SECOND CLOCK™

We all have stuff that is important to us. For some, the value is not in what the item is worth but it in what the item represents. This week I had to let go of what it was worth, what is stood for and the item itself. What is the hardest thing or things you have had to let go of? Maybe it is an item, a relationship or possibly a dream.

Have you ever believed that you understood how people and relationships worked, only to find out that you were Naive? That is what I came to learn about me and others.

A dog can teach you a lot about love and how to love. When I brought home our puppy I thought the love from her was guaranteed until I realized that I was wrong. My dog taught me that I had a blind spot on how to love and how I could work to fix it. How about you? Do you know how to love?

What would it take for you to speak up about something you see, know or hear? What would gnaw at you so much that staying silent, remaining aware but quiet no longer works for you? I asked myself this question when I was staying silent and then I SPOKE UP and learned what I was willing to stand up for.

What if you took away all of the labels you gave people and experienced every relationship as it truly was? What would matter most to you and that relationship then? I have tried it and I am learning that how you truly relate to one another is what matters and labels can just make things messy

What is the hardest thing you ever did that you did not think you would be asked to do or need to do? For me, it was testing my belief and understanding of loyalty.

So many of us go, go, go through life and find ourselves off course, but how can you get back or find a new way? Well I found it comes by Stopping, Assessing and Reflecting. This series of the Second Clock journeys through taking a new path and accepting the bumps along the road.

We spend so much time going from what we want in the Now, or what we have to do to cross something off our day's list, that we can find ourselves forgetting about what it is that we really want. What We Want for our Life. After 3 years exploring and sharing my journey back to me I stumbled upon the recipe that worked to answer the "What Do You Want" question. This is a question we al...

I did not work out much until one day things started to change, starting with my routine, then my perspective, my goals and discipline.

Oversharing and the risks it brings and the way to change.

What happens when you learn that it is ok - normal even, to take up space and be loud? For a lot of women we do not grow up with that permission and when we obtain the world starts to become different.

I have given myself permission to travel, not for work and not with the kids, this time I am going Solo and "just cause." When I let go of waiting for others to travel with me I found a fresh perspective on moving forward in your own way and on your own schedule.

My friend posed a question to me: "Sometimes I wonder if I am squandering my best years, or should I say my best Last years. Should I be out living a more exciting life, taking advantage of this time, the little youth I have left, by having fun?" And then came my re-frame, in the form of this episode.

Most of us can name a few singers/ songwriters that we relate to and for me it is Sara Bareilles. I started rethinking of her and her music when my ex mentioned that now he listens and loves her music too. This was a curious thing to learn because I can't recall him taking much interest in what I loved and now he was. While he was telling me about his new appreciation for her music I started t...

How could this have happened is a common phrase I hear at work but when I started hearing it among friends, that is when I took notice. What is about other people's actions that make us think that we are not a part in how things happen? Of course, there are some situations where sadly, this is the case but for many situations, we see the signs, we stay too long and then we get hurt.

Work, work, work - it can be so consuming at times. It can change you. It can alter the way you sleep, think, relate and even take care of yourself. I found pressing deadlines changing me and although I used to be good with riding these all encompassing work waves, now I was not ok with what I had to give up.

After talking to different people I now wonder if how we show up in relationships is based with how we grow up and how many times we move to new schools.

What lies between Loyalty and Betrayal - Trust . But before you can trust other you have to be able to trust yourself or you will find yourself going along for the ride.

Trips throw us into different environments and for some of us we resist, bringing our old ways to a new landscape, and then for others - we adapt and leave changed.

A look back on my first solo trip and what I learned along the way.

For some of us it is easy to look out for ourselves and indulge and for others it comes with time and practice. So I gave myself permission to try and enjoy!

A few seasons back I started to shed being a people pleaser and now that that people pleasing side of me is becoming my past I thought it would be good to take another look at what it is to be a "people pleaser" and how to say goodbye to conditioned behavior.

We carry a heaviness or a lightness into conversations, into how we are perceived and experienced. What happens when you want to ditch the heaviness and experience what it is to have the lightness of being?

People worry so much about things, situations and what other people think - what if we did not need to? I worked to release all the ideas around people caring or not caring and accept that it is ok if they don't. Maybe it is even freeing.

They say people only change if they want to - so when I came to an impasse I chose to change. That kicked off many changes. Change does not need to be daunting, it can be done slowly. Through motivation, showing up for yourself, and taking small steps in the new direction you will find discipline to better yourself or choose better for yousrelf.