we are joined by Christine Leistner, a relationship scientist and public health scholar at California State University- Chico, who tells Stef and Wolf all about the ways in which Only F...

Tune in for our first ever cross-over episode and listen in as our intrepid hosts join Rachel Arnold and Will McCullen for an episode of The Coffee Table Talk cybersecurity podcast. Join us for a heavily caffeinated conversation between three cybersecurity experts (and Stefani) as they explain why technologists need to be paying attention to the way people form and foster their relationships onlin...